Evaluate your life day

Taking time to review your life is one of the most empowering activity you can do. Answer this question –Are the things I am doing each day moving me closer to achieving my goals and aspirations? If they are not, I encourage you to get piece of paper and pen, and take about an hour to just focus and answer these questions honestly as they will help you to evaluate your life and help you stay committed and motivated to take daily actions which will in turn help you to achieve your goals and aspirations.

Issue – What issues am I currently face with?

Goal – What would I like to happen about each issue??

Reality – What’s happening now in my life in relation to the issues I face?

Obstacles – What obstacles do I currently face that are stopping me from achieving my goals?

Options – What options do I have to overcome the obstacles I face?

Solution – Which of the options can I take on board?

Action – What things am I going to do to reach my desired solution>

Celebrate – How am I going to celebrate once I have resolved this issue?

Commitment – How committed am I to take the actions I have set,
Accountability – Who can I share my goals that will help to motivate and encourage me?

Mantra – What is the sentence I am going to say each day till I achieve my desired result?.

If you do need help to evaluate your life and prepare a plan for you to do this, do contact me for a free initial consultation.

Stay committed to being fitter & healthier

If you really want to make a change you can, but your first have to believe you can, develop the “I can” mindset, start seeing yourself as what you want to be, and take consistent actions to achieve whatever you set your mind on. Making a commitment to be fitter and healthier is one of the best thing you can do, as the saying goes “Health is wealth”. I don’t believe in going on and off diets, or starting and exercise routine and not sticking to it. What I believe is that we should make being fitter and healthier a life style choice and do things everyday to help us achieve it as the more you do something in a consistent manner it becomes a habit.

I decided to pay more attention to my health when I got a letter from my doctor that I was on the border line diabetic and had to attend the pre diabetic programme, and this shook me up as I know of friends and families who are diabetic and what they have to go throuh. Also turning 60 this year, and loosing my step dad, has really got me thinking about life in general. All this helped me to make the decision to continue my journey of being fitter, healthier and happier taking care of my body, mind and spirit.

I can’t tell you it will be easy, but I can tell you I sure will be worth it. Even on the days when I don’t feel like going to exercise, I give myself a pep talk and remind myself why I made the commitment to be fitter, healthier and happier.

Since 11th May, I have been consistent in exercising at least for 30 minutes 5 days a week full body workout in the gym, walking, dancing and connecting with nature.

I am also drinking more water and eating healthier cooked meal. I also practise meditation and visualisation by creating a programme called Escape to happiness island using my imagination to enjoy inner peace and happiness.

I feel vey good about life right now. So I want to encourage you. “Don’t throw in the towel, use it to wipe the sweat off your face and turn that can’t into CAN”

Celebrate World Smile Day

World Smile Day  is the First Friday of October each year and was created by Harvey Ball a commercial artist from Worcester, Massachusetts who created the smiley face in 1963. It is a day devoted to smiles and kind acts throughout the world. http://www.worldsmileday.com/index.php/article-index/item/373-about-world-smile-day

I created this One Minute Smiilence as a way for me to relax and feel good, This is my part of my morning routine and also at various time during my day. I hope you can also try this and let me know how you feel.

You can also download this certificate and send it to people who g out doing random acts of kindness and making people have a reason to smile each day.

Try these to feel happier at work

Before you  get to the office,  you could  buy a  box of  chocolates or  biscuits to  share with  your colleagues

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When you get to the office smile as you say hello to everyone you meet.

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5.  If at any time during the day you start getting that “ I am fed up and hate my job ” feeling, stop, go out for a walk or short break and do the One Minute Smilence – this means thinking or recalling happy experiences you have had whilst smiling for a minute

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I hope you have a wonderful day at work and hope that if you really hate your job, you will try and find ways to be happier at work or look for a job that would make you happier! Remember – The grass is always greener on the other side!

How to maintain your happier lifestyle

As a happiness and wellbeing consultant, I felt very honoured to be asked by 360 Lifestyle support to share some of my tips on living a happier life. The tips I share are based on my own lived experiences including my daily routines which does help me to live a happy and contented life. Please feel free to also share your own tips.

Their was a time in my life after my divorce in 2003, when I hit an all time low and for 5 years was locked in a period of sadness and depression. Sometimes I felt I was stuck in in deep hole with no way out. I lived my life on automatic pilot. To the outside world, friends and family, I looked and acted ok, but each time I went home, when the children slept, I would just sit down and cry. When I managed to get help, I started to develop my daily routines to help me have the courage to face each day. I decided to make happiness a life style choice as I got to realise that I was responsible for my own happiness. I have been able to use my experiences and information from courses, and help I received to help others to also develop daily happiness routines. It’s always a pleasure to get feedback weeks later to see the progress people are making.

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Being happy is a lifestyle choice, so no matter what each day unfolds, make time to do something that makes you and someone else feel good. Remember that you are the captain of your own life. No one can give you happiness. It doesn’t come from money. It doesn’t come from fame. It comes from within you, not from your outside circumstances. You don’t have to have a “perfect” life to be happy. The really great news is that you don’t have to be young or old or wealthy or successful in order to be happy. Instead, you can develop a mindset of happiness.

To develop happiness as a lifestyle. I have daily routines which help me to start and finish my day with positivity and gratitude for being alive.

My Morning Routine to fuel my day

My morning routine which fuels my day, I tend to wake up a 6am every day as I am a morning person, and spend up to 90 minutes each morning. I have done this for so many years that it has become a habit. You need to create a routine that will fit your life.

Afternoon routine for me to Pause, Recharge and Refresh

Their was a time when i used to work flat out without a break and as time went on i became burnt out and not very productive. I have learnt to take at least 45 minutes from my busy work schedule to just pause, reflect and recharge. It has now become part of my working week, and I always feel better for it. Even when I do visit clients on their premises, I always schedule my day to include breaks, though most times they seem to eat their lunch at their desk whilst also working. I do try and encourage them to have a break away from their desks.

My evening routine to unwind and relax

After a busy day, it is good to just take time to unwind and relax as this will help you have a good nights sleep.

Tips to help you maintain your lifestyle of happiness

If you would like help to develop your own happier life, do contact me for initial free consultation via zoom or telephone.

Advise to parents when your child first goes to University

Once your child moves out to uni their is that feeling of redundancy and that your job as a parent has finished Their is also that sense of satisfaction that you have done your best and equip them with life skills that will help them in this next phase of their life. You should also see it as a time for you to focus on you and planning how you can do things that will help you to enjoy this new freedom.

These are some of the things you will have to deal with
Excitement – as you prepare your child to go
• When you drop your child off at uni – Tears of Joy
• Going back home after you drop them
• Coping with the Empty nest syndrome
• First visit of your child has settled

1.Excitement – as you prepare your child to go

  • Be positive! And confident they will be ok
  • Create a list of essentials in advance. …
  • Pack a survival kit. Including first aid kit..
  • Make sure you go through again how to manage their finances
  • Make them aware of the advise, support and facilities in their un.
  • Make sure they know the basics – laundry, cooking basic things, using gas/electric cooker, changing the bulb.
  • Bulk cook and out in containers so that at least they are eating good food for the first couple of weeks

2. When you drop your child off at uni – Tears of Joy

  • Give your child the hug that says, I am here for you, just call me any time of the day
  • Last words to your child – remind them to focus, study hard, have some time for fun and socialise with others but

3.Going back home after you drop them
There is that feeling of emptiness as you look in their bedroom, you even lie on the bed crying tears of joy – remember that is ok

4.Coping with the Empty nest symdrome

  • Find a new interest. Having invested so much in your child or children you may find yourself with some free time on your hands. …
  • Get to know your partner again. Or if single find the new you …
  • Keep in touch with your child but don’t over do it .
  • Pat yourself on the back .for raising your child this far and equipping them with the tools they need to deal with in their journey through Uni and life after.
  • Keep in touch with you child but don’t overdo it. You have given them wings so let them fly.

5..First visit of your child has settled
• Don’t just turn up un announced plan it
• Pack your home cooked food that your child likes.
• Don’t prolonged your visit
• Don’t try and re arrange/tidy their room
• Ask about their general welfare
• Top up their provisions by asking what they need don’t assume and buy unnecessary things.

The above is based on my own experience when my son went to Uni.. He is now starting his 3rd year and is so independent and has learn so may life lessons. Please feel free to share your own experiences.

Celebrate International week of happiness at work #Happinessatwork

The International Week of Happiness at Work is a Dutch initiative. Maartje Wolff and Fennande van der Meulen came up with the idea at the end of 2017 and launched the first International Week of Happiness at Work in 2018, together with Martin Leroy from Argentina. Why? Because they believe that Happiness at Work is important. When employees are happy at work, they are better parents, better friends, and better community members. The world will be a better place if more people are happy at work. Maartje and Fennande wrote the Happiness at Work Manifesto, that reflects their beliefs on the topic. Please check this website for more information.  https://internationalweekofhappinessatwork.com/

 

As a happiness and wellbeing consultant, I am very excited to be involved in this week of celebrations and below are 7 things you could try as an individual as well as a team. You can also book me to do my 5 minutes fun lunch break sessions or Escape 2 Happiness Island to relieve stress sessions which are fun packed leaving you with good vibes and positivity.

Things you can do during the week

  1. Happiness lunch break – it is very important that you take time from your desk to refresh yourself. Studies show that taking a lunch break allows your mind to rest, recharge and refocus, which can directly improve your productivity for the rest of the day. Taking time out during the day – even if you choose to have multiple, short breaks – this gives your brain a chance to recuperate.
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2. One Minute Smilence – This is where you think happy thoughts whilst smiling for a minute

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3. Gratitude – Write down all the positive things having a job allows you to do.

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4. Thankful –  Write down all the things that your are thankful for in your life

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5. Escape to Happiness Island – Why not get me to deliver this fun session for your company where we virtually or in person visit happiness island using our imagination as well as singing, dancing and laughter yoga. You can also book to attend my lunch time free event via zoom

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6.Positive Affirmations – Get different coloured paper and write some positive affirmations which you can put in a small box, and refer to them at regular times to motivate and inspire you

Affirmations When you are at work

 

7. Have fun and book me Confident Queen to bring some good vibes to your office¬with my popular Happiness Lunch Hour at work.  If I can make Simon Cowell on BGT smile, then I am sure I can do the same with your team! You can also join me on this free zoom lunch time event.

 

8. Laughter yoga and African dance workout sessions in your workplace or via zoom

Sign the Happiness at work manifesto here – https://internationalweekofhappinessatwork.com/manifesto/

You can actually start the week by learning my boomboom song and dance – or make up your own dance routine

How to accomplish more this month

As we start another month what is going through your mind?

Are you going to let this month pass by with you just complaining about how difficult life is, or are you going to change your mindset and look at the possibilities and opportunities life has in store for you?.

Do you have so much you want to accomplish, but have lost the zeal and energy? Well, it’s time to change your mindset ad and look at the possibilities and opportunities life has in store for you. I believe in you and know that you can do this. The graveyard is ful of some broken dreams, you are alive, and you still have the opportunities to achieve your goals and aspirations. Don’t focus on what you don’t have, focus on what you have and belied that where there is a will, there is a way.

Set your priorities and take action now!

  1. Get a large piece of paper and pen
  2. Sit down somewhere comfortable and breathe in and out for a few minutes.
  3. Say this with passion, conviction and meaning “ I am calm, I have certain priorities in life, and I am going to take time to focus and write them down, with the knowledge that what I focus on becomes my reality.”
  4. Write down your current priorities of life.
  5. Review your priorities and write down the things you need to do that will be in line with your current priorities.
  6. Make a to do list
  7. Get your diary or calendar and  against  each day write down what you will be doing, and plan to review your actions every Sunday. ( I have it within me to achieve my goals and aspirations)
  8. Review  your plans, make sure you include time for yourself to relax, and that your actions are realistic. Be committed to take your daily actions. (My life my  choices)
  9. Every Sunday also take time to celebrate your achievements no matter how small and reward yourself. ( I have it within me to achieve my goals and aspirations)
  10. Keep your diary somewhere you can see it each day. Remember first thing each morning to review what you have to do that day, and at the end of each day review your actions, make amendments and celebrate your achievements no matter how small ( I have it within me to achieve my goals and aspirations)

Your life your choices

Life is really what you make it.

If you need any help in setting your priorities and accomplishing your goals contact me for a free initial discussion. genny@confidentqeueen.co.uk

Being a single parent and running my businesses has had challenges, and being a finalist of this award, makes me smile, and it means so much. I urge you to keep going and not let anyone stop you from achieving your goals.

Learning to Love again

Sometimes, when we have been in a bad relationship, it can harden our heart and we can develop the #FOGHA Fear Of Getting Hurt Again, but with time, help and support, we can get over it and move on.

The Fear oF Getting Hurt Again #FOGHA

For me, my last relationship was back in 2003 when I got divorced and I made the decision to focus on raising up my two children they best i could, and I really could not handle the stress of another relationship. Their have been people who have wanted to take me out or start a relationship, but i just was not interested because i also had the Fear of getting hurt again.

I now realise that, If we don’t allow ourselves to open up to love again, we can miss out on the good things in life and we can miss out on the chance of finding the love we truly strive for

Now my children are young adults, and I am experiencing a bit of the empty nest syndrome, I have been thinking perhaps now is the time to open my heart and let love find it’s way. Funny thing is, as I have been having these thoughts, I seem to be attracting interesting individuals in my life. I am taking things easy and giving myself time before I jump into a relationship which I guess has to come from friendship initially.

Learning from past relationships

**Sometimes you have to get knocked down to learn how to stand back up. To open up to love again, you have to look at the lessons your heartbreak taught you about yourself; maybe it taught you to trust your intuition or to love yourself more, or maybe it taught you how to walk away or when to draw the line. Learning from your past mistakes is the only way you can lead yourself to find love you deserve rather than crumbs of love.

**Be honest with yourself about what went wrong, sometimes it’s you and sometimes it’s them. Sometimes it’s timing and sometimes it’s your own fears and insecurities. If you can be honest with yourself about what exactly went wrong and pin down how you contributed to it, you are more likely to avoid these mistakes in the future.

**It can be easy to think everyone’s out to get you when you’ve been hurt before, but instead of being stuck on the pain and everything that went wrong, allow yourself the power of forgiveness and remind yourself that whoever hurt you was not an evil person, they just weren’t the best person for you.

 **Don’t compare your new partner with your ex as this will only impede you from enjoying the moment. Don’t judge a book by its cover and don’t be so hard on yourself. We are each on our own journeys and we should trust that our story will eventually have a happy ending.

  1. “When you start to get back into dating, one of the main things you want to keep in mind is that you should have confidence in yourself knowing  that you are beautiful and have a lot to bring to the table. Your age is an asset — not a barrier — to love.”
  2. Finding the right person later on in life can be challenging especially if you’re noticing that they aren’t quite like you or the last person that you were with.  Judging someone too quickly based off of your standards very well could have you missing out on the opportunity to connect with another amazing person.”
  3. Enjoy the experience of dating again by being in the moment –   enjoying  the time and space with that person without  expectation of what will happen next or how far the relationship will go.

How to motivate yourself to exercise

I have always loved exercising, but must say during lockdown i did not do as much as I could. As lock down eased I enjoy going to my local gym and doing 20 minutes of High Intensive Training 5 days a week, with some african dance workout and walking twice a week. My motivation right now is because I received a letter from my doctor that I need to start the diabetes prevention programme to prevent me getting Diabetes 2. I have now made exercise part of my healthier lifestyle which includes healthy eating and having a positive mental attitude.

If you are struggling to motivate yourself to exercise, here are some of my tips which I hope will help you to stay motivated and make exercise a lifestyle choice.

  • Decided why you want to exercise
  • Write down all the things exercising will allow you to do.
  • Visualise yourself doing those things
  • Choose to do exercises that you love
  • Choose a schedule that you can stick to.
  • Have an exercise buddy
  • Reward yourself  at the end of each week and celebrate the fact that you are getting fitter and healthier
  • Develop a series of exercise affirmations and  mantras
  • Print our your exercise schedule and put it somewhere  you can see it.
  • Get a selection of outfits including Tshirts with motivational message to wear.
  • Remember Health is wealth

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