5 Tips to cope with negative people in your life

There are people in our lives who we love, but at times their constant negativity can cause us unnecessary stress and anxiety which is not good for our overall wellbeing and happiness.

Here are some of my tips on how to try to deal with this. Please feel free to share yours too.

  1. Accept that they are negative and that you cannot change their negativity, but can change the way you respond to them.
  2. The way people act has nothing to do with you.
  3. Limit the time you spend with them.
  4. Counteract their negativity with positivity.
  5. Before you go to visit a negative person set your intention to be positive and send positive emery to them before you meet them.

Being a Laughter Champion

One of the funniest things I have done this year happened on Sunday 24th April when I took part in the UK Laughter Championships. Their was a time in my life where for 5 years, I lost my joy and sense of happiness because of personal challenges I was going through. At times I felt like a bird trapped in a cage of low self esteem, sadness and depression. I am happy with the help and support of so many people and organisations I was able to set back and now use my experiences to help others.

I entered the competition as it is part of my mission of spreading good vibes and positivity around especially during these times with so much uncertainty, anxiety, stress and negativity around.

The first stage of the competition was to send my laugh for consideration. I was then excited to make it to the finals.

Below in the image of what we had to do.

The most challenging one for me was doing the silent laughter, as you were not allowed to make any sound. The minute I had to do this was so long, and at the end I just had to let the laugh out.

Here is the link to the event on facebook


The other competitors were amazing and had very good laughs. I was surprised and excited and felt honoured that the judges selected me as the winning laugher. Now I look forward to representing UK in the world championships on 15 May 2022 via zoom.

You can find out more here about the World Laughing Championships


Grateful for the write up in my local on line magazine https://www.kentonline.co.uk/gravesend/news/laughing-accountant-set-for-world-stage-266269/?fbclid=IwAR0za4GSB6LDHdx-t8HjIUXNQKZuhOVOhS9v8gYK6nKRijH_dy42BrZ5n2c

Learn to relax and let it go.

One of the hardest things is learning to let go of a situation that is causing you stress but is beyond your control to change or do anything about.

For peace of mind, you have to learn to let go and accept it for what it is, though to start with it can be painful.

I had a situation where I wanted certain people to just forgive each other and get on, but no matter what I said, it was like hitting a brick wall. This was hurting me as I love the two of them and found myself in the middle of things. After months of stress and trying to figure out a solution, I got fed up and decided to just get on with both on different levels and leave it up to them whether they wanted to get on or not. I feel so relieved and now have one less thing to stress about.

Here are some tips to help you too to learn to let go.

  1. Accept that there is nothing else you can do to change the situation.
  2. Express the pain and hurt you are feeling.
  3. Determine and decide to let it go.
  4. Trust that you will be ok as you adapt to things.
  5. Learn the lesson and move on.
  6. Visualise your self letting go and enjoy the feeling of freedom.
  7. Pray for divine intervention.
  8. Remember that health is wealth and don’t let things you cannot change steal your joy and happiness.

Maintain an attitude of gratitude to relieve stress

Are you feeling a bit stressed? One of the things I have learnt to do is to maintain an attitude of gratitude and to record on a regularly basis the things that I am grateful for in life.

Taking the time to feel gratitude can help improve our emotional well-being by helping us cope with stress. Early research suggests that a daily practice of gratitude could affect the body, too. For example, one study found that gratitude was linked to fewer signs of heart disease.

The other day I was so stressed as I was stuck in a traffic jam and had very important meeting to attend to. After a few minutes of being annoyed and realising the traffic was not going to be moving for a while because of an accident; I decided to phone the client to explain I was going to be late, she was so understanding and suggested we schedule.

I felt such a relief and thanked her. Sitting in my car, I started to just recall people and experiences in my life that I was grateful for. This made me take off my mind from the stress, and then I put on my music and started to sing and dance. Looking besides me I could see the next driver smiling at me and shaking his head LOL.

Set clear boundaries to help reduce stress

One of the main cause of my stress and anxiety in the past has been in setting clear boundaries and sticking to them, and even now I do find myself in situations when I say a bad YES to things I should have said a good NO to. I am getting their and continue to improve in this area of my life.

When we set out what we are comfortable with and what we are not, we protect ourselves from relationships that may cross certain boundaries; and we can be confident with what we can and will not allow into our life. This in turn can naturally help lower our stress level which is so important for our overall wellbeing and happiness.
4 tips to setting clear boundaries

  1. Be clear on what you will and will not tolerate
  2. Learn to say no without feeling guilty
  3. Know how far you can support someone to solve their problems without it causing you stress.
  4. Take time to pause and think before you commit to making key decisions.

Setting boundaries especially if you have not done takes time, but with practise it becomes easier and you will feel much better in your self. Do share with me any tips you may have in setting boundaries or if you need further help with this, do message me.

International Day of Awesomeness

Today is The Day of Awesomeness – a day that encourages us to celebrate the awesome that exists in each of us every day, and gives us an excuse to make our awesomeness shine. “’No one’s perfect, but everyone can be awesome.” – This is the tagline for the day.

History of the Day of Awesomeness
Kevin Lawver spearheaded the Day of Awesomeness in August of 2007, when it was brought to his attention that his overall awesomeness needed to be celebrated by one of his interns. In true Lawver style, he announced there needed to be an International Day of Awesomeness, and proceeded to post this sentiment to twitter. True to the style of those embedded with unbelievable awesomeness, it took on a life of its own and is now a celebration of epic proportions.

“Don’t be afraid to be awesome. Sometimes being weird and different is good. When you think you’re working hard, there is always someone else working harder, so always be yourself and know your stuff.” Jacqueline MacInnes Wood

National Get Over It Day

History of National Get Over It Day
This day was created out of the need that most people have to let go of hurt and pain, especially as it relates to a breakup of a romantic relationship. Jeff Goldblatt is the one who created this holiday, and it was inspired by a time when he was struggling to get over the hurt from an ex-girlfriend. He knew that he just needed to get over her, but it was super difficult.

With the motivation to help himself, and others he knew who were facing similar struggles, the day began and then took off. Strategically spaced between a holiday devoted to love (St. Valentine’s Day), and one all about fun and joking around (April Fool’s Day), this is the perfect time to try to find inner healing and move forward with all of the promising things that the future has to offer.

Most of us at some point can be guilty of holding on to many different things from the past that tend to hurt, annoy, confuse or anger us.

It can be difficult to get rid of negative feelings and, over time, the feelings may grow and turn into a problem as they create bitterness. That’s why it’s time to make life a little lighter and participate in a slightly newer holiday – National Get Over It Day! This is a day for doing exactly what it says: getting over what is holding us back.

Some way to get over it and find freedom from the past:

  1. Process Through the Struggles – One method many people have found helpful in trying to “get over it” is to write down all the things that are irritating, annoying or keeping them awake into the wee hours of the morning. When the list is finished, take some time to contemplate and examine each item on the list and ask if there might be creative ways to change it. Then, try to implement these changes into life by creating new habits and looking for new things to focus on. If these things absolutely cannot be changed, it’s time to let them go! Some people find it helpful to make a pledge to themselves to not spend any more energy and time on it. To help even more with the idea of letting items on the list go, the paper can be ripped up and thrown away (or even burned!) to represent the intent to move forward.
  2. Create a ‘Get Over It’ Playlist and sing and dance to the songs to uplift you
  3. Re-establish Other Relationships and set good boundaries
  4. Enjoy a “Me” Day – you are special so treat yourself with care
  5. Have a Clear Out of things you may have around that remind you of he hurt

International Women’s Day 202 #BreakTheBias

International Women’s Day happens each year on 8th March, and this year’s theme is #BreakTheBias. Below are extracts from the International Women’s Day website which will give you some idea about the meaning of #BreakTheBias and what we can each do to help.

Imagine a gender equal world.
A world free of bias, stereotypes, and discrimination.
A world that is diverse, equitable, and inclusive.
A world where difference is valued and celebrated.
Together we can forge women’s equality.
Collectively we can all #BreakTheBias.

What are some ways we can uncover our own biases?

  1. Start with yourself! Reflect on your own stereotypes, prejudices, and discrimination. …
  2. Educate yourself. A few great resources: …
  3. Practice mindfulness. Pay attention to the thoughts and associations you have about people with different characteristics and identities.
  1. Individually, we’re all responsible for our own thoughts and actions – all day, every day.
  2. We can break the bias in our communities.
  3. We can break the bias in our workplaces.
  4. We can break the bias in our schools, colleges and universities.
  5. Together, we can all break the bias – on International Women’s Day (IWD) and beyond.

Read more here – https://www.internationalwomensday.com/Theme

Tips if you are feeling a bit overwhelmed

Sometimes we can go through life smoothly with nothing happening and .other times it can seem that everything is happening all at once. We feel overwhelmed or stressed and this is ok as it is part of life, and perhaps its an opportunity for us to pause, reflect and set new priorities and boundaries.

The last few days I have been feeling overwhelmed and just felt like just running away from it all and go to a remote village where I can just chill, with no worries and just connect with nature.

I realise this feeling was mostly due to me taking on more work than I can cope with, and also letting other people’s issues drain me, and also not sticking to my boundaries. I decided to take time out for a few days to just pause, reflect and recharge. This is also what prompted me to write this blog,

Here are some of my tips which I hope will help you too when you feel a bit overwhelmed or stress.

Book your African Dance 4 Fitness

African Dance 4 Fitness Experience with me Genny Aka Confident Queen Kukuwa® Fitness Instructor
Come and experience the music and dance moves from various parts of Africa without your passport and get your happy juices flowing.

Some benefits of dancing

When we dance our brain releases endorphins, hormones which can trigger neurotransmitters that create a feeling of comfort, relaxation, fun and power. … Dancing is also a social activity that allows us connect with the others, share experiences and meet new people, which has a very positive effect on our Mental health and wellbeing.

About my African Dance 4 Fitness Experience sessions

My sessions are fun, combining laughter yoga and dancing to the beat of music from various parts of Africa. The sessions are suitable for all ages and abilities. It is also a great way of increasing the vibes at any event you are organising and can also be a fun activity at your team building events, as each team will learn a short routine which they can perform at the end of the session.

Benefits of attending my African Dance 4 Fitness session

  1. Its fun
  2. Freedom to express yourself
  3. Safe environment
  4. Connect with others and make new friends
  5. Boost your mood with a generous surge of endorphins.
  6. Improve both your muscular and cardiovascular health
  7. Improved Coordination and Motor Skills. .

Kukuwa® Dance Workout (KDW®)

I trained and gained my qualifications with Kukuwa® Dance Workout (KDW®) which is a unique style of fitness that is derived from cultural dance movements, from across the continent of Africa.

Kukuwa® Dance Workout classes are suitable to all ages and levels of fitness. The same classes are suitable for beginners, intermediate, and advanced levels of fitness. All the dance routines are such that one can choose to either walk through the whole dance class or keep up with the normal pace of the class. All dance movements are low impact, and both seniors and children can participate. Pregnant women can also take Kukuwa® Dance Workout from the start of their pregnancy to full term, depending, of course, on the approval from their doctors.

Kukuwa® Dance Workout should be done 3 times or more weekly in order to – increase flexibility, strength, coordination, build stamina, balance, burn off fat & calories and maintain fitness.

Benefits of Kukuwa® Dance Workout

• Improvement of cardiovascular endurance and respiratory systems

• Improvement of the efficiency of body performance

• Improvement in muscle flexibility and cardiac efficiency

• Increase in stroke volume – blood that is pumped with each heartbeat

• Lowered heart rate

• Improvement in muscular endurance and muscular strength

• Improvement in breathing capacity

• Increased capacity of respiratory ventilation

• Improved capacity for dissipating metabolically produced heat

The Long-Term Benefits of Kukuwa® Dance Workout

• Increase in lean body mass and muscle mass

• Decrease in body fat

• Positive, visible changes in body composition

About our Classes::

Open all fitness and dance levels.

What to wear

Comfortable clothing in which you can easily move

Bare foot, Jazz shoes, jazz sneakers, indoor sneakers, or thin socks.

Other things you need:-

Water and Small towel  

Complete the form below to enquire how we can run sessions customised to suit your needs.

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