Don’t sweat the small stuff

 

We can get so caught up in our minor daily struggles that it’s easy to forget to take a step back and enjoy the things we’re lucky to have. Gratitude is a game-changer. It reframes everything; so put those gratitude glasses on – and keep them on!

 

Holding on to pain and frustration does more damage to you than to the other person. So learn to let things go of things you have no control over and  make more room for joy and happiness

 

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…is a fantastic book that tells you how to stop letting the little things in life drive you into frustration and worry. In thoughtful and insightful language the author Richard Carlson reveals ways to calm down, especially now with COVID19 and all it’s uncertainties.  In the midst of our frustrations, he gives us suggestions for ways we can make daily changes to ultimately lead a calmer, less stressed and more relaxed life. Here is the link for you to get a copy of the book https://amzn.to/33NvYXS

Tips on letting go of  the small stuff
*Breathe slowly. You can change your state with just a few, slow deep breaths. …
*Acknowledge your emotion. Give it a name: Frustration and deal with it . …
*Remind yourself of the smallness of the situation. The little things are exactly that. …
*Focus on solutions. What needs to happen now? …
*Find the good in the situation.

 

 

Tears of Happiness during the festive season

This has been quite an unusual year for a lot of us as we try to take one day at a time coping the best we can with the effect of COVID19. A lot of us have shed so many tears of sadness. Now with the festive season, it’s time for us to take in this season of hope and joy. Lets shed tears of happiness knowing that better days are coming. #KeepHopeAlive #KeepSmiling

 

A friend of mine explained to me that she was not in the mood to celebrate, as the business she has worked hard to develop for nearly 15 years is in the brink of her closing it as she has got no orders for her products and looking at her cashflow projection it seems all doom and gloom. She was in tears. I felt so bad as I did not know how to help her or what to say. She said it was ok that I could just sit down and listen to her vent out all her anger and frustration at the situation.

That night going home, I felt so bad for her, I could not even sleep as I tried to think of ways to help her. In the early hours of the next day I called her to see how she was doing. She was in a state as she had spent the night drinking herself to sleep. I was able to call one of her children who I know to go and check on her as she lived closed to her mum, but was not aware of how bad things where. My friend is now trying to take care of herself and getting help from her grown up children and coach to help her through this period.

Like many other self employed, I shed a tear as I saw the blank diary with not much paid work for a while. But I have decided to take December as month of taking stock of my businesses and to fill my days doing voluntary work and making time for my family. and friends, Doing voluntary work helps me a great deal as i get to help others and give them hope and a reason to smile during this festive period and beyond.

I will still dress in my Christmas outfit and go about spreading Christmas Cheer

Tips on how you too can shed tears of Happiness during this period and beyond,

  1. Know that this situation you are in will pass.

2. Focus on the things that you can do something about

3. If you can, volunteer your time to help others – can be a simple thing like sending cards of hope to your neighbours,

4. Do something each day to make you feel goo – I have created my own advent calendar so that each day I am doing something to make me and others feel good.

5. Join a safe online group where you can connect and network with others

6. Create a playlist of your favourite songs, and have a part just for you – woohoo! Now dance ance like nobody’s watching

7. Get in the festive move – put the Christmas Tree with lights on and make your home look festive

8. Wake up everyday and do the One Minute Smilence – this is about recalling happy thoughts whilst smiling for a minute

You can also order some of my festive goodies to bring smile to your face – Prices from £5 to £10 do complete the form below with your order.

Coping with boredom

The other day I was at the supermarket, and met a friend and as we got talking, she told me how bored she was and that she only came out to look around and buy things, she later confessed she did not need.

Boredom itself is neither bad nor good, only our choices about how to counter it make it so. To prevent boredom and keep it away, we need to find solutions at home that provide lasting meaning and challenge.

See periods of boredom as time to Pause and Reflect. Find your purpose in life – you have something that the world needs- what do you love doing? What could you do right now if you knew you would succeed?

It did make me think about boredom and how sometimes it can lead us to doing things which are not necessary. In the past, when I was bored, I would just eat junk food and spend time on the phone chatting away to friends for ages. I realise that I had to stop it as I then put on weight which made me feel bad and stressed.

Some of my tips to cope with boredom.

  1. Plan what you are going to do each day including time to just relax and chill.

2. Declutter – Over this covid19 period, I have actually cleared up all the rubbish in my shed and garden. It feels good as I can now spend quality time in the garden.

3. Make a to do list – I made a list of things I had been putting off, and each day I would do one of the tasks, and i enjoyed crossing my list each time I completed a task and this gave me a sense of achievement.

4. Volunteer – I decided to volunteer to help deliver lunches and being a friend to those in need in our local area. This I find very rewarding helping and making a difference.

5. New Hobby – I started bird watching, walking and DIY. I am really enjoying trying these new hobbies as they help me connect with others as well as given me a sense of purpose.

There’s no denying that the situation we face with  COVID19 is a challenging one  – maybe the most difficult that many of us will face, ever. But, finding ways to cope with boredom,  focusing on the positives and embracing simplicity of life  are ways   to make things that little bit easier.

The graveyard is full of people who would gladly exchange  places with us now, so that they can live their life again, so please make every moment of your life count, make the most of each day and as the motivational speaker Les Brown would say, “You have greatness within you” go now and unwrap it.

Slow down and Enjoy life

One thing #Covid19 has taught some of us is to #SlowdDown and take stock of our lives. “A dog has four feet, but it doesn’t try to walk down four roads! So slow down and establish a pace that’s sane and sustainable.” UCB Word for today.

I must say at the start of #COVID19 I was very stressed as I am usually a busy bee, combining running my business, working part time as an employee, looking after my sons, managing the home, taking part in various community events and spending time with my elderly parents. I felt frustrated that I was stuck at home with nothing to do.

 

By the second week, I started to ponder about life, and it then occurred to me that this period was also for me to slow down, and reflect on the things I was doing and why I was doing them.

 

I set up new priorities with the aim of firstly to take care of my health and enjoying the time I have with my family. I even joined a walking group and started walking 2 hours every saturday and at least 1 hour every other day during the week. I loved our walks as it connected me with nature, we discovered some amazing places locally and connected with may new friends.

So please take care of you and slow down. Your health is wealth. Your family needs you and someone out their needs your smile and encouragement. 

I use this guided meditation i found on youtube to help me pause and recharge – why not give it a try https://youtu.be/8Xdwr4cRTVA

 

 

Also do check out y facebook page and join any of my free 15 minutes sessions – Escape 2 Happiness Island

Take a quick visit to http://www.happinessisland.net

Take it easy, try not to be too stressed about life.

Thanks for stopping by. I hope you are ok. Take it easy, try not to be too stressed about what is going on right now.

 

Take time to pause and reflect on things. Find ways to adapt and adjust to life as it is. At the initial start of COVID19, I spent a few days in tears and feeling stressed as most of my work had been cancelled and I was so stressed not knowing how i was going to cope with less finance.

One day I decided to take time to reflect on things and started to look at things differently. I started to write down all the options I had, and as i did this for a few days, ideas started coming my way. A friend I had not seen for over 12 years, called me one day and offered me some consultancy work in her company for two days a month. I was so excited and grateful at the opportunity that I said yes there and then. This then opened the way to other opportunities. I also used the other days to develop a business idea I had as well as volunteering some hours to deliver lunches to those in our community who need help and support.

Remember  that If you really want to change your life for the better,  you have to  consciously believe that life does have its ups and downs and you have to ride the waves sometimes to get back to the beach.

Escape 2 Happiness Island sessions for your staff

Right now, we find ourselves in a situation where COVID-19 has disrupted businesses all over the world and most employees are now having to work remotely. This can lead to some individuals feeling isolated and not connected to their colleagues, which can have effect on their performance and wellbeing.

The aim of my 30 minute session is to help your team members to connect with each other in a fun way which can help boost morale, outlook and well bein.

Using our imagination and all our senses we go into happiness island to relieve stress and  feel good in 15- 30 minutes via zoom.

Benefits of the session

  1. Connect with each other in a fun way
  2. Relax and Unwind
  3. Relieve Stress
  4. Instant Feel Good
  5. Tips on maintain a positive attitude
  6. Fuel yourself with some feel good hormones
  7. Feel energised and positive

What to expect

The session is  fun packed and can include:

  1. Singing
  2. Dancing
  3. Laughter
  4. Visualisation
  5. Relaxing through meditation
  6. Smiling and Laughing

Before you join the session

1. Be open to have fun and feel good

2. Know its ok to be silly with like minded people

3. Have plain paper and a pen with you

4. On zoom you don’t need to put your video on, you can just use audio

Why not book your staff team or support group on this fun packed and positive experience in Happiness Island with your host Confident Queen Genny as seen on BGT spreading good vibes and positivity. Also nominated for Pride of Britain for her work with the Happiness Project Kent.

About Genny Jones AKA Confident Queen

Genny works to help people not to take themselves too seriously by having time for fun and laughter. Genny specialises in using laughter and humour to help people cope with everyday issues

Genny’s sessions are very practical and she shares these techniques which helped her regain her mojo, as well as those she learnt from others.

Genny Jones has been working in the accounting profession for 25 years in various roles. Over the years she has overcome a period of work burn out, depression and  low self esteem  to developing her unique happiness and wellbeing  sessions aimed at businesses to help employees manage their stress levels so that they can be more productive.

“In accounting there is the concept of the duality of transactions, which Genny applies in life. On one hand she has the serious professional head of an accountant, and on the other hand she  has created a  bubbly persona ‘Confident Queen’ with a mission to share joy and happiness, which she was able to do when she appeared on Britain’s Got Talent and wowed the audience and judges who gave her “Yeses”

Genny’s Awards and Nominations

Nominated for the ITV Meridian ‘Pride of Britain’ Award for the work she does helping people to feel happier. https://vimeo.com/75320740

Listed on Independent on Sunday List of top 100 Happy people in UK making a difference.

Finalist of the Happy Team Award at the National Happiness Awards

To book an introductory chat: – Email: info@gennyonestraining.com

5 Practical things you can do to get you smiling through #Covid19 and beyond

 

https://confidentqueengenny.com/2017/07/24/smileexercise-smiling-whilst-exercisin

https://confidentqueengenny.com/2016/01/31/try-the-one-mi

Record your Laughie – record yourself laughing

https://confidentqueengenny.com/2019/10/27/record-your-laughie-and-laugh-with-yourself/

Laughter is a universal sign of joy. Laughter is contagious and this study is the first to show that it can also be self-contagious. This enables us to use our own laughter to benefit our health and wellbeing. Laughing with the Laughie is a quick and easy exercise to add to your daily routine. (Freda)

Escape to Happiness Island to relieve stress using your imagination and all your senses

https://confidentqueengenny.com/2020/10/20/online-sessions-for-your-wellbeing-and-happiness/

Be grateful for every day you are alive-

How to never give up #KeepHopeAlive #NeverGiveUpDay

Today is never give up day. check out more about this day here https://www.daysoftheyear.com/days/never-give-up-day/

As you focus on achieving your goals, their will be times when you feel frustrated and fed up because you can’t see the results of your hard work; but I want to encourage you to stay focussed and be positive. 

Motivate yourself –Look for ways to motivate yourself that works for you. I get a lot of motivation from reading personal stories about individuals who never gave up despite the challenges and setbacks they face. I also set my daily intentions of things I will do that will move me close to my goals.

 

 

 

Take a step every day towards your goal. Show up every day and even when the mountain seems too steep to climb, just take a small and simple step. When you string a lot of small steps together, you cover a lot of ground. A year from now you’ll look back in amazement at how far you’ve come.

“The mark of a successful person is his or her ability to see problems as opportunities instead of obstacles. And the most important lessons take place not when you celebrate the good times but persevere during the bad ones. Indeed, that’s why the bad times make the good times so good!”UBB

Sunday Vibes with Confident Queen

Thanks for popping by.

With so many uncertainties these days, I have decided to start my sunday live show to help uplift and inspire us to plan to make the most of the coming week, no matter life unfolds.

It is a light hearted show, and I will have guests who will share their story and inspire us. I will share with you tips to cope with the week and how to plan your week so that you make the most of this precious gift of life. We will end the show on a high with singing and dancing.

It would be good if you can jot down your plans for the coming week and I will share mine with you too. Every sunday we can learn from our challenges and celebrate our successes no matter how small they are.

Pleas like my facebook page https://www.facebook.com/confidentqueen/ and put the time in your diary – this is UK time so you would need to adjust to your time zone. I am so looking forward to you joining me.

 

The “5 As” of responding to situation like Covid19 :

Acknowledge that Covid19  is real  and that it is having impact on yours and everyone’s life. Acknowledge that that you will have moments when you fall apart and feel that you don’t know how you can ever pick up and move forward again.

Accept  that your live has been changed  to some degree  in ways you did not  expect. Accept that there are certain thins which are beyond your control and you cannot do anything about them except to have a positive attitude and mindset.

Allow yourself to  take one day at a time as you adjust to the changes,  allow yourself time to feel fed up of being fed up, allow yourself to express the emotions you are experiencing at any given time. Allow yourself to seek help and not suffer in silence. Allow your self to have hope that things will get better and that this too shall pass away

Adapt to the changes .Most of us started this year making new year’s resolutions and a plan of things we want to achieve this year. Covid19 has forced us to stop, take stock of our lives and  rewrite our plan based on an uncertain future.   Though it can be challenging to adapt to this situation which is beyond our control, it is important that we don’t suffer in silence but to seek help, connect with other people so that we can share experiences and support each other.

Ask for help this can be from your family and friends or contacting the many organisations which are providing a lot of free online and telephone.

If you need support please email me genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

 

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