How to be happy even when you are grieving

Before Christmas, having 3 members of my family passed away and one of them being my mum, has been so devasting and heart breaking for my family and I. I have never experienced such deep sorrow in my life. Being a happiness spreader it has been challenging as it seems that some people wanted me to carry on being happy and one person even suggested I take a dose of my own happy advise and though this upset me, I decided to brush it aside and find ways to cope with my grieving. I am in a much better place now, but still have moments of sadness when I think of my mum. This blog is to help me and you if you too are grieving.

Grieving is a natural and necessary process that follows the loss of someone or something important to us. It’s normal to experience a range of emotions during this time, including sadness, anger, and even numbness.

The stages of grief were first described by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 book “On Death and Dying”. The model describes five stages of grief that a person may experience after a significant loss. It’s important to note that not everyone will experience these stages, and they may not occur in a linear or predictable order. The stages of grief are:

  1. Denial: In this stage, a person may feel disbelief or denial that the loss has occurred. They may struggle to accept the reality of the situation.
  2. Anger: As the reality of the loss sets in, a person may feel anger or frustration. They may direct this anger towards themselves, others, or even the person or situation that caused the loss.
  3. Bargaining: In this stage, a person may try to negotiate with a higher power or try to find a way to undo the loss. They may engage in “what if” thinking and feel a sense of guilt or regret.
  4. Depression: As the initial shock of the loss wears off, a person may feel overwhelming sadness or hopelessness. They may experience a loss of energy, appetite, or interest in activities they used to enjoy.
  5. Acceptance: In this stage, a person begins to come to terms with the reality of the loss. They may feel a sense of peace or closure and begin to find ways to move forward in their life.

It’s important to remember that these stages are not a linear or predictable process, and not everyone will experience all five stages. Grief is a highly individual experience, and people may move in and out of these stages at their own pace. It’s also normal to experience a range of emotions during the grieving process, including sadness, anger, guilt, and even moments of happiness or peace.

It is still possible to experience moments of happiness even while grieving. Here are a few suggestions for finding happiness during this difficult time:-

Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental health by eating well, getting enough sleep, and engaging in activities that you enjoy. This can help to boost your mood and provide a sense of comfort during the grieving process.

Allow yourself to feel your emotions: It’s important to acknowledge and accept your feelings during the grieving process, whether they are positive or negative. By allowing yourself to feel your emotions, you may be able to process them more effectively and find moments of happiness along the way.

Connect with others: Reach out to family and friends who can offer support and comfort. Even if you don’t feel like talking about your loss, spending time with loved ones can provide a sense of connection and joy. For me going away on holiday to Ghana with friends, really helped to take my mind off things and connect with new people. This photo below is of me supporting some local street traders. I felt so much love and joy as we chatted and laughed togther.

Find meaning and purpose: Consider volunteering or participating in activities that give you a sense of purpose. This can help to provide a sense of fulfillment and joy, even in the midst of grief. I do love dressing up as Confident Queen and going to events and spread laughter doing fun activities or getting people to just dance to the beat of the muisc.

Practice gratitude: Take time to reflect on the positive aspects of your life and express gratitude for them. This can help to shift your focus from the pain of loss to the joys and blessings that remain. I am grateful that my mum reached he age of 84 and enoyed her life with us her children and grand children. I am grateful that though her death was sudden, she did not suffer , and died peacefully.


Try doing the One Minute Smilence to help recall happy thoughts or happy moments with your loved one. This will help lift your mood. You can also have a playlist of uplifting music that you can sing and dance to.

Remember that grief is a personal and individual experience, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Be patient and kind with yourself as you navigate this process, and know that it is possible to find moments of happiness even during the most difficult times.. Time is the great healer. While things will very likely never be the same,  things will be different  and this in itself can bring its own sense of happiness

If you do any help or just a chat contact me You can also use google to check for the many organisations who offer support and advise as we go through the grieving process.


Fun ways to celebrate National I Want You to Be Happy Day! 

As Confident Queen, my mission since 2009 has been to help as many people as I can to have a reason to smile each day through the various activities I run. This is because there was a period in my life when it was all dark and I felt like a bird trapped in a cage with no way out due to some personal challenges I was going through. I am happy that after some time, I had the courage to ask for help from family, friends and various organisations which helped me regain my zest for life. Even just before Christmas I lost my mum and two two other very close family members. Though it has been devastating and for the last 3 months, things have been tough, I am slowly getting my smile back and I continue to go around various organisations spreading laughter and good vibes.

National I Want You to Be Happy Day is here to celebrate the idea that the world is a better place when we all work together to make other people happy. Although its not possible to change someone’s entire life in just a moment, but it’s certainly easy enough to make their day a little brighter by simple gestures  It can make all the difference between having a completely hard day and turning up as a ray of sunshine on their cloudy day.

Scientists have even shown  that when people help others. Oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin are all released in what’s called the “helper’s high”, which is the good feeling  someone gets from helping another person and watching them be happy.

Why I want you to be happy

I want you to be happy  and confident  because I  care about you and want the best for you.   I know  from my own experience that our happiness and confidence can have a positive impact on others around you, creating a more positive and uplifting environment for everyone.

Feeling happy and confident can have many positive benefits. It can improve your mental health and well-being, increase your productivity and creativity, and help you build stronger relationships with others. When you’re happy and confident, you’re more likely to have a positive outlook on life and be able to handle challenges and setbacks in a better way.

Fun things to do to make you feel happy

Say these affirmations our loud a couple of time make sure you mean what you say, you can even use your own.

Create a laughie and send to someone to cheer them up

Try the One Minute Smilene

My Happiness and Confidence Programme

Through my coaching program, I’ll empower you with the tools and tips you need to unwrap the gift of confidence and happiness that’s already within you. 

I’ve been through tough times too, including divorce, redundancy, and debt, multiple bereavements but I’ve learned how to bounce back and become resilient. And now, I want to help you do the same.

Whether you’re feeling lonely or lacking purpose, I can help you gain the confidence you need to build a life you’ll be happy to wake up to each day. With my coaching, you’ll learn to develop inner and outer confidence, and I’ll guide you on an Escape to Happiness Island activity that will leave you feeling refreshed and stress-free.

So what are you waiting for? Let’s work together to unwrap your gift of confidence and happiness today! Complete this form to book a free discovery call.

Tips on setting your intentions for the day

Setting your intentions for the day can be a powerful way to start your day with focus and purpose. Here are some steps to help you set your intentions for the day:

  1. Begin with a clear mind

Take a few deep breaths and clear your mind of any distractions or worries. Find a quiet space where you can focus without any interruptions.

  • Reflect on your goals

Take a few minutes to reflect on your overall goals in life. Think about what you want to achieve in the long term, and how your daily actions can help you move closer to those goals.

  • Set your priorities

Identify the most important tasks you need to accomplish today. This could be work-related tasks, personal goals, or anything else that you want to achieve.

  • Write it down:

Write down your intentions for the day in a journal or on a piece of paper. Be specific about what you want to accomplish and how you plan to do it.

  • Visualize success
  • Visualize yourself successfully completing your tasks and achieving your goals. This will help you stay motivated and focused throughout the day.

Take action

  • Once you have set your intentions, take action to make them a reality. Start with the most important tasks first and work your way down the list

Remember to be flexible and adaptable throughout the day, as unexpected events may arise that require you to adjust your plans. By setting your intentions for the day, you will be better prepared to handle whatever challenges come your way and make progress towards your goals.

If you need any help with any of the above do contact me

Happiness and mental health

Happiness and mental health are closely intertwined and play a vital role in our overall well-being. Happiness can be defined as a state of well-being characterized by positive emotions, such as joy, contentment, and satisfaction. Mental health, on the other hand, refers to the emotional, psychological, and social well-being of an individual.

Research has shown that people who are happy tend to have better mental health, and vice versa.

Positive emotions, such as happiness, can have a positive impact on mental health by reducing stress, anxiety, and depression.

Positive thinking, social connections, and physical activity are just a few examples of things that can contribute to happiness.

One of the key ways to improve mental health is to focus on developing positive relationships with family, friends and colleagues. By building strong and supportive relationships, people can feel more connected and fulfilled, which can lead to happiness. Furthermore, engaging in activities that bring pleasure and satisfaction, such as hobbies or volunteer work, can also help to boost happiness and mental health.

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Physical activity is also an important aspect of both happiness and mental health.

Regular exercise has been found to decrease symptoms of depression and anxiety, as well as improve overall mood.

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In addition, it has been found that regular physical activity can improve self-esteem, reduce stress, and increase feelings of happiness.

A healthy diet is also important for happiness and mental health. Eating a balanced diet that includes a variety of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains can help to improve overall health and well-being. Studies have also found that certain foods, such as fish, nuts, and dark chocolate, can help to boost mood and reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression.

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Proper sleep is also crucial for happiness and mental health. Getting enough sleep each night is important for maintaining a healthy balance of hormones and neurotransmitters, which can help to improve mood, reduce stress, and boost overall well-being.

Happiness and mental health are closely related. By focusing on things that bring happiness, such as positive relationships, activities, physical activity, a healthy diet, and proper sleep, people can improve their mental health and overall well-being. It is important to take care of oneself and seek help if needed.

Check this video from Action for Happiness Mental Health & Happiness with Prof. Richard Layard

Wellbeing sessions for Accounting staff

Are you feeling the pressure and stress of work taking a toll on your health and well-being?

Stress is widespread in the accounting profession. 2021 research from the CABA showed that 2 in 5 accountants felt too emotionally drained to keep up with their work. 

Introducing ‘Escape to Happiness Island’ – a series of sessions designed specifically for accountants to help you stay calm and happy during work. Our sessions equip you with tools and techniques to manage stress, improve mental health and overall well-being.

About our Happiness Island Facilitator

Genny Jones has been working in the accounting profession for 25 years in various roles. Over the years she has overcome a period of   work burn out, depression and  low self esteem  to developing her unique Happiness and wellbeing  sessions aimed at businesses to help employees manage their stress levels so that they can be more productive.

In Accounting there is the concept of the duality of transactions which Genny applies in life. On one hand she has the serious professional head of an Accountant and on the other hand she  has created a  bubbly persona Confident Queen with a mission to share joy and happiness, which she was able to do when she appeared on Britain’s Got Talent and wowed the audience and judges who gave her “Yeses”

Genny works to help people not to take themselves too seriously by having time for fun and laughter. Genny specialises in using laughter and humour to help people manage stress and to be resilient,

Genny’s sessions are very practical and she shares techniques which helped her as well as those she learnt from others

About the sessions

The sessions are fun packed, interactive and can include: –

  1. Tips on managing stress and avoiding burnout
  2. Visualisation and meditation
  3. Laughter Yoga and breathing
  4. Singing and Dancing to our double entry song
  5. Creative arts and craft

Benefits of the session

At the end of the session participants will: –

  1. Have better understanding of the need to have time for fun
  2. Feel good
  3. Be more productive
  4. Have a positive outlook to life
  5. Take with them a simple booklet with practical tips to cope with everyday life

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Happiness and Wellbeing Toolbox

Genny has developed her Happiness and Wellbeing toolbox which has various items and tips which can be used to boost one’s happiness and wellbeing.

Awards and Nominations

  • Nominated for the ITV Meridian ‘Pride of Britain’ Award for the work she does helping people to feel happier.
  • Listed on Independent on Sunday List of top 100 Happy people in UK making a difference.
  • Finalist of the Happy Team Award at the National Happiness Awards

Join us and take a break from the daily grind, and escape to a place where happiness reigns virtually or at your office

Send your enquiries now for the Escape to Happiness Island Experience to make you feel good and energised,

Wake up and feel happy #MondayMorning

Due to popular requests I am back to doing early morning 15 minutes Facebook live the aim is to get us all to start the day on a positive note even if life may not be going as planned. Let’s get those happy juices flowing and then set our intentions to have a good day.

What to expect

I will firstly check in with you to see how you are feeling and then guide us through a series of activities to get our happy juices flowing.

  1. Grateful for waking up to see another day

2. One Minute Smilence – recall happy thoughts whilst smiling for a minites

3. One Minute Laughter

4. Move your body – dance and feel good

5. Setting our intentions for the day – It’s a good day and I am going to have a good day.o

6. Sending love and good vibes to everyone

7. Feel Confident t start the day

A bit about me

I am Genny Jones aka Confident Queen, UK Laughter Champion 2022, Happiness Coach and Wellbeing Consultant. Having recovered from a period of sadness, depression and low self esteem after my divorce, I made it my mission to equip myself with tools to help as many peopls as I can to have a positive attitude to life even through life may not be going as planned.

Tips on how to stop overthinking

Constant worrying and overthinking is really not good for our mental health and  well-being. Do you  find yourself at times, overthinking about a situation? This was me yesterday. I started thinking about a  challenge that I was going through and went through various scenarios in my mind, that it lowered my mood and I  just felt bothered and stressed. After about two hours, I decided to distract my mind through meditation, and I then started to search for articles online on how to cope with overthinking, I must say this helped me quite a lot and I decided to share some of the tips here.

Distract yourself. -When you realize you’re starting to ruminate, finding a distraction as it can break your thought cycle.  Exercise, engage in conversation on a completely different subject or get working on a project that will distract your mind from a barrage of negative thoughts.

Meditate to quiet your mind –Research has shown that developing  regular meditation routine is a good way   to help clear your mind of nervous chatter by turning your attention inward. All you need is 5 minutes and a quiet place. I use a lot of guided meditation I have found on youtube which I can use anytime.

Focus on finding a solution –  Dwelling on your problems is not helpful and not good for your wellbeing, instead look for the solution If it’s something you have some control over, consider how you can prevent the problem, or challenge yourself to identify five potential solutions and then take actions. If it’s something you have no control over—like a natural disaster—think about the strategies you can use to cope with it. Focus on the things you can control, like your attitude and effort.

 Useful links – these are two great articles which have more details on how to cope with overthinking

Kukuwa®African Dance and Laughter Yoga for #Wellbeing

I decided to combine African Dance and Laughter Yoga as these are two things I do to make me feel good. Over the last year, I have ran many sessions and the feedback has always been positive, leaving those attending feeling very happy and ready to make the most of their day. I am both a qualified laughter yoga leader and an African dance workout instructor. I bring to the sessions my bubbly personality and my mission to spread happiness and good vibes. I am also the UK Laughter Champion 2022.

Kukuwa®African Dance for Wellbeing

Kukuwa® African Dance for wellbeing

There has been lots of research dating back to the 1980s which has shown that dancing regularly can help to reduce feelings of anxiety and depression. It is an instant mood-booster as we dance to the beat of music from various parts of Africa and get our happy juices flowing. You don’t even need to know the moves just feel the beat and dance with other like minded people.

Our Kukuwa® African Dance Workout sessions are suitable to all ages and levels of fitness. The same classes are suitable for beginners, intermediate, and advanced levels of fitness. All the dance routines are such that one can choose to either walk through the whole dance class or keep up with the normal pace of the class. All dance movements are low impact, and both seniors and children can participate. Pregnant women can also take Kukuwa® Dance Workout from the start of their pregnancy to full term, depending, of course, on the approval from their doctors.


Laughter Yoga is a complete well-being workout, developed by a medical doctor from India Dr. Madan Kataria and it has spread across many countries. It is a combination of deep breathing exercises from yoga and laughter exercises, which oxygenates our body and brain, makes us feel more healthy and energetic. I don’t tell jokes, we just laugh, because it feels good. During the session you will enjoy various laughter exercise like Milkshake laughter, Snort Laughter, Various Animal Laughter and also have time to create your own laughie. Read more here

5 Tips to cope with negative people in your life

There are people in our lives who we love, but at times their constant negativity can cause us unnecessary stress and anxiety which is not good for our overall wellbeing and happiness.

Here are some of my tips on how to try to deal with this. Please feel free to share yours too.

  1. Accept that they are negative and that you cannot change their negativity, but can change the way you respond to them.
  2. The way people act has nothing to do with you.
  3. Limit the time you spend with them.
  4. Counteract their negativity with positivity.
  5. Before you go to visit a negative person set your intention to be positive and send positive emery to them before you meet them.

Being a Laughter Champion

One of the funniest things I have done this year happened on Sunday 24th April when I took part in the UK Laughter Championships. Their was a time in my life where for 5 years, I lost my joy and sense of happiness because of personal challenges I was going through. At times I felt like a bird trapped in a cage of low self esteem, sadness and depression. I am happy with the help and support of so many people and organisations I was able to set back and now use my experiences to help others.

I entered the competition as it is part of my mission of spreading good vibes and positivity around especially during these times with so much uncertainty, anxiety, stress and negativity around.

The first stage of the competition was to send my laugh for consideration. I was then excited to make it to the finals.

Below in the image of what we had to do.

The most challenging one for me was doing the silent laughter, as you were not allowed to make any sound. The minute I had to do this was so long, and at the end I just had to let the laugh out.

Here is the link to the event on facebook

The other competitors were amazing and had very good laughs. I was surprised and excited and felt honoured that the judges selected me as the winning laugher. Now I look forward to representing UK in the world championships on 15 May 2022 via zoom.

You can find out more here about the World Laughing Championships

Grateful for the write up in my local on line magazine

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