How to accomplish more this month

As we start another month what is going through your mind?

Are you going to let this month pass by with you just complaining about how difficult life is, or are you going to change your mindset and look at the possibilities and opportunities life has in store for you?.

Do you have so much you want to accomplish, but have lost the zeal and energy? Well, it’s time to change your mindset ad and look at the possibilities and opportunities life has in store for you. I believe in you and know that you can do this. The graveyard is ful of some broken dreams, you are alive, and you still have the opportunities to achieve your goals and aspirations. Don’t focus on what you don’t have, focus on what you have and belied that where there is a will, there is a way.

Set your priorities and take action now!

  1. Get a large piece of paper and pen
  2. Sit down somewhere comfortable and breathe in and out for a few minutes.
  3. Say this with passion, conviction and meaning “ I am calm, I have certain priorities in life, and I am going to take time to focus and write them down, with the knowledge that what I focus on becomes my reality.”
  4. Write down your current priorities of life.
  5. Review your priorities and write down the things you need to do that will be in line with your current priorities.
  6. Make a to do list
  7. Get your diary or calendar and  against  each day write down what you will be doing, and plan to review your actions every Sunday. ( I have it within me to achieve my goals and aspirations)
  8. Review  your plans, make sure you include time for yourself to relax, and that your actions are realistic. Be committed to take your daily actions. (My life my  choices)
  9. Every Sunday also take time to celebrate your achievements no matter how small and reward yourself. ( I have it within me to achieve my goals and aspirations)
  10. Keep your diary somewhere you can see it each day. Remember first thing each morning to review what you have to do that day, and at the end of each day review your actions, make amendments and celebrate your achievements no matter how small ( I have it within me to achieve my goals and aspirations)

Your life your choices

Life is really what you make it.

If you need any help in setting your priorities and accomplishing your goals contact me for a free initial discussion.

Being a single parent and running my businesses has had challenges, and being a finalist of this award, makes me smile, and it means so much. I urge you to keep going and not let anyone stop you from achieving your goals.

Learning to Love again

Sometimes, when we have been in a bad relationship, it can harden our heart and we can develop the #FOGHA Fear Of Getting Hurt Again, but with time, help and support, we can get over it and move on.

The Fear oF Getting Hurt Again #FOGHA

For me, my last relationship was back in 2003 when I got divorced and I made the decision to focus on raising up my two children they best i could, and I really could not handle the stress of another relationship. Their have been people who have wanted to take me out or start a relationship, but i just was not interested because i also had the Fear of getting hurt again.

I now realise that, If we don’t allow ourselves to open up to love again, we can miss out on the good things in life and we can miss out on the chance of finding the love we truly strive for

Now my children are young adults, and I am experiencing a bit of the empty nest syndrome, I have been thinking perhaps now is the time to open my heart and let love find it’s way. Funny thing is, as I have been having these thoughts, I seem to be attracting interesting individuals in my life. I am taking things easy and giving myself time before I jump into a relationship which I guess has to come from friendship initially.

Learning from past relationships

**Sometimes you have to get knocked down to learn how to stand back up. To open up to love again, you have to look at the lessons your heartbreak taught you about yourself; maybe it taught you to trust your intuition or to love yourself more, or maybe it taught you how to walk away or when to draw the line. Learning from your past mistakes is the only way you can lead yourself to find love you deserve rather than crumbs of love.

**Be honest with yourself about what went wrong, sometimes it’s you and sometimes it’s them. Sometimes it’s timing and sometimes it’s your own fears and insecurities. If you can be honest with yourself about what exactly went wrong and pin down how you contributed to it, you are more likely to avoid these mistakes in the future.

**It can be easy to think everyone’s out to get you when you’ve been hurt before, but instead of being stuck on the pain and everything that went wrong, allow yourself the power of forgiveness and remind yourself that whoever hurt you was not an evil person, they just weren’t the best person for you.

 **Don’t compare your new partner with your ex as this will only impede you from enjoying the moment. Don’t judge a book by its cover and don’t be so hard on yourself. We are each on our own journeys and we should trust that our story will eventually have a happy ending.

  1. “When you start to get back into dating, one of the main things you want to keep in mind is that you should have confidence in yourself knowing  that you are beautiful and have a lot to bring to the table. Your age is an asset — not a barrier — to love.”
  2. Finding the right person later on in life can be challenging especially if you’re noticing that they aren’t quite like you or the last person that you were with.  Judging someone too quickly based off of your standards very well could have you missing out on the opportunity to connect with another amazing person.”
  3. Enjoy the experience of dating again by being in the moment –   enjoying  the time and space with that person without  expectation of what will happen next or how far the relationship will go.

How to motivate yourself to exercise

I have always loved exercising, but must say during lockdown i did not do as much as I could. As lock down eased I enjoy going to my local gym and doing 20 minutes of High Intensive Training 5 days a week, with some african dance workout and walking twice a week. My motivation right now is because I received a letter from my doctor that I need to start the diabetes prevention programme to prevent me getting Diabetes 2. I have now made exercise part of my healthier lifestyle which includes healthy eating and having a positive mental attitude.

If you are struggling to motivate yourself to exercise, here are some of my tips which I hope will help you to stay motivated and make exercise a lifestyle choice.

  • Decided why you want to exercise
  • Write down all the things exercising will allow you to do.
  • Visualise yourself doing those things
  • Choose to do exercises that you love
  • Choose a schedule that you can stick to.
  • Have an exercise buddy
  • Reward yourself  at the end of each week and celebrate the fact that you are getting fitter and healthier
  • Develop a series of exercise affirmations and  mantras
  • Print our your exercise schedule and put it somewhere  you can see it.
  • Get a selection of outfits including Tshirts with motivational message to wear.
  • Remember Health is wealth

Laughter Yoga with Confident Queen Genny

Laughter Yoga is  a complete well-being workout, developed by a medical doctor from India Dr. Madan Kataria and it has spread across many countries.  It is a  combination of deep breathing exercises from yoga and laughter exercises, which oxygenates our body and brain, makes us feel more healthy and energetic.

Why I trained to be a laughter yoga leader

I am certified laughter yoga leader and member of the UK laughter Association.

There was a time in my life when I suffered from burnout as I juggled working as an Accountant and raising my two children on my own. I felt I was running my life on automatic pilot and for 5 years I just found it hard to relax and have fun. Things changed for me when I decided to get help and this started my journey into finding simple things I could do to feel good.

I read an article about laughter yoga, went to a few sessions and I then decided to train as a laughter yoga leader with United Minds so that I can help as many people as I can to enjoy the benefits of laughter yoga through my workshops in a fun, interactive and informative manner.

I have been on shows like BBC Genius, ITV Britain’s Got Talent, Who’s doing the dishes and Good Morning Britain demonstrating my laughing skills and getting the nation laughing. I was also listed on the Independent on Sunday Happy List 100 and nominated for Pride of Britain Awards 2013 for making others happy.

Over the years I have run laughter yoga sessions for organisations such as r AGE UK Lambeth, Megan CIC, Gravesend Laughter Club, Happiness Project Kent as well as various educational establishments and conferences.

During a laughter yoga session we laugh  for no reason without relying on humour, jokes or comedy. We also  initiate laughter as a body exercise in a group and with eye contact and childlike playfulness. It soon turns into real and contagious laughter.


What you need to join in:

  1. You don’t need any equipment for this session,
  2. Come with an open mind ready to have a good laugh
  3. Find a comfortable place to sit or stand

What is involved during the session:-

  1. Clapping and Chanting
  2. Breathing Exercises
  3. Childlike Playfulness
  4. Laughter Exercises

“No matter what life throws at you give yourself permission to have 1 minute daily dose of laugher.”

Check out this review about one of y sessions.

My African Dance Workout and Laughter yoga for wellbeing

In my youthful days, I used to be in an African Dance Troupe called Sakumoh and it was based in Tottenham UK. I really loved it as we got to travel perform at various venues as we shared our love for African Dance. During lock down, i discovered a lady called Vikki who is a Kukuwa African Fitness instructor, as I attended her classes, I felt my passion for dance coming back. She mentioned the training she went through, and I too decided to undertake the training with KUKUWA I also love to laugh, and trained to be a laughter yoga teacher and have been delivering sessions for various organisations over the years.

I must say studying to be a kukuwa fitness instructor was one of the challenging things I have done as I have not studied for years and learning about body parts etc at first was not exciting to me. Despite this, I carried on with the course and though I failed the first exam, I just carried on and was happy when I eventually passed both the theory and practical.

Due to the success of my first taster sessions last month, I decided to put some more free sessions this month before my paid sessions start in September. Email me now to book your free space and I will send you the zoom link

Kukuwa® Dance Workout (KDW®)
Kukuwa® Dance Workout (KDW®) is a unique style of fitness that is derived from cultural dance movements, from across the continent of Africa.

Kukuwa® Dance Workout classes are suitable to all ages and levels of fitness. The same classes are suitable for beginners, intermediate, and advanced levels of fitness. All the dance routines are such that one can choose to either walk through the whole dance class or keep up with the normal pace of the class. All dance movements are low impact, and both seniors and children can participate. Pregnant women can also take Kukuwa® Dance Workout from the start of their pregnancy to full term, depending, of course, on the approval from their doctors.

Kukuwa® Dance Workout should be done 3 times or more weekly in order to – increase flexibility, strength, coordination, build stamina, balance, burn off fat & calories and maintain fitness.

The Short-Term Benefits of Kukuwa® Dance Workout

• Improvement of cardiovascular endurance and respiratory systems

• Improvement of the efficiency of body performance

• Improvement in muscle flexibility and cardiac efficiency

• Increase in stroke volume – blood that is pumped with each heartbeat

• Lowered heart rate

• Improvement in muscular endurance and muscular strength

• Improvement in breathing capacity

• Increased capacity of respiratory ventilation

• Improved capacity for dissipating metabolically produced heat

The Long-Term Benefits of Kukuwa® Dance Workout

• Increase in lean body mass and muscle mass

• Decrease in body fat

• Positive, visible changes in body composition

About our Classes::

Open all fitness and dance levels.

What to wear

Comfortable clothing in which you can easily move

Bare foot, Jazz shoes, jazz sneakers, indoor sneakers, or thin socks.

Other things you need:-

Water and Small towel  

Come and be ready to move your boombsey.

Happy Father’s Day

Father’s day is always very emotional for me, as I do spend the time thinking of my father now gone 36 years on and n all I have are the memories and an old photograph. I cry as the last time I saw him was when he was in hospital and a few weeks later he was gone. I enjoyed that last time in hospital as we talked a lot and it and I was also able to explain some of the hurts I felt and he gave me so much assurance and hope that he loved me.

As you read this if you are blessed to have had wonderful memories and times with your father, be grateful and thankful. If on the other hand you did not know your father and had no relationship with him, I hope and pray you have managed to move on with your life, and that if you are now a dad you have a better relationship with your children.

Women Ageing Happier And Confident (1)

As I approach another birthday, I have been in deep thoughts and reflecting over my life. I have had my share of ups and downs as it is all part of life. I was inspired ti start this series of blogs for June, by my mum aged 83. She is such a good role model and a tower of strength. I These days I really appreciate the moments we spend and the wisdom about life that she passes on to my children and I.

Right now in my life,my children are now young men, and I do feel it’s time to find me, and to start putting myself first doing things that make me feel good. I am at my happiest and I feel more confident about my future life.

In the next 30 days I aim to be here, sharing some o my life experiences and given you tips which I hope will help you too be be Happier and Confident as you make the most of everyday life.

If you identify yourself as a #WAHAC (Women Ageing Happier and Confident _ and would like to contribute to my blog or share links do message me,

It’s good to cry

Their have been times when I have tried to be strong and bottle up a lot of hurt and pain and their have been times when I have been so overwhelmed not know what to do, except to cry for days on end.

Researchers have established that crying releases oxytocin and endogenous opioids, also known as endorphins. These feel-good chemicals help ease both physical and emotional pain.

Crying is the body’s way to not only reduce emotional stress, but also process it. When emotions are held back, such as swallowing or holding back tears, the emotional energy gets congested in the body and can result in health issues.

Why crying is good for us.

  1. It Relieves Stress and lowers blood pressure.

2. Tears Remove Toxins and  stress hormones like cortisol that build up during times of emotional turmoil and can wreak havoc on the body. Crying is both a physical and emotional release that helps humans start over with a blank slate.

3. It Reduces Manganese a mineral which affects mood and is found in significantly greater concentrations in tears than in blood serum.

4. Crying helps us acknowledge the feelings we’re experiencing, and emotions motivate us to empathize, coordinate and work together to survive.

5.Crying is an important social function. It communicates the strength and nature of relationships, elicits sympathy and even assistance, and draws individuals closer to one another.

While the eyes of all mammals are moistened and soothed by tears, only human beings shed tears in response to emotional stress. So go on, feel better by having a good cry, and then wipe the tears dry, for tomorrow will be a better day.

Escape 2 Happiness Island during #Carersweek

Carers Week is an annual campaign to raise awareness of caring, highlight the challenges unpaid carers face and recognise the contribution they make to families and communities throughout the UK. It also helps people who don’t think of themselves as having caring responsibilities to identify as carers and access much-needed support – Read more here

For carers week, I am running my fun session – Escape 2 Happiness Island to feel good and relieve stress with like minded people. Using our imagination and all our senses we visit happiness island via zoom, where in 15- 30 minutes we enjoy ourselves with a selection of activities. Why not book a taster 15-30 minutes session for your group

Escape to Happiness Island is a practitioner-led wellbeing session lasting anything between 15 minutes and an hour, which is transforming the lives and outlooks of people.

The pure joy of these sessions is that they adapt to needs of the participants – each session is tailored live to the audience.

People leave these sessions ready to take on the world, filled with a new-found sense of lightness, a glow of happiness inside them that stays with them in their personal time and in their working life.

To sustain the positivity and benefits of the sessions, Genny Jones, discoverer and caretaker of Happiness Island, has developed a simple booklet, which every participant can take home and use as a passport back to the island!

To find out more about availability do email me and start encouraging everyone to start packing for a trip to Happiness Island today!

Benefits of the session

  1. Connect with each other in a fun way
  2. Relax and Unwind
  3. Relieve Stress
  4. Instant Feel Good
  5. Tips on maintain a positive attitude
  6. Fuel yourself with some feel good hormones
  7. Feel energised and positive

What to expect

The session is  fun packed and can include:

  1. Singing
  2. Dancing
  3. Laughter yoga
  4. Visualisation
  5. Relaxing through meditation
  6. Tips to help you sustain your daily dose of happiness

Before you join the session

1. Be open to have fun and feel good

2. Know its ok to be silly with like minded people

3. Come dressed for fun in something colourful or even fancy dress

4. On zoom you don’t need to put your video on, you can just use audio


You can also book directly here –

About Genny Jones AKA Confident Queen

Genny is herself part time carer to her parents and she understands the need for self care and making time for fun with others. Genny has over the years delivered her sessions for a number of organisations who run support groups as well as for individuals in a group setting.

Genny’s Awards and Nominations

Nominated for the ITV Meridian ‘Pride of Britain’ Award for the work she does helping people to feel happier.

Listed on Independent on Sunday List of top 100 Happy people in UK making a difference.

Finalist of the Happy Team Award at the National Happiness Awards

To book an introductory chat: – Email:

Give yourself a pep talk

I woke up this morning feeling a bit overwhelmed with so much going on and felt like just staying in bed.

I turned and tossed for a few minutes and my inner voice was saying to me – “go on get up and seize the day” I ignored this for a while, but as I heard the birds singing outside my window, I felt the urge to  get up and do my morning routine which includes praying, meditation, reading something inspirational, being grateful and exercising my chuckle muscles. I then went through my to do list and prioritised my day, and decided to write this blog to encourage you too.

Check your plans for the day and prioritise, making sure you have time for feel good breaks throughout the day. I love this daily reminders and hope they will help you too.

I hope your day goes well.

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