How to live wisely and well #wordfortoday

This morning, I was doing my usual early morning inspirational reading, and I am sharing the article here as it did get me to think about my life. UCB word for today 17/10/2022


An elderly lady says, ‘One benefit of living so long is sharing what I’ve learned. So make my day by letting me share three secrets that can make your life better.’ Then she offers us some great counsel:


1) ‘Time is precious; don’t waste it. After my husband died, I was staying with friends. One evening they started arguing and eventually stopped speaking to one another. Now, I know arguments happen; my husband and I had several doozies. But at that moment, I understood as never before that the time we have together is precious. Don’t waste it bickering about things that won’t matter when your loved one is gone. Do everything you can to live in harmony and show your love. Why? Because no matter how long you have together, it’s never enough.


2) You’re making memories; make them good ones. Looking back, I thank God for so many unforgettable moments. The day my husband died we kissed (as we always did when we parted), at noon. By five-thirty that evening, he was dead. I’ve always been glad about that final kiss. So create memories – not regrets!

3) It’s not what happens, but how you respond that counts. Every day holds new challenges that will test your love and resolve. You have the power through Christ to make each test an occasion for growth. Life is full of seemingly unpleasant events. Try to handle them in such a way that when you’re old, you will be able to look back and say, “I thank you, God, for that experience; it helped me grow.”’ And that’s how to live wisely and well!


Jeremiah 24-26, 1 Timothy 5

Take it one day at a time

It’s good to have long term goals and plans, but for everyday living, you just have to focus on the now and making the most of things. If you are worried about the mountain in the distance, you might trip over the molehill right in front of you.. Small daily happenings make life spectacular…. start enjoying the small things in life.

What are your priorities at this stage of your life?

As for me below are my main priorities and I try to make sure that I schedule my day with this in mind

  1. Taking good care of myself  sprit, body, mind and soul
  2. Spending  quality time with my family and friends
  3. Putting my house in order
  4. Focussing my business on the things that I enjoy doing
  5. Inspiring the next generation
  6. Making a difference in my local community
  7. Trying new hobbies and experiences
  8. Spending time on my own
  9. Travel and explore different places

I find that by making sure that I include the things that are important to me, I feel more fulfilled and happier. I have also been able to schedule my day so I work smarter and not harder. I also have clear boundaries about my time for work and time for my other priorities of life.

Coping with long term stress

We all experience temporary feelings of stress as  part of our daily life; but when  these feelings become long-lasting or chronic, they can have a severe impact on our health and wellbeing

Long term or Chronic stress can seem overwhelming, and at times you may feel unable to regain control over your life, hence it is important you don’t suffer in silence but seek professional medical guidance, advice and support from your doctor who could also refer you to specialist.

Some self-help techniques you can try includes include;-

  1. Finding what is causing your stress and finding ways to deal with them yourself or seek professional advise
  2. Developing a tool box of tips and techniques  you can use
  3. Sharing how you are feeling to others you trust
  4. Practising breathing, relaxation, laughter yoga,  and many other  techniques.

If the self help techniques are not working for you than you should seek professional medical advice from your doctor or specialist in this area.

Check out the NHS sitehttps://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/feelings-and-symptoms/stress/

You will be ok, You will feel better, just don’t suffer in silence.

Try meditation to help reduce stress

I must say initially, I was a bit uncomfortable with mediation, as I thought its was just weird. As I started to do some research, I was amazed at the different forms of meditation. I tried a couple before selecting a few techniques which I use.

I must say, now find meditation helps me to cast aside my stress and worries as I get into a deep state of relaxation which helps my mind to be calm and help to reduce stress. There are different forms of meditation which you can try. Just google simple meditation and then browse trough and try a few so you can find the one which suits you.


Meditation has been scientifically proven to help alleviate stress after just eight weeks of regular practice. Try this 10 minutes relation from headspace https://www.headspace.com/meditation/10-minute-meditation


Meditation can be used as a quick-fix stress reliever to help you reverse your body’s stress response and get you into a relaxed sate. If you are new to the idea of meditation keep practising and you will for sure enjoy the benefits as I am.

Do share you experiences here with me. Rember, keep clam and don’t let stress steal you joy and happiness.

Using mantras to help reduce stress

Stress is part of life and though we cannot avoid them, we can have a set of techniques we can use. One way to reduce stress is the use of mantras to help ease some of the tension and quiet the mind..
As we can use exercise to train our bodies, meditation and mantras can be used to train our minds .and help reduce stress. I have a number of mantras I use on a regular basis which help me especially moments when I feel stressed or overwhelmed. I also record them so I can listen to them.


According to Dr. Herbert Benson, president and founder of the Mind/Body Medical Institute at Harvard Medical School, those who chanted mantras experienced psychological changes. These changes ranged from reduced heart rate, lower stress levels, and slower metabolism. Benson also documented that repeating mantras can benefit the immune system and relieve insomnia, leading to reduced doctor visit.

Mantras can help us reduce stress by repeating them and by combining them with sound, breathing, and rhythm. This then evokes a relaxing quality and allows for your mind to stop wandering and for you to just be still.

Write down some mantras put them everywhere. At the office, at your desk, at home. Put it anywhere so you can glance over at it when you get overwhelmed. You could also record and listen to them when needed.

Thanks very much for taking time to read this, and I hope you found it useful,

Tips for Stress Awareness Month #StressMangementTips #StressAwarnessMonth

Stress is linked to physical, mental, and emotional health. During Stress Awareness Month we are encouraged to learn about what triggers our stress and how we can best manage it using various tips and tools. I will be writing weekly blogs every Monday in April sharing things I have done to help me cope and manage stress based on my experience and from other individuals and organisations.

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I have also written a self help book Crown of Smiles, which is a very practical. I share my journey from the time when I became divorced and a single parent of two boys, At about the same time my house was going to be repossessed, I had a lot of debt and was made redundant from my job.

The struggle was real and though at times I felt like giving up my faith kept me going and when I saw the smiles on my children’s faces it gave me hope and motivated me to seek help to cope with the sadness, depression and stressful moments. The book’s title is all about putting down my crown of sadness and replace it for the Crown of Smiles with hope, faith and gratitude that life will work out maybe not as how I had hoped, but hw it was meant to be.

According to the Mental Health Foundation in the United Kingdom, it seems that 74% of UK adults have had a moment where they’ve felt so stressed that they’ve been too overwhelmed or unable to cope with the situation. Not only that, but it has been estimated that between 75% and 90% of all visits to doctors are related to complaints or concerns whose root cause is stress.

So if we can make time to understand what cause us stress we can find ways to mange it, as we really cannot avoid stress. It is part of life.

Photo by Jill Wellington on Pexels.com

if you need further help please message me and book free initial consultation,

Escape 2 Happiness Island during #Carersweek

Carers Week is an annual campaign to raise awareness of caring, highlight the challenges unpaid carers face and recognise the contribution they make to families and communities throughout the UK. It also helps people who don’t think of themselves as having caring responsibilities to identify as carers and access much-needed support – Read more here https://www.carersweek.org/about-carers-week/

For carers week, I am running my fun session – Escape 2 Happiness Island to feel good and relieve stress with like minded people. Using our imagination and all our senses we visit happiness island via zoom, where in 15- 30 minutes we enjoy ourselves with a selection of activities. Why not book a taster 15-30 minutes session for your group

Escape to Happiness Island is a practitioner-led wellbeing session lasting anything between 15 minutes and an hour, which is transforming the lives and outlooks of people.

The pure joy of these sessions is that they adapt to needs of the participants – each session is tailored live to the audience.

People leave these sessions ready to take on the world, filled with a new-found sense of lightness, a glow of happiness inside them that stays with them in their personal time and in their working life.

To sustain the positivity and benefits of the sessions, Genny Jones, discoverer and caretaker of Happiness Island, has developed a simple booklet, which every participant can take home and use as a passport back to the island!

To find out more about availability do email me and start encouraging everyone to start packing for a trip to Happiness Island today!

Benefits of the session

  1. Connect with each other in a fun way
  2. Relax and Unwind
  3. Relieve Stress
  4. Instant Feel Good
  5. Tips on maintain a positive attitude
  6. Fuel yourself with some feel good hormones
  7. Feel energised and positive

What to expect

The session is  fun packed and can include:

  1. Singing
  2. Dancing
  3. Laughter yoga
  4. Visualisation
  5. Relaxing through meditation
  6. Tips to help you sustain your daily dose of happiness

Before you join the session

1. Be open to have fun and feel good

2. Know its ok to be silly with like minded people

3. Come dressed for fun in something colourful or even fancy dress

4. On zoom you don’t need to put your video on, you can just use audio

BOOK YOUR SESSION DURING THIS CAER’S WEEK NOW.

You can also book directly here – https://bit.ly/31WDcHU

About Genny Jones AKA Confident Queen

Genny is herself part time carer to her parents and she understands the need for self care and making time for fun with others. Genny has over the years delivered her sessions for a number of organisations who run support groups as well as for individuals in a group setting.

Genny’s Awards and Nominations

Nominated for the ITV Meridian ‘Pride of Britain’ Award for the work she does helping people to feel happier. https://vimeo.com/75320740

Listed on Independent on Sunday List of top 100 Happy people in UK making a difference.

Finalist of the Happy Team Award at the National Happiness Awards

To book an introductory chat: – Email: relax@happinessIsland.net

Create your happy space to chill, reflect and recharge.

 

Creating your happy place

 I have created a happy space in my home, where  I can just go, relax, meditate and use my imagination and all my senses to achieve inner peace and happiness away from the business of every day life.  I am grateful I have space in our home to do this.   Further along this blog I share other ideas of  creating your happy space if you don’t  have the space in your home.

My Happy space at at home

I have created my own happy space by getting the backdrop of a beach scene. I also bought a folding sofa bed which I can also use as a chair. I then lie on my chair, with some lovely relaxing music playing  in the background, and I imagine myself having a wonderful time in my own happy island.

 

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My Happy Outdoor Place

Our Local Promenade –  When I go to our local promenade, I feel very relaxed as I can sit down, watch the boats go by and watch the swans and listen to the sound of the waves.  I spend time imagine myself on a boat going on a cruise to different parts of the world where I meet new people, have new experiences and just have fun. I can also feed the swans, and make new friends as most times people will just come and sit next to me and start to chat.

I love spending time meditating by focusing on the waterfall and taking in the sounds it makes, as this helps to clear my mind.

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Over to you now – Where is your space or place?

Remember it’s a place you can go to chill out, change your environment and zap up some energy, enthusiasm and passion for life.

Your happy place can be:-

  1. A small area in your bedroom
  2. In your garden
  3. In your car
  4. In your imagination –  you just visualise being in your own happy Island – check my blog http://wp.me/p1aWbA-iz

 

 

 Here is another blog to read on the same topic http://positiveatmosphere.com/profiles/blogs/create-your-happy-place

Wishing you  a  peaceful day – May the smile be with you and do let me know how you get on. You can even post picture of your place . 

 

 

How to be a Happiness Spreader.

 

Why I became a happiness spreader

Their was a time in my life when i lost my zeal for life as a result of my divorce and at about the same time I was made redundant, I had so much debts and was finding it  hard to cope as a single parent. Even though I had friends and  families who could have helped me, I felt very sad and embarrassed. It took me time to sum up the courage to ask for help and when I did, it was the beginning of a beautiful journey.

 

I decided in 2009 to really focus on helping myself and others to be happier. As a happiness spreader  I want to help give hope and encouragement to others in a world which at times can be full of so much negativity. I am on a mission to recruit as many happiness spreaders as I can.

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Who can be a happiness spreader – Anyone can be a happiness spreader so long as you have a passion for helping others to feel good and have a reason to smile.

 

How you can be a happiness spreader –  Just complete the form at the end of this blog and I will send you a welcome letter and add you to the list of Happiness Spreaders. This is all done on a voluntary basis and you are free to  spread happiness in anyway you feel. I will send you the Happiness Spreader digital badge which you can also proudly display.  

Do join our facebook page – https://www.facebook.com/HappinesSpreaders100

Some  of the things you can do as a Happiness Spreader

  • Use your social media platform to post happy stuff and use the #HappinessSpreader
  • Be a beacon of hope and encourage someone
  • Do Random Acts of Kindness
  • Volunteer 
  • Pray for people without them knowing
  • Have  some happy car bumper stickers to make people smile as they go by

These are some examples please shae with many the things that you will be doing nd also also connect with me on my social media platform.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/confidentqueen
Twitter: – http://www.twitter.com/#!confident_queen
Insta: https://www.instagram.com/confidentqueengenny/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ConfidentQueenGenny/about

Updates –  I have a lot of plans for us Happiness Spreaders which I will send via email.   I will also set up a zoom meeting where you can meet other happiness spreaders so that we can connect and share ideas.

Some photos of me spreading happiness -( because of COVID you may want to make use of social media and use the #HappinessSpreader in your postings)

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Let’s put some colour and fun into #BlueMonday

This  middle Monday  of January according to researchers is Blue Monday, the most depressing day of the year which is  based on some scientific calculations which takes into account things like the weather, the fact that we are recovering from christmas,  worrying about at our debts from overspending at christmas  and now with COVID19, Lockdown and tiers.

As a happiness spreader, I really don’t like this idea of linking depression or sadness to a particular day. I want to encourage you instead to try and make it a habit of having a reason to smile each day. Start with being grateful and thankful you are alive to see another day.

So, I invite you to join me on my Confident Queen Facebook page for my live 15 minutes of positivity and good vibes which includes, singing, dancing and laughter.

Please also print out and learn the words of the booboom song

 

 

Continue to put colour and positivity into your life by connecting with me here. Thank you.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/confidentqueen
Twitter: – http://www.twitter.com/#!confident_queen
Insta: https://www.instagram.com/confidentqueengenny/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ConfidentQueenGenny/about

 

You can also order a signed copy of book Crown of Smiles – Crown of Smiles Book

 

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