Ditch your new year’s resolution

Sometimes we start the year with a new year’s resolution filled with stuff which at the time of writing seems exciting and attainable, but half way through January we realise nothing has really changed. Ditch those New Year’s Resolution and instead spend some time re-evaluating your life as a whole, and start finding real and meaningful reasons to change, not just because it’s a New Year and that magically inspires you with Will and determination you didn’t have the year before.

We have to set our indentation to  start living our lives the best we can,   being satisfied with who we are, and if we really aren’t genuinely satisfied with life as it is, we need to have a reason to change, and not because a new calendar has flipped over! So ditch the resolution, set realistic goals and start taking action each day that will help you achieve those goals.

Setting an Action Plan to lose weight and be healthier

Now that you have ditched the new years resolution, now its time to create an action plan  as it will force you to think about what you need to do to  achieve your goals and then to take  action.

Step 1 – Write down one goal you want to achieve

For example  main goal – to lose 281bs  starting 1st February  and finishing on 30th April 2021  so that I can be healthier and fitter.

 Step 2  – Create a vison board

Create a vison board of the new you looking fitter and heathier. Your vision board can include images, words, and positive affirmations. Once you have created your Vision board, make sure you put it somewhere you can see it everyday and spend a few minutes imaging you have achieved your goal every single day.

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Step 3 –  Create an action plan based on your vison board – here is an example

Main goal –  lose 281bs by 30th April 2021

Actions  I am going to take lose 281bs

Smalls steps – I am going to lose 7 lbs each month by:

  • Exercising at home 3 times a week using videos
  • Go out for a walk 30 minutes twice a week
  • Cooking and eat healthier meals each day
  • Drinking 1 litter of water in the morning, afternoon, and evening
  • Visualising myself being slimer, fitter and healthier each day
  • Affirming that I am enjoying my daily exercise and healthy eating which is making me energised, fitter and healthier.
  • Celebrating with a happy dance and saying woohoo as I achieve my goals
  • Sign up with Gingerbread FitnFity healthy challenge starting in February

Some Affirmations you could say each day:

– I enjoy walking  for 45 minutes every day as I discover new places and meet interesting people

– I enjoy eating healthy foods and do have the occasional treats which makes me feel good as I see the results

– I enjoy drinking  2 litres of water each day as it refreshes me and fills me with so much energy

 

Do contact me if you need help with this- genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

Create your happy place

 

Creating your happy place

Right now, you may like me, you may feel a bit overwhelmed at times with all the  different stories and negative news  around and the uncertainties of life. It is during these times that we need to create our won happy place in our homes and using our imagination and all our senses we can spend time their to pause, unwind, relax and take in those feel good hormones.

I have created my own happy space my getting the backdrop of a beach scene, and I also put one of those sofas that can also be a bed. I then lie on my chair, with some lovely relaxing music in the background, as I listen and imagine myself having a wonderful time in the Island.

My Happy Space at at home

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My Happy Outdoor place

Our Local Promenade –  When I go to our local promenade, I feel very relaxed as I can sit down, watch the boats go by and as I watch the river,  I spend time imagine myself on a boat going on a cruise to different parts of the world where I meet new people, have new experiences and just have fun. I can also feed the ducks, and make new friends as most times people will just come and sit next to me and start to chat.

I love spending time meditating by focusing on the waterfall and taking in the sounds it makes, as this helps to clear my mind,

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Over to you now – Where is your place?

Remember its a place you can go to chill out, change your environment and zap up some energy, enthusiasm and passion for life.

Your happy place can be:-

  1. A small area in your bedroom
  2. In your garden
  3. In your car
  4. In your imagination where you just visualise being in your own happy Island – check my blog http://wp.me/p1aWbA-iz

 

 Here is another blog to read on the same topic http://positiveatmosphere.com/profiles/blogs/create-your-happy-place

Wishing you  a  peaceful day – May the smile be with you and do let me know how you get on. You can even post picture of your place . 

I also run online sessions via zoom and facebook live on my facebook page – confidentqueen

 

How to be a Happiness Spreader.

 

Why I became a happiness spreader

Their was a time in my life when i lost my zeal for life as a result of my divorce and at about the same time I was made redundant, I had so much debts and was finding it  hard to cope as a single parent. Even though I had friends and  families who could have helped me, I felt very sad and embarrassed. It took me time to sum up the courage to ask for help and when I did, it was the beginning of a beautiful journey.

 

I decided in 2009 to really focus on helping myself and others to be happier. As a happiness spreader  I want to help give hope and encouragement to others in a world which at times can be full of so much negativity. I am on a mission to recruit as many happiness spreaders as I can.

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Who can be a happiness spreader – Anyone can be a happiness spreader so long as you have a passion for helping others to feel good and have a reason to smile.

 

How you can be a happiness spreader –  Just complete the form at the end of this blog and I will send you a welcome letter and add you to the list of Happiness Spreaders. This is all done on a voluntary basis and you are free to  spread happiness in anyway you feel. I will send you the Happiness Spreader digital badge which you can also proudly display.  

Do join our facebook page – https://www.facebook.com/HappinesSpreaders100

Some  of the things you can do as a Happiness Spreader

  • Use your social media platform to post happy stuff and use the #HappinessSpreader
  • Be a beacon of hope and encourage someone
  • Do Random Acts of Kindness
  • Volunteer 
  • Pray for people without them knowing
  • Have  some happy car bumper stickers to make people smile as they go by

These are some examples please shae with many the things that you will be doing nd also also connect with me on my social media platform.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/confidentqueen
Twitter: – http://www.twitter.com/#!confident_queen
Insta: https://www.instagram.com/confidentqueengenny/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ConfidentQueenGenny/about

Updates –  I have a lot of plans for us Happiness Spreaders which I will send via email.   I will also set up a zoom meeting where you can meet other happiness spreaders so that we can connect and share ideas.

Some photos of me spreading happiness -( because of COVID you may want to make use of social media and use the #HappinessSpreader in your postings)

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Celebrate another day being alive

Despite all the uncertainties of life, it is a blessing to wake up and see another day. It is also time to think about those our loved once who are no longer with us, and cherish the memories we shared.

I am at a good stage in my life right now, I don’t have all I want, but I have all I need. I am content and make the most of life as it is, and I hope you too will have the strength and courage to take one day at time.

Here are some of my daily affirmations I say out loud every morning, I have them also printed on my way as a daily reminder. Please take care of you, stay positive and keep smiling.

 

Quick tips for today

  1. Do whatever is necessary to let yourself be happy. Give yourself permission to pursue your own happiness.
  2. Stay connected with friends and family
  3. Express how you feel and don’t bottle up your emotions. 
  4. Stop working too hard at a job that is not fulling – find a way to make the job interesting or plan to leave or have other interesting hobbies that you can focus when you are away from your job.
  5. Be true to yourself and not what others expect of you. Let the haters hate and the doubters doubt.
  6. Share the love, and encourage someone today, give the a reason to smile.
  7. Ask for help and don’t suffer in silence

I would love it if you could join me on my 15 minutes sessions – Escape to Happiness Island to relive stress and feel good- check my facebook page. https://www.facebook.com/confidentqueen/

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Join me for 15 minutes of feel good vibes #Escape2HappinessIsland

The aim of my 15 minutes sessions, is for us to come to a place where we can for a few minutes put our worries and challenges aside and focus on positivity and good finds, especially before we start our day. I am excited that over the last couple of weeks, I have seen more and more people joining in as we sing and dance ourselves happy.

 

I invite you to like my facebook page as this is where I will be live streaming to. No need to be shy,  Just join in from the comfort of your own home.  https://www.facebook.com/confidentqueen/

 

What to expect
During the session we will use our imagination and creativity to create joy and happiness. 
It is a time when we focus on the moment we are together by letting go of our worries and concerns and enjoy our time together. The session includes:- Smiling, Singing, Dancing, Laughter Yoga, Letting go of our worries, connecting with each other and just having fun. 
 
Before you join the session
1. Be open to have fun and feel good 
2. Know its ok to be silly with like minded people 
3. Have plain paper and a pen with you 
4. On zoom you don’t need to put your video on, you can just use audio 

Choose your time and mark it in your diary. I hope to see you soon.

 

Please note these sessions are now finished, and I will be positing some new dates in the New Year.

 

 

 

5 Practical things you can do to get you smiling through #Covid19 and beyond

 

https://confidentqueengenny.com/2017/07/24/smileexercise-smiling-whilst-exercisin

https://confidentqueengenny.com/2016/01/31/try-the-one-mi

Record your Laughie – record yourself laughing

https://confidentqueengenny.com/2019/10/27/record-your-laughie-and-laugh-with-yourself/

Laughter is a universal sign of joy. Laughter is contagious and this study is the first to show that it can also be self-contagious. This enables us to use our own laughter to benefit our health and wellbeing. Laughing with the Laughie is a quick and easy exercise to add to your daily routine. (Freda)

Escape to Happiness Island to relieve stress using your imagination and all your senses

https://confidentqueengenny.com/2020/10/20/online-sessions-for-your-wellbeing-and-happiness/

Be grateful for every day you are alive-

How to never give up #KeepHopeAlive #NeverGiveUpDay

Today is never give up day. check out more about this day here https://www.daysoftheyear.com/days/never-give-up-day/

This day  is about motivating and inspiring ourselves and others for never giving up and reaching our goals. It is also time for us to  also  support those who are still trying to achieve their goals and have not quite got there yet.

As you focus on achieving your goals, their will be times when you feel frustrated and fed up because you can’t see the results of your hard work; but I want to encourage you to stay focussed and be positive. 

 

Instead of giving up Take a pause –. Sometimes, pausing and taking a step back can be exactly what you need to give you a brand new perspective on things and to find the wisdom and strength you need for the next steps.

Motivate yourself –Look for ways to motivate yourself that works for you. I get a lot of motivation from reading personal stories about individuals who never gave up despite the challenges and setbacks they face. I also set my daily intentions of things I will do that will move me close to my goals.

 

Surround yourself with people who are resilient – Jim Rohn once said that we are the average of the five individuals we spend the majority of our time with.  If you spend your time with five people who are resilient and positive, you will being to feel that way too and will help make a big difference in your life. I do this by attending regular business networks, following inspirational individuals and engaging in conversation with them, I also have a core network of people who I meet once a month and we encourage and support each other.

 

Choose to be positive – It pays to be positive and focus on the good things that are around you especially in the current climate of doom and gloom. You attract what you continue to focus on, so focus on the good you want to attract by using positive affirmations, setting your intentions each day, and visualise yourself having achieved your goals – focus on how you would feel and what achieving that goal would allow you to do.

 

 

Take a step every day towards your goal. Show up every day and even when the mountain seems too steep to climb, just take a small and simple step. When you string a lot of small steps together, you cover a lot of ground. A year from now you’ll look back in amazement at how far you’ve come.

Be honest with yourself –Be honest about how you feel, what you want, and who you are. Are you really doing all you can to achieve your goals? Do you do at least 3 things that will move your closer to your goals? Are you using your time wisely? Are their things that are distracting you that you should stop doing? What could you do if you knew you could not fail? 

Remember time is passing by, you’ve got to keep going.

Do email me for free consultation on how  through my coaching, I can help you to keep going, stay motivated and keep hope alive. 

Build your confidence with Confident Queen

Confidence Building Program for individuals –

Being confident is about believing in yourself. It’s the feeling of certainty that you can accomplish whatever you set your mind to, provided you stay focus, take the necessary actions and stay positive.

The Gift of Confidence is within you, and I can help you to find ways in which you can unwrap this gift so that you can be the best version of yourself through my coaching and tools that will help you maintain your confidence.

 

How I lost and regained my Confidence

Few years ago I was suffering from sadness, lost my self confidence  stemming from a  lot of issues in my personal life. I had just finalized divorce proceedings and found myself the single mother of two toddlers, facing financial issues including foreclosure, and was being made to feel redundant in my work and life. There were times when I felt like giving up; when I felt that there was no light at the end of the tunnel.

I  was fortunate to have received help, support, and advice from family, various organisations after I accepted my situation and wanted to find a way out. Over the years, I have learnt to bounce back and be resilient so that now I can share the lessons I have learnt with you. I can also empower you with practical tips tools that will help you too to have a more positive outlook to life, improve your self esteem and self confidence. 

 

How I can work with you

  1. Initial chat and assessment – Free
  2. Book  one to one session with me  for  30 continuous days – via email and zoom covering all the 6 areas of  my Unstoppable Confidence Programme and  working on specific area you want to be more confident in. £79 (this is my discounted rated)
  3. Do it yourself – Buy my Confidence workbook and go through the activities £7 (this is my discounted rated)
  4. Buy my Confidence workbook and go through the activities with my help over 6 sessions £49 (this is my discounted rated)
  5. Attend my Confidence session – with 10 other people over  6 weeks online zoom and email. £30 for the session (this is my discounted rated)

Details of Confidence Building programme

“Unstoppable Confidence” programme will help you improve on and raise those confidence levels just the way you want.  Weather you choose to just buy the workbook and work on your own or get me to guide you through, you will find this very practical as you will have exciting exercises and assignments to complete which are more than just learning experiences. 

Confidence Programme

  1. Take the confidence quiz – Just how confident are you right now?  
  2. Controlling your Beliefs        
  3. How to overcome Negative Thoughts           
  4. How to overcome Negative Comments from others 
  5. How to feel Confident all the time    
  6. How to lead a Confident Life

Email me now and let me know how I can help you build your inner and outer confidence so that you too can wake up each day singing – Feel Confident Feel Confident, Everyday i feel Confident.

genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

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I wrote my self improvement book Crown of Smiles in which I share my story and give tips on how you too can bounce back.

Sunday Vibes with Confident Queen

Thanks for popping by.

With so many uncertainties these days, I have decided to start my sunday live show to help uplift and inspire us to plan to make the most of the coming week, no matter life unfolds.

It is a light hearted show, and I will have guests who will share their story and inspire us. I will share with you tips to cope with the week and how to plan your week so that you make the most of this precious gift of life. We will end the show on a high with singing and dancing.

It would be good if you can jot down your plans for the coming week and I will share mine with you too. Every sunday we can learn from our challenges and celebrate our successes no matter how small they are.

Pleas like my facebook page https://www.facebook.com/confidentqueen/ and put the time in your diary – this is UK time so you would need to adjust to your time zone. I am so looking forward to you joining me.

 

My wish for you this April #StaySafeAtHome

 

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