5 Tips to cope with negative people in your life

There are people in our lives who we love, but at times their constant negativity can cause us unnecessary stress and anxiety which is not good for our overall wellbeing and happiness.

Here are some of my tips on how to try to deal with this. Please feel free to share yours too.

  1. Accept that they are negative and that you cannot change their negativity, but can change the way you respond to them.
  2. The way people act has nothing to do with you.
  3. Limit the time you spend with them.
  4. Counteract their negativity with positivity.
  5. Before you go to visit a negative person set your intention to be positive and send positive emery to them before you meet them.

Being a Laughter Champion

One of the funniest things I have done this year happened on Sunday 24th April when I took part in the UK Laughter Championships. Their was a time in my life where for 5 years, I lost my joy and sense of happiness because of personal challenges I was going through. At times I felt like a bird trapped in a cage of low self esteem, sadness and depression. I am happy with the help and support of so many people and organisations I was able to set back and now use my experiences to help others.

I entered the competition as it is part of my mission of spreading good vibes and positivity around especially during these times with so much uncertainty, anxiety, stress and negativity around.

The first stage of the competition was to send my laugh for consideration. I was then excited to make it to the finals.

Below in the image of what we had to do.

The most challenging one for me was doing the silent laughter, as you were not allowed to make any sound. The minute I had to do this was so long, and at the end I just had to let the laugh out.

Here is the link to the event on facebook

https://www.facebook.com/thelaughterman/videos/3273531889548497

The other competitors were amazing and had very good laughs. I was surprised and excited and felt honoured that the judges selected me as the winning laugher. Now I look forward to representing UK in the world championships on 15 May 2022 via zoom.

You can find out more here about the World Laughing Championships

https://www.worldlaughingchampionship.com/

Grateful for the write up in my local on line magazine https://www.kentonline.co.uk/gravesend/news/laughing-accountant-set-for-world-stage-266269/?fbclid=IwAR0za4GSB6LDHdx-t8HjIUXNQKZuhOVOhS9v8gYK6nKRijH_dy42BrZ5n2c

Learn to relax and let it go.

One of the hardest things is learning to let go of a situation that is causing you stress but is beyond your control to change or do anything about.

For peace of mind, you have to learn to let go and accept it for what it is, though to start with it can be painful.

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I had a situation where I wanted certain people to just forgive each other and get on, but no matter what I said, it was like hitting a brick wall. This was hurting me as I love the two of them and found myself in the middle of things. After months of stress and trying to figure out a solution, I got fed up and decided to just get on with both on different levels and leave it up to them whether they wanted to get on or not. I feel so relieved and now have one less thing to stress about.

Here are some tips to help you too to learn to let go.

  1. Accept that there is nothing else you can do to change the situation.
  2. Express the pain and hurt you are feeling.
  3. Determine and decide to let it go.
  4. Trust that you will be ok as you adapt to things.
  5. Learn the lesson and move on.
  6. Visualise your self letting go and enjoy the feeling of freedom.
  7. Pray for divine intervention.
  8. Remember that health is wealth and don’t let things you cannot change steal your joy and happiness.

Coping with long term stress

We all experience temporary feelings of stress as  part of our daily life; but when  these feelings become long-lasting or chronic, they can have a severe impact on our health and wellbeing

Long term or Chronic stress can seem overwhelming, and at times you may feel unable to regain control over your life, hence it is important you don’t suffer in silence but seek professional medical guidance, advice and support from your doctor who could also refer you to specialist.

Some self-help techniques you can try includes include;-

  1. Finding what is causing your stress and finding ways to deal with them yourself or seek professional advise
  2. Developing a tool box of tips and techniques  you can use
  3. Sharing how you are feeling to others you trust
  4. Practising breathing, relaxation, laughter yoga,  and many other  techniques.

If the self help techniques are not working for you than you should seek professional medical advice from your doctor or specialist in this area.

Check out the NHS sitehttps://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/feelings-and-symptoms/stress/

You will be ok, You will feel better, just don’t suffer in silence.

Using mantras to help reduce stress

Stress is part of life and though we cannot avoid them, we can have a set of techniques we can use. One way to reduce stress is the use of mantras to help ease some of the tension and quiet the mind..
As we can use exercise to train our bodies, meditation and mantras can be used to train our minds .and help reduce stress. I have a number of mantras I use on a regular basis which help me especially moments when I feel stressed or overwhelmed. I also record them so I can listen to them.


According to Dr. Herbert Benson, president and founder of the Mind/Body Medical Institute at Harvard Medical School, those who chanted mantras experienced psychological changes. These changes ranged from reduced heart rate, lower stress levels, and slower metabolism. Benson also documented that repeating mantras can benefit the immune system and relieve insomnia, leading to reduced doctor visit.

Mantras can help us reduce stress by repeating them and by combining them with sound, breathing, and rhythm. This then evokes a relaxing quality and allows for your mind to stop wandering and for you to just be still.

Write down some mantras put them everywhere. At the office, at your desk, at home. Put it anywhere so you can glance over at it when you get overwhelmed. You could also record and listen to them when needed.

Thanks very much for taking time to read this, and I hope you found it useful,

Tips for Stress Awareness Month #StressMangementTips #StressAwarnessMonth

Stress is linked to physical, mental, and emotional health. During Stress Awareness Month we are encouraged to learn about what triggers our stress and how we can best manage it using various tips and tools. I will be writing weekly blogs every Monday in April sharing things I have done to help me cope and manage stress based on my experience and from other individuals and organisations.

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I have also written a self help book Crown of Smiles, which is a very practical. I share my journey from the time when I became divorced and a single parent of two boys, At about the same time my house was going to be repossessed, I had a lot of debt and was made redundant from my job.

The struggle was real and though at times I felt like giving up my faith kept me going and when I saw the smiles on my children’s faces it gave me hope and motivated me to seek help to cope with the sadness, depression and stressful moments. The book’s title is all about putting down my crown of sadness and replace it for the Crown of Smiles with hope, faith and gratitude that life will work out maybe not as how I had hoped, but hw it was meant to be.

According to the Mental Health Foundation in the United Kingdom, it seems that 74% of UK adults have had a moment where they’ve felt so stressed that they’ve been too overwhelmed or unable to cope with the situation. Not only that, but it has been estimated that between 75% and 90% of all visits to doctors are related to complaints or concerns whose root cause is stress.

So if we can make time to understand what cause us stress we can find ways to mange it, as we really cannot avoid stress. It is part of life.

Photo by Jill Wellington on Pexels.com

if you need further help please message me and book free initial consultation,

Tips if you are feeling a bit overwhelmed

Sometimes we can go through life smoothly with nothing happening and .other times it can seem that everything is happening all at once. We feel overwhelmed or stressed and this is ok as it is part of life, and perhaps its an opportunity for us to pause, reflect and set new priorities and boundaries.

The last few days I have been feeling overwhelmed and just felt like just running away from it all and go to a remote village where I can just chill, with no worries and just connect with nature.

I realise this feeling was mostly due to me taking on more work than I can cope with, and also letting other people’s issues drain me, and also not sticking to my boundaries. I decided to take time out for a few days to just pause, reflect and recharge. This is also what prompted me to write this blog,

Here are some of my tips which I hope will help you too when you feel a bit overwhelmed or stress.

How to maintain your happier lifestyle

Right now you might know me as the fun bubbly and colourful person, but their was a time in my life after my divorce in 2003, when I hit an all time low and for 5 years was locked in a period of sadness and depression. Sometimes I felt I was stuck in in deep hole with no way out. I lived my life on automatic pilot. To the outside world, friends and family, I looked and acted ok, but each time I went home, when the children slept, I would just sit down and cry. In the midst of it al, hearing the laughter of my children when they where playing gave me hope to carry on and be the best mother I could.
As time went on. I was slowly able to pluck up the courage to reach out and to get help from various individuals who had gone through similar challenges I was going through as well as various organisation’s.


I started to develop my daily routines to help me have the courage to face each day. I decided to make happiness a life style choice as I got to realise that I was responsible for my own happiness. I have been able to use my experiences and information from courses, and help I received to help others to also develop daily happiness routines. It’s always a pleasure to get feedback weeks later to see the progress people are making.

Being happy is a lifestyle choice, so no matter what each day unfolds, make time to do something that makes you and someone else feel good. Remember that you are the captain of your own life. No one can give you happiness. It doesn’t come from money. It doesn’t come from fame. It comes from within you, not from your outside circumstances. You don’t have to have a “perfect” life to be happy. The really great news is that you don’t have to be young or old or wealthy or successful in order to be happy. Instead, you can develop a mindset of happiness.

To develop happiness as a lifestyle. I have daily routines which help me to start and finish my day with positivity and gratitude for being alive.

My Morning Routine to fuel my day

My morning routine which fuels my day, I tend to wake up a 6am every day as I am a morning person, and spend up to 90 minutes each morning. I have done this for so many years that it has become a habit. You need to create a routine that will fit your life.

Afternoon routine for me to Pause, Recharge and Refresh

Their was a time when i used to work flat out without a break and as time went on i became burnt out and not very productive. I have learnt to take at least 45 minutes from my busy work schedule to just pause, reflect and recharge. It has now become part of my working week, and I always feel better for it. Even when I do visit clients on their premises, I always schedule my day to include breaks, though most times they seem to eat their lunch at their desk whilst also working. I do try and encourage them to have a break away from their desks.

My evening routine to unwind and relax

After a busy day, it is good to just take time to unwind and relax as this will help you have a good nights sleep.

We are each responsible for our own happiness. This means not blaming others for your unhappiness. It means figuring out ways in which you can be happy despite others’ (negative) behaviours and despite the external circumstances which are beyond your control

Tips to help you maintain your lifestyle of happiness

If you would like help to develop your own happier life, do contact me for initial free consultation via zoom or telephone.

Celebrate International week of happiness at work #Happinessatwork

The International Week of Happiness at Work is a Dutch initiative. Maartje Wolff and Fennande van der Meulen came up with the idea at the end of 2017 and launched the first International Week of Happiness at Work in 2018, together with Martin Leroy from Argentina. Why? Because they believe that Happiness at Work is important. When employees are happy at work, they are better parents, better friends, and better community members. The world will be a better place if more people are happy at work. Maartje and Fennande wrote the Happiness at Work Manifesto, that reflects their beliefs on the topic. Please check this website for more information.  https://internationalweekofhappinessatwork.com/

 

As a happiness and wellbeing consultant, I am very excited to be involved in this week of celebrations and below are 7 things you could try as an individual as well as a team. You can also book me to do my 5 minutes fun lunch break sessions or Escape 2 Happiness Island to relieve stress sessions which are fun packed leaving you with good vibes and positivity.

Things you can do during the week

  1. Happiness lunch break – it is very important that you take time from your desk to refresh yourself. Studies show that taking a lunch break allows your mind to rest, recharge and refocus, which can directly improve your productivity for the rest of the day. Taking time out during the day – even if you choose to have multiple, short breaks – this gives your brain a chance to recuperate.
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2. One Minute Smilence – This is where you think happy thoughts whilst smiling for a minute

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3. Gratitude – Write down all the positive things having a job allows you to do.

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4. Thankful –  Write down all the things that your are thankful for in your life

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5. Escape to Happiness Island – Why not get me to deliver this fun session for your company where we virtually or in person visit happiness island using our imagination as well as singing, dancing and laughter yoga. You can also book to attend my lunch time free event via zoom

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6.Positive Affirmations – Get different coloured paper and write some positive affirmations which you can put in a small box, and refer to them at regular times to motivate and inspire you

Affirmations When you are at work

 

7. Have fun and book me Confident Queen to bring some good vibes to your office¬with my popular Happiness Lunch Hour at work.  If I can make Simon Cowell on BGT smile, then I am sure I can do the same with your team! You can also join me on this free zoom lunch time event.

 

8. Laughter yoga and African dance workout sessions in your workplace or via zoom

Sign the Happiness at work manifesto here – https://internationalweekofhappinessatwork.com/manifesto/

You can actually start the week by learning my boomboom song and dance – or make up your own dance routine

Create your happy place

 

Creating your happy place

 I have created a happy space in my home, where  I can just go, relax, meditate and use my imagination and all my senses to achieve inner peace and happiness away from the business of every day life.  I am grateful I have space in our home to do this.   Further along this blog I share other ideas of  creating your happy space if you don’t  have the space in your home.

My Happy place at at home I have created my own happy space by getting the backdrop of a beach scene. I also bought a folding sofa bed which I can also use as a chair. I then lie on my chair, with some lovely relaxing music playing  in the background, and I imagine myself having a wonderful time in my own happy island.

 

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My Happy Outdoor Place

Our Local Promenade –  When I go to our local promenade, I feel very relaxed as I can sit down, watch the boats go by and watch the swans and listen to the sound of the waves.  I spend time imagine myself on a boat going on a cruise to different parts of the world where I meet new people, have new experiences and just have fun. I can also feed the swans, and make new friends as most times people will just come and sit next to me and start to chat.

I love spending time meditating by focusing on the waterfall and taking in the sounds it makes, as this helps to clear my mind.

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Over to you now – Where is your place?

Remember it’s a place you can go to chill out, change your environment and zap up some energy, enthusiasm and passion for life.

Your happy place can be:-

  1. A small area in your bedroom
  2. In your garden
  3. In your car
  4. In your imagination where you just visualise being in your own happy Island – check my blog http://wp.me/p1aWbA-iz

 

 Here is another blog to read on the same topic http://positiveatmosphere.com/profiles/blogs/create-your-happy-place

Wishing you  a  peaceful day – May the smile be with you and do let me know how you get on. You can even post picture of your place . 

Join me every monday morning on my facebook page for a dose of laughter, fun and tips to fuel your day.

 

 

 

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