Ditch your new year’s resolution

Sometimes we start the year with a new year’s resolution filled with stuff which at the time of writing seems exciting and attainable, but half way through January we realise nothing has really changed. Ditch those New Year’s Resolution and instead spend some time re-evaluating your life as a whole, and start finding real and meaningful reasons to change, not just because it’s a New Year and that magically inspires you with Will and determination you didn’t have the year before.

We have to set our indentation to  start living our lives the best we can,   being satisfied with who we are, and if we really aren’t genuinely satisfied with life as it is, we need to have a reason to change, and not because a new calendar has flipped over! So ditch the resolution, set realistic goals and start taking action each day that will help you achieve those goals.

Setting an Action Plan to lose weight and be healthier

Now that you have ditched the new years resolution, now its time to create an action plan  as it will force you to think about what you need to do to  achieve your goals and then to take  action.

Step 1 – Write down one goal you want to achieve

For example  main goal – to lose 281bs  starting 1st February  and finishing on 30th April 2021  so that I can be healthier and fitter.

 Step 2  – Create a vison board

Create a vison board of the new you looking fitter and heathier. Your vision board can include images, words, and positive affirmations. Once you have created your Vision board, make sure you put it somewhere you can see it everyday and spend a few minutes imaging you have achieved your goal every single day.

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Step 3 –  Create an action plan based on your vison board – here is an example

Main goal –  lose 281bs by 30th April 2021

Actions  I am going to take lose 281bs

Smalls steps – I am going to lose 7 lbs each month by:

  • Exercising at home 3 times a week using videos
  • Go out for a walk 30 minutes twice a week
  • Cooking and eat healthier meals each day
  • Drinking 1 litter of water in the morning, afternoon, and evening
  • Visualising myself being slimer, fitter and healthier each day
  • Affirming that I am enjoying my daily exercise and healthy eating which is making me energised, fitter and healthier.
  • Celebrating with a happy dance and saying woohoo as I achieve my goals
  • Sign up with Gingerbread FitnFity healthy challenge starting in February

Some Affirmations you could say each day:

– I enjoy walking  for 45 minutes every day as I discover new places and meet interesting people

– I enjoy eating healthy foods and do have the occasional treats which makes me feel good as I see the results

– I enjoy drinking  2 litres of water each day as it refreshes me and fills me with so much energy

 

Do contact me if you need help with this- genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

Create your happy place

 

Creating your happy place

Right now, you may like me, you may feel a bit overwhelmed at times with all the  different stories and negative news  around and the uncertainties of life. It is during these times that we need to create our won happy place in our homes and using our imagination and all our senses we can spend time their to pause, unwind, relax and take in those feel good hormones.

I have created my own happy space my getting the backdrop of a beach scene, and I also put one of those sofas that can also be a bed. I then lie on my chair, with some lovely relaxing music in the background, as I listen and imagine myself having a wonderful time in the Island.

My Happy Space at at home

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My Happy Outdoor place

Our Local Promenade –  When I go to our local promenade, I feel very relaxed as I can sit down, watch the boats go by and as I watch the river,  I spend time imagine myself on a boat going on a cruise to different parts of the world where I meet new people, have new experiences and just have fun. I can also feed the ducks, and make new friends as most times people will just come and sit next to me and start to chat.

I love spending time meditating by focusing on the waterfall and taking in the sounds it makes, as this helps to clear my mind,

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Over to you now – Where is your place?

Remember its a place you can go to chill out, change your environment and zap up some energy, enthusiasm and passion for life.

Your happy place can be:-

  1. A small area in your bedroom
  2. In your garden
  3. In your car
  4. In your imagination where you just visualise being in your own happy Island – check my blog http://wp.me/p1aWbA-iz

 

 Here is another blog to read on the same topic http://positiveatmosphere.com/profiles/blogs/create-your-happy-place

Wishing you  a  peaceful day – May the smile be with you and do let me know how you get on. You can even post picture of your place . 

I also run online sessions via zoom and facebook live on my facebook page – confidentqueen

 

How to be a Happiness Spreader.

 

Why I became a happiness spreader

Their was a time in my life when i lost my zeal for life as a result of my divorce and at about the same time I was made redundant, I had so much debts and was finding it  hard to cope as a single parent. Even though I had friends and  families who could have helped me, I felt very sad and embarrassed. It took me time to sum up the courage to ask for help and when I did, it was the beginning of a beautiful journey.

 

I decided in 2009 to really focus on helping myself and others to be happier. As a happiness spreader  I want to help give hope and encouragement to others in a world which at times can be full of so much negativity. I am on a mission to recruit as many happiness spreaders as I can.

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Who can be a happiness spreader – Anyone can be a happiness spreader so long as you have a passion for helping others to feel good and have a reason to smile.

 

How you can be a happiness spreader –  Just complete the form at the end of this blog and I will send you a welcome letter and add you to the list of Happiness Spreaders. This is all done on a voluntary basis and you are free to  spread happiness in anyway you feel. I will send you the Happiness Spreader digital badge which you can also proudly display.  

Do join our facebook page – https://www.facebook.com/HappinesSpreaders100

Some  of the things you can do as a Happiness Spreader

  • Use your social media platform to post happy stuff and use the #HappinessSpreader
  • Be a beacon of hope and encourage someone
  • Do Random Acts of Kindness
  • Volunteer 
  • Pray for people without them knowing
  • Have  some happy car bumper stickers to make people smile as they go by

These are some examples please shae with many the things that you will be doing nd also also connect with me on my social media platform.

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Twitter: – http://www.twitter.com/#!confident_queen
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ConfidentQueenGenny/about

Updates –  I have a lot of plans for us Happiness Spreaders which I will send via email.   I will also set up a zoom meeting where you can meet other happiness spreaders so that we can connect and share ideas.

Some photos of me spreading happiness -( because of COVID you may want to make use of social media and use the #HappinessSpreader in your postings)

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Plan for a better 2021

No one knows what the future holds, and with 2020 being such an unusual year, it can be tempting not to want to make any plans for the new year. We need to be hopeful and plan for things we have control over. Come and let’s plan how to make the most of the coming year.

Some key things to take into 2021

As we step into 2021, it is important that you set an intention of taking care of you and your mental wellbeing.  Start by creating a daily routine of about 20 minutes in the morning and last thing before you go to sleep. Engage in activities in the morning that will fuel you with good vibes to start you day. For me this includes, meditation, praying, reading something inspirational, setting my intentions for the day, visualizing me having a good day and some exercise.

At the end of each day again in activities that will help you to wind down, calm you so that you can enjoy a good night’s sleep. I enjoy listening to relaxing music, writing down things I am grateful for and doing my one minute smilence.

Contact me if you need help with this genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

Be Hopeful – believe and know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. So long as you are alive there is hope, things may not  turn out the way you want it to be, but still have hope. I am hopeful my business will turn around and my diary will be filled with more bookings.

Be positive – Because you have hope, be positive that things will get better, and limit the amount of negativity you take in. Get a good perspective and understanding of things. I am positive of things being better by visualising and saying out positive affirmations about what I want to make happen.

Be resilient – you have coped with bad situations in the past, so you have it within you to accept, adjust and adapt to whatever life throws at you, and even if you have moments when you can’t cope, remember is ok not to be ok, and its ok to reach out and ask for help.

Be Consistent – If you are serious of making changes in your life, you can’t stop and start, you have to try to be consistent and keep going.  Over the last month, realising that my diary for the first 3 months is looking blank as I don’t  have much work coming into my business, I have been consistent everyday in revieing my business and coming up with new ideas to help me get some more bookings.  I have been spending 3 hours every day on this.

Be an Action taker – things just don’t happen because you think of it, you have to be prepared to take action on a consistent basis. Use your diary and schedule time to do things do that it then becomes a habit. I tend to wake up every day about 5am and spend at least an hour getting myself ready for the day, and this includes planning things I will do at set times. I now do most of my house work on Saturdays, and during the week I block time slots for me time, time with the family, work time and creative time. I have certain days when I do things, so that they have now become habits.

Be Happy – In the midst of uncertainty and challenges, you need to strive to be happy, Happiness is withing you. Even on days that are bad, before you go to bed each night, practise some meditation to calm you down, and spend a minute recalling happy moments in your life, or recall happy thoughts whilst smiling for a minute. Being happy for me also means reaching out to others by doing voluntary work. It gives me joy to see the smiles in people’s faces as i help to deliver lunches and gifts of hope to those vulnerable and in need of encourage, love and support.

Start new habits – New year is always a good time to start some new habits, I read somewhere that it takes 3  to four weeks to make a habit automatic. Firstly you must believe that this new habit is going to be good for you and then commit to do what it takes every for at least the whole of January.  I find it useful to have an accountability partner who can also encourage and support me when I am taking on new habits  Half way through, celebrate that you have come this far and keep going as you see the benefits this new habit is having in your life.

Challenge yourself to be a better version of you and to do what it takes for you to be happy, grateful, and thankful for the Gift of Life.

I would love if you could connect with me please for more good vibes and positivity.

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Celebrate another day being alive

Despite all the uncertainties of life, it is a blessing to wake up and see another day. It is also time to think about those our loved once who are no longer with us, and cherish the memories we shared.

I am at a good stage in my life right now, I don’t have all I want, but I have all I need. I am content and make the most of life as it is, and I hope you too will have the strength and courage to take one day at time.

Here are some of my daily affirmations I say out loud every morning, I have them also printed on my way as a daily reminder. Please take care of you, stay positive and keep smiling.

 

Quick tips for today

  1. Do whatever is necessary to let yourself be happy. Give yourself permission to pursue your own happiness.
  2. Stay connected with friends and family
  3. Express how you feel and don’t bottle up your emotions. 
  4. Stop working too hard at a job that is not fulling – find a way to make the job interesting or plan to leave or have other interesting hobbies that you can focus when you are away from your job.
  5. Be true to yourself and not what others expect of you. Let the haters hate and the doubters doubt.
  6. Share the love, and encourage someone today, give the a reason to smile.
  7. Ask for help and don’t suffer in silence

I would love it if you could join me on my 15 minutes sessions – Escape to Happiness Island to relive stress and feel good- check my facebook page. https://www.facebook.com/confidentqueen/

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How to never give up #KeepHopeAlive #NeverGiveUpDay

Today is never give up day. check out more about this day here https://www.daysoftheyear.com/days/never-give-up-day/

This day  is about motivating and inspiring ourselves and others for never giving up and reaching our goals. It is also time for us to  also  support those who are still trying to achieve their goals and have not quite got there yet.

As you focus on achieving your goals, their will be times when you feel frustrated and fed up because you can’t see the results of your hard work; but I want to encourage you to stay focussed and be positive. 

 

Instead of giving up Take a pause –. Sometimes, pausing and taking a step back can be exactly what you need to give you a brand new perspective on things and to find the wisdom and strength you need for the next steps.

Motivate yourself –Look for ways to motivate yourself that works for you. I get a lot of motivation from reading personal stories about individuals who never gave up despite the challenges and setbacks they face. I also set my daily intentions of things I will do that will move me close to my goals.

 

Surround yourself with people who are resilient – Jim Rohn once said that we are the average of the five individuals we spend the majority of our time with.  If you spend your time with five people who are resilient and positive, you will being to feel that way too and will help make a big difference in your life. I do this by attending regular business networks, following inspirational individuals and engaging in conversation with them, I also have a core network of people who I meet once a month and we encourage and support each other.

 

Choose to be positive – It pays to be positive and focus on the good things that are around you especially in the current climate of doom and gloom. You attract what you continue to focus on, so focus on the good you want to attract by using positive affirmations, setting your intentions each day, and visualise yourself having achieved your goals – focus on how you would feel and what achieving that goal would allow you to do.

 

 

Take a step every day towards your goal. Show up every day and even when the mountain seems too steep to climb, just take a small and simple step. When you string a lot of small steps together, you cover a lot of ground. A year from now you’ll look back in amazement at how far you’ve come.

Be honest with yourself –Be honest about how you feel, what you want, and who you are. Are you really doing all you can to achieve your goals? Do you do at least 3 things that will move your closer to your goals? Are you using your time wisely? Are their things that are distracting you that you should stop doing? What could you do if you knew you could not fail? 

Remember time is passing by, you’ve got to keep going.

Do email me for free consultation on how  through my coaching, I can help you to keep going, stay motivated and keep hope alive. 

Escape to Happiness Island using your imagination #RelieveStress

 

I am very excited that I am going to be delivering my sessions online via zoom, this is something I didn’t think was possible. I have done some sessions for a few groups to see how it will all work and now I feel more confident and ready to run the sessions,

 

 

Book your space now – http://shorturl.at/afvUY

What to expect during the session

This is a time for us to focus on the moment we are together by letting go of our worries and concerns and enjoy our time together. The session includes:-

Smiling, Singing, Dancing, Laughter Yoga, Letting go of our worries, connecting with each other and just having fun.

Before you join the session

Be open to have fun and feel good

Have plain paper and a pen with you

Wear something bright and colourful if you wish

On zoom you don’t need to put your video on, you can just use audio

 

Find out more about our sessions:-

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Sunday Vibes with Confident Queen

Thanks for popping by.

With so many uncertainties these days, I have decided to start my sunday live show to help uplift and inspire us to plan to make the most of the coming week, no matter life unfolds.

It is a light hearted show, and I will have guests who will share their story and inspire us. I will share with you tips to cope with the week and how to plan your week so that you make the most of this precious gift of life. We will end the show on a high with singing and dancing.

It would be good if you can jot down your plans for the coming week and I will share mine with you too. Every sunday we can learn from our challenges and celebrate our successes no matter how small they are.

Pleas like my facebook page https://www.facebook.com/confidentqueen/ and put the time in your diary – this is UK time so you would need to adjust to your time zone. I am so looking forward to you joining me.

 

Please help us fund our #HappyCommunityCar

I have this big dream of getting a happy bus which I can use as part of my mission of doing my bit to spread happiness and good vibes to as many people as I can. For now the dream is to get a happy community car which I can use to deliver food to those in need and gifts to people who will be nominated as a way of making them feel good and have a reason to smile.

 

 

. This need for the Happy Community Car has come because I am currently a volunteer driver delivering lunches and gifts to help those in need around the gravesham area. The residents of one of the sheltered housing complex, all say they look forward to me coming especially as I put on various bright costumes to cheer them up and they always wonder what I will have on the next day.

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My plan is to have my yellow car covered with smiley faces and other fun stickers so that as I drive around people can notice it and smile.. I will also deliver little treats, cards and inspirational messages to make people feel good.

I would really be happy if you could help me make my dreams become a reality by donating what you can towards The Happy Community Car. 

Please donate here https://www.crowdfunder.co.uk/happy-community-car-1

 

 

 

 

 

How to use your imagination to escape from COVID19 to #Escape2HappinessIsland

Right now, a lot of us are going through challenging times because of the situation we find ourselves because of the effects of COVID19.

Over the years, I have learnt to use my imagination to escape from the stresses and challenges of life  and go to  my happiness Island.

 Happiness Island is a place you can escape to  using your creativity and imagination to experience inner peace, joy and happiness,   Being in Happiness Island allows me to experience good vibes and regain my zest for life and you too can experience that,  I now invite you to take an adventure with me. Woohoo- lets go!!!

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Step 1  Best time for you to Escape to Happiness Island

Decide on the best time of the day that you are are  relaxed. (As for me, I am a morning person)   You then need to find somewhere quiet where you can clear your mind and focus.

Step 2  I am ready to experience Happiness and Joy

Take a deep breath in, and then breathe out a couple of times. Now say say the words below.

Step 3.. What does your Happiness Island look like?

Imagine your own Happiness Island using all your senses –  What is the surrounding like? What are you tasting?  What are you smelling? What are you feeling? .What are you hearing? Who is their with you? What are you doing?   What are you eating?  What songs are you listening to or dancing to?

Imagine your Island has everything that you need right now. Spend some time just enjoying your stay their. If you feel like singing sing, if you feel like dancing dance.  Just do anything that makes you feel good,

. Step 4  Be Grateful and thankful for life

Now, focus your mind on God or whoever you see as your source of help and thank them for the Gift of life and all that you have in life right now.  Say out loud at least 7 things you are grateful and thankful for them.

 

Step 5  Leaving Happiness island energised and happy

Imagine you are now leaving Happiness Island feeling Inspired, Energised, Happy and  beaming with smiles.  Join me and do the happy dance.

 

Gift of Happiness Box

As you leave the island you take one of my Gift of Happiness Box. This has  various items you can use to help you sustain your happiness.

Gift of Happiness Box  #HappyBox

Inside this box, you have the following items

Happiness Pledge – For you to pledge that you will devote time to develop your happiness, well being and inner peace.

Small mirror – to remind you that you are unique and special, an original and not a copy

Smiley face – to remind you to smile everyday

Affirmations – 7 happy affirmations that you can read and meditate on each day

Eraser – to remind you that we at times make mistake which we can rob out, learn from it and move on

Miniature Trophy – to remind you that you are a champion, and that you will be celebrating your successes.

Happiness certificate – to remind you to spread the Happiness bug around

Jumbo Size Sun Glasses – which you can wear to have fun

Step 6

As you get back to the real world, do the things you know you have to do to achieve your goal. keep smiling, keep having a positive attitude and keep expecting good things to happen to you.  May the Smile be with you!

Daily reminder

Tip:Be creative and create your own Happiness Island

Get  a plain piece of paper and design your happiness island  or use a computer software using   pictures to bring your Island to life. You can then put this somewhere prominent so you can see it everyday and take a few minutes each day to Escape from COVID19 to you Happiness’ Island and take in some good vibes.

 

Why not book a free meeting with me to see how I can help you to develop your inner peace and happiness by changing your mindset and following a daily routine – Email genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

 

Check out my new online zoom sessions – Escape 2 Happiness Island to relieve stress and feel good.

 

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