Honoured to be nominated as role model

I am very honoured to be considered a role model.   I just try to help people to be the best version of themselves based on my own personal life experiences and the people who have been my own role models and inspiration.  I am also grateful to the role models and mentors who continue to support my children and I.

The National Diversity Awards –These awards are for people who inspire other individuals through their work, through their commitment to helping others, through their infectious personalities and through adversity.  https://nationaldiversityawards.co.uk/about-us/

Positive Role Model Award

The importance of having a role model can never be underestimated; role models help us to be driven, to focus, to achieve goals and strive to gain success. The positive role model award recognises an individual within the community who shows selflessness, drives change and works tirelessly to inspire others.

I volunteer through Inspiring the Futures  and Schools Pastor programme  where I inspire, encourage and support children and young people in schools to be the best version of themselves.


My story

I am  a single mother of two teenage boys. I run my businesses as an accountancy trainer and a happiness and wellbeing coach.

.In 2003 my Self Esteem and Confidence was knocked down to an all time low when I became divorced, my home was due to be repossessed, I had mountain of debts, had two toddlers to look after and three months later I was made redundant from my work! Their have been times when I have felt like giving up.  To the outside world I would appear happy but behind closed doors it was another story of  sadness anxiety and depression as I was too embarrassed to ask for help! For years i could not look in the mirror i felt ugly and i let the negative words and comments of people drag me down.


Year’s on, my life has been transformed as I managed to get help from various organisations and opened up to real friends and family members who helped me along the way.  I created my persona Confident Queen with a mission to help as many people as I can, to develop the confidence to find solutions to whatever is holding them back.  I appeared on Britain’s Got Talent in 2012 dressed up as Confident Queen and was able to wow the audience and judges with my feel good song which is available for download and  used by many to uplift their spirits.


I set up these community projects using my own resources and to make a difference to others – Confidence Children Holiday Club, Happiness Project Kent and the Single Parent support group with the help of Gingerbread the Single Parent Charity. http://www.confidentchildren.wordpress.com



I wrote my self help book Crown of Smiles which has tips on things people can do on a regular basis to help sustain their confidence level.


I trained to be a laughter YOGA leader with United Minds and have since been delivering laughter and wellbeing sessions to a number of organisations as well as setting up 3 laughter clubs for people to come share experience and do fun stuff to make them feel good leave in a positive mood.  I have also created other products and services to help individuals to develop inner peace, contentment and happiness.


Maybe it’s time to walk away from a bad relationship

When we get into a relationship, we don’t expect it to end, for some of us who waited a long time for Mr  or Miss Right to come along, we get all excited and think, wow finally I have found my prince charming.

Personally I can confess that the signs where their from the onset that the relationship would not last, but because I waited to long for Mr right and I felt my biological clock was ticking, I was happy and excited to meet someone and get married, I must say I also did fall in love as we met in quite an unexpected way.

Their comes a time when you will just know it’s time to move on and walk away.

The journey from then on is not going to be easy, but believe me with time, you will heal and be ready to love again or just carry on being single and enjoy your life with family and friends

I hope you find this useful and do email me if you need free support by email and skype – you don’t have to hurt alone. I have been their and know it’s not easy. Smile and know you are loved.

Enjoy being single and celebrate today – Singles Awareness Day

When I was much younger, I was always worried during the times I found myself  being single, and used to be upset on valentines day if I didn’t get a card. I remember when I was in college being envious of friends who had cards and gifts which they brought in to  “show off” and then I had to listen to their plans for a romantic evening. Worst time for me was  in the evening being home alone with a bottle of wine and box of chocolates which i treated my self to, and then crying to sleep in the hope that at least I could meet my tall dark handsome stranger in my dreams. (LOL it never happened!)

Now I am older and wiser, and after my divorce, I chose to be single as I really wanted to spend time bringing up my children. and give myself time to cope with all the hurts and pain .  14 years on, my children are older, now it’s about taking care of me and enjoying the freedom to be me and not having to put so much time bringing up my children as they are older and independent.

Contrary to popular misconceptions, Singles Awareness Day is not about self-pity but rather a chance to announce to the world that you are single and happy to be so.


Originally, most singles referred to February 14 as Single’s Awareness Day (acronym: SAD) until it they realized that that was just depressing. Choosing the next day allowed single people a chance to turn this into a celebration rather than a festival of self-pity. This is the day that all of us  single people can proudly stand up and show that it is okay to be single. Take that, cupid!

There is no reason to be miserable that you are independent and unattached; on the contrary, there are many more people in relationships  who rather wish they were in your shoes, with nobody to answer to but themselves. So if you are single try not to stress, instead take time to work on yourself and let love find you.

Whether it’s because of an amicable split, a difficult divorce, or loss – reclaiming your life as a single person can be a daunting experience. Remember, the more excited you are by life, the more attractive you will be. There’s more to life than a romantic relationship – plenty of people are very happy being single when they’re surrounded by friends, family, pets and have lots of things to do!’

While some people embrace being single, there are others who feel incredibly down about their single status. They may feel that no one wants them or that they are never going to be in a relationship. If this is you, I want you to know that you are unique, special and valuable.  Don’t rush things, be patient and believe that love will find it’s way in it’s own special  way.

Read more about this day here https://www.daysoftheyear.com/days/singles-awareness-day/

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