This middle Monday of January according to researchers is Blue Monday, the most depressing day of the year which is based on some scientific calculations which takes into account things like the weather, the fact that we are recovering from christmas, worrying about at our debts from overspending at christmas and now with COVID19, Lockdown and tiers.
As a happiness spreader, I really don’t like this idea of linking depression or sadness to a particular day. I want to encourage you instead to try and make it a habit of having a reason to smile each day. Start with being grateful and thankful you are alive to see another day.
So, I invite you to join me on my Confident Queen Facebook page for my live 15 minutes of positivity and good vibes which includes, singing, dancing and laughter.
Please also print out and learn the words of the booboom song
Continue to put colour and positivity into your life by connecting with me here. Thank you.
In this world where there are a lot of people suffering, feeling lonely, living on the edge, frustrated and having no purpose, the least we can do is to share a smile – smiling is contagious and when you share it with someone it can change their mood. I love wearing my Tshirt walking down the road, and watch as people read it and most smile back
Smile even when someone does not smile back just because you don’t know what they are going through. This should not stop you from moving on and smiling to to the next person you see.
What you can do-
Design your own Tshirt or badge and walk around and smile at people and watch their reaction too as they read your Tshirt
Upload your photos showing us your smile on social media using #ISmileBack
In this world where there are a lot of people suffering, feeling lonely, living on the edge, frustrated and having no purpose, the least we can do is to share a smile – smiling is contagious and when you share it with someone it can change their mood. I love wearing my Tshirt walking down the road, and watch as people read it and most smile back
Smile even when someone does not smile back!
The other day, I went to a very uplifting event in London, and everyone looked happy and smiling, except one lady who just looked miserable. I made eye contact with her a few times, and she just seemed to stare at me as if to say “ oh for goodness sake stop smiling”. This really did bother me. But then I realise that she may be going through stuff and was not in the mood to smile.
Think about it – Do you always smile back at people? If you don’t, then think about it. Chances are you’re thinking about something else, or are distracted or don’t even see them. Same with other people. Remember that most people are friendly by nature, but right at that moment when you smile at someone, you never know what’s really going on in their heads, so don’t think or worry about it.
Continue to smile, continue to say hello, and when someone does not respond in kind, go on and share the smile with someone else.
That’s enough of you feeling down and sad my friend, It’s time for you to put down your Crown of Sadness and put on your Crown of smiles . Smiling Is Good for Your Health. Smiling releases endorphins, which improves your mood, helps you to relax, and lowers your blood pressure.
One way of lifting your mood is to imagine you are putting on your Crown of Smiles. Slowly breathe in and out for a few seconds. Now imagine you have a large invisible crown of smiles that you are going to put on your head. As you put on your Crown of Smiles on your head, imagine you have a jar of happy oil which is being poured over your head.
Imagine that the oil is going through your body.
As the oil goes through every part of your body, from the top of your head to the sole of your feet, imagine your body tingling as you experience inner joy which lightens up your face with a beautiful smile. Now start to move your body doing your happy dance as you say say “WooHoo BoomBoom I feel good”.
2. Try my One minute Smilence
Firstly, slowly breathe in positivity and breathe out negativity -do this 3 times.
Now smile to the right, then smile to the left, smile in front of you and then laugh our loud – do this 3 times
Now recall some happy moments in your life whilst smiling for a minute
3. SmileXercise
This is where you put on your most happiest and feel good song and as you dance around whilst you are smiling.
4. Read the lyrics of this lovely song
You can also email me to get a free kindle version of my popular book – crown of smiles -which has great tips on how you too can have a reason to smile each day.
Email genny@confidentqueen.co.uk Follow me on twitter @confident_queen
This middle Monday of January according to researchers is Blue Monday, the most depressing day of the year which is based on some scientific caluclations which takes into account things like the weather, the fact that we are recovering from christmas, worrying about at our debts from overpsending at christmas etc.
As a happiness spreader, I really don’t like this idea of linking depression or sadness to a particualar day. I want to encourage you instead to try and make it a habit of having a reason to smile each day. Start with being grateful and thankful you are alive to see another day.
WHY I CREATED CROWN OF SMILES
I created the idea of Crown of Smiles after recovering from a period when I hit rock bottom, and lost my smile, self esteem, and confidence. I was very sad and depressed and at times felt like given up hope as I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel!
MY BOOK CROWN OF SMILES
When i rebuilt my life, I decided to use my experiences to help others feel happier. Crown of Smiles is also the name of my self help practical book about being happy with tips to help you develop your self belief, and recognizing that from adversity can come creativity, confidence and clarity. Please email me for a kindle copy or you can buy the hardback from Amazon.
How to put on your Crown of Smiles
1. You can either make a crown of smiles, or you could just imagine you have an invisible Crown of Smiles.
2. As you put on your Crown of Smiles on your head, imagine you have a jar of happy oil which is being poured over your head.
3. As the oil goes through every part of your body, from the top of your head to the sole of your feet, imagine your body tingling as you experience inner joy which lightens up your face with a beautiful smile.
3. You can mow start to move your body doing your happy dance as you say say “WooHoo BoomBoom I feel good”.
Yesterday I went to a very uplifting event in London, and everyone looked happy and smiling, except one lady who just looked miserable. I made eye contact with her a few times, and she just seemed to stare at me as if to say “ oh for goodness sake stop smiling”. This really did bother me.
Think about it – Do you always smile back at people? If you don’t, then think about it. Chances are you’re thinking about something else, or are distracted or don’t even see them. Same with other people. Remember that most people are friendly by nature, but right at that moment when you smile at someone, you never know what’s really going on in their heads, so don’t think or worry about it.
Continue to smile, continue to say hello, and when someone does not respond in kind, go on and share the smile with someone else.
Go out and share a smile
In this world where there are a lot of people suffering, lonely, living on the edge, frustrated and having no purpose, the least we can do is to share a smile – smiling is contagious and when you share it with someone it can change their mood.
Inner peace is where you have a sense of harmony, emotional well-being and fulfilment in your life despite any challenges you may be going through (money, relationships, loss, etc). You can achieve inner peace by practising acceptance of yourself and the world around you, engaging in things like prayer, mindfulness, and meditation.
Accepting Your self
Acceptance of yourself is crucial to the promotion of inner peace because it enables us to be okay with what is currently happening no matter what the circumstances. One way to practice acceptance of your life is to be grateful for what you have instead of focusing on what you do not have
Give up control over things you can’t change
We cannot control what others think, feel, or do so try to focus on what you can change.
Focus on right now through mindfulness
Mindfulness can help increase inner peace. Mindfulness is being aware of the current moment, the here and now, instead of thinking about the future or the past. Thinking of the past may lead to depressed mood or regrets, and thinking about the future can increase anxiety and worry. Being completely present in the current moment can increase your feelings of contentment.
Most people in times of crisis tend to pray sometime in panic or utter desperation. Prayer for inner peace for me helps to calm my mind, gives me clarity, and inner peace. At times, when I feel so stressed and not know what to do I just say “ Oh God help me and give me the strength and wisdom to go through this”
Meditation is the art of finding peace and happiness within by using simple methods of calming and stabilising our minds. Modern life can be stressful and busy. Most of the time we are carried along by the force of emotions, habits and conditioning and end up feeling tired and stressed by everyday life. Practicing meditation can change this. Meditation can help bring about a natural sense of peace and well-being that can extend to every aspect of our lives. People who meditate regularly tend to sleep better, handle the ups and downs of daily life with more clarity and ease and relate to others with more compassion and warmth.
Today take time to either pray, meditate and practise mindfulness to help you have inner peace. The more peaceful you are, you will be able to smile more and also share your smile with others.
My book – Crown of Smiles – Practical tips to regain your smile
On this Read a Book Day, it’s not compulsory to read a whole book but the day serves as inspiration to people to read a section of a book they particularly enjoyed, to read with children, to donate a book to a children’s school library, or to host a book reading party.
We all need to be mindful of all the bad news we wake up to each day all around us and try not to let in get us down to such an extent that we live in a world of fear, anxiety and stress.
It all starts by having the determination that we are going to choose to be happier by accepting that when things happen beyond our control we can in time, choose to accept, adapt, ask for help so that we can start to rebuild our lives.
Start your day fuelled with good vibes!
When you wake up in the morning, stay in bed for a few minutes and slowly breath in and out for a few minutes. Listen to the early morning sounds around you. Then say “Thank God it’s Monday, I am going to make the most of the day by being happy, positive and sharing a smile with others”
Get up and walk around your home and start saying out loud all the things you are grateful for. For example be grateful for all you have, life, family, roof over your head, electric, heating, food, etc
Stand still – Think happy thoughts whilst smiling for a minute (One Minute Smilence)
Sing – Wake up and feel happy boom boom, I feel like dancing around boom boom boom ( now start dancing like no one’s watching)
Stand in front of a mirror— Make some funny faces and Laugh till you can’t laugh any more!!
As you go out, be prepared to share your smiles with as many people as you can.
I had a great day promoting and signing my book thanks to Rethink Gravesend , The Grand Healthy Living Centre, and everyone who purchased a copy of my book Crown of Smiles – practical self help book to help you regain your smile.
Confident Queen Genny 