How to maintain your happier lifestyle

As a happiness and wellbeing consultant, I felt very honoured to be asked by 360 Lifestyle support to share some of my tips on living a happier life. The tips I share are based on my own lived experiences including my daily routines which does help me to live a happy and contented life. Please feel free to also share your own tips.

Their was a time in my life after my divorce in 2003, when I hit an all time low and for 5 years was locked in a period of sadness and depression. Sometimes I felt I was stuck in in deep hole with no way out. I lived my life on automatic pilot. To the outside world, friends and family, I looked and acted ok, but each time I went home, when the children slept, I would just sit down and cry. When I managed to get help, I started to develop my daily routines to help me have the courage to face each day. I decided to make happiness a life style choice as I got to realise that I was responsible for my own happiness. I have been able to use my experiences and information from courses, and help I received to help others to also develop daily happiness routines. It’s always a pleasure to get feedback weeks later to see the progress people are making.

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Being happy is a lifestyle choice, so no matter what each day unfolds, make time to do something that makes you and someone else feel good. Remember that you are the captain of your own life. No one can give you happiness. It doesn’t come from money. It doesn’t come from fame. It comes from within you, not from your outside circumstances. You don’t have to have a “perfect” life to be happy. The really great news is that you don’t have to be young or old or wealthy or successful in order to be happy. Instead, you can develop a mindset of happiness.

To develop happiness as a lifestyle. I have daily routines which help me to start and finish my day with positivity and gratitude for being alive.

My Morning Routine to fuel my day

My morning routine which fuels my day, I tend to wake up a 6am every day as I am a morning person, and spend up to 90 minutes each morning. I have done this for so many years that it has become a habit. You need to create a routine that will fit your life.

Afternoon routine for me to Pause, Recharge and Refresh

Their was a time when i used to work flat out without a break and as time went on i became burnt out and not very productive. I have learnt to take at least 45 minutes from my busy work schedule to just pause, reflect and recharge. It has now become part of my working week, and I always feel better for it. Even when I do visit clients on their premises, I always schedule my day to include breaks, though most times they seem to eat their lunch at their desk whilst also working. I do try and encourage them to have a break away from their desks.

My evening routine to unwind and relax

After a busy day, it is good to just take time to unwind and relax as this will help you have a good nights sleep.

Tips to help you maintain your lifestyle of happiness

If you would like help to develop your own happier life, do contact me for initial free consultation via zoom or telephone.

Celebrate International week of happiness at work #Happinessatwork

The International Week of Happiness at Work is a Dutch initiative. Maartje Wolff and Fennande van der Meulen came up with the idea at the end of 2017 and launched the first International Week of Happiness at Work in 2018, together with Martin Leroy from Argentina. Why? Because they believe that Happiness at Work is important. When employees are happy at work, they are better parents, better friends, and better community members. The world will be a better place if more people are happy at work. Maartje and Fennande wrote the Happiness at Work Manifesto, that reflects their beliefs on the topic. Please check this website for more information.  https://internationalweekofhappinessatwork.com/

 

As a happiness and wellbeing consultant, I am very excited to be involved in this week of celebrations and below are 7 things you could try as an individual as well as a team. You can also book me to do my 5 minutes fun lunch break sessions or Escape 2 Happiness Island to relieve stress sessions which are fun packed leaving you with good vibes and positivity.

Things you can do during the week

  1. Happiness lunch break – it is very important that you take time from your desk to refresh yourself. Studies show that taking a lunch break allows your mind to rest, recharge and refocus, which can directly improve your productivity for the rest of the day. Taking time out during the day – even if you choose to have multiple, short breaks – this gives your brain a chance to recuperate.
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2. One Minute Smilence – This is where you think happy thoughts whilst smiling for a minute

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3. Gratitude – Write down all the positive things having a job allows you to do.

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4. Thankful –  Write down all the things that your are thankful for in your life

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5. Escape to Happiness Island – Why not get me to deliver this fun session for your company where we virtually or in person visit happiness island using our imagination as well as singing, dancing and laughter yoga. You can also book to attend my lunch time free event via zoom

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6.Positive Affirmations – Get different coloured paper and write some positive affirmations which you can put in a small box, and refer to them at regular times to motivate and inspire you

Affirmations When you are at work

 

7. Have fun and book me Confident Queen to bring some good vibes to your office¬with my popular Happiness Lunch Hour at work.  If I can make Simon Cowell on BGT smile, then I am sure I can do the same with your team! You can also join me on this free zoom lunch time event.

 

8. Laughter yoga and African dance workout sessions in your workplace or via zoom

Sign the Happiness at work manifesto here – https://internationalweekofhappinessatwork.com/manifesto/

You can actually start the week by learning my boomboom song and dance – or make up your own dance routine

Ditch your new year’s resolution

Sometimes we start the year with a new year’s resolution filled with stuff which at the time of writing seems exciting and attainable, but half way through January we realise nothing has really changed. Ditch those New Year’s Resolution and instead spend some time re-evaluating your life as a whole, and start finding real and meaningful reasons to change, not just because it’s a New Year and that magically inspires you with Will and determination you didn’t have the year before.

We have to set our indentation to  start living our lives the best we can,   being satisfied with who we are, and if we really aren’t genuinely satisfied with life as it is, we need to have a reason to change, and not because a new calendar has flipped over! So ditch the resolution, set realistic goals and start taking action each day that will help you achieve those goals.

Setting an Action Plan to lose weight and be healthier

Now that you have ditched the new years resolution, now its time to create an action plan  as it will force you to think about what you need to do to  achieve your goals and then to take  action.

Step 1 – Write down one goal you want to achieve

For example  main goal – to lose 281bs  starting 1st February  and finishing on 30th April 2021  so that I can be healthier and fitter.

 Step 2  – Create a vison board

Create a vison board of the new you looking fitter and heathier. Your vision board can include images, words, and positive affirmations. Once you have created your Vision board, make sure you put it somewhere you can see it everyday and spend a few minutes imaging you have achieved your goal every single day.

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Step 3 –  Create an action plan based on your vison board – here is an example

Main goal –  lose 281bs by 30th April 2021

Actions  I am going to take lose 281bs

Smalls steps – I am going to lose 7 lbs each month by:

  • Exercising at home 3 times a week using videos
  • Go out for a walk 30 minutes twice a week
  • Cooking and eat healthier meals each day
  • Drinking 1 litter of water in the morning, afternoon, and evening
  • Visualising myself being slimer, fitter and healthier each day
  • Affirming that I am enjoying my daily exercise and healthy eating which is making me energised, fitter and healthier.
  • Celebrating with a happy dance and saying woohoo as I achieve my goals
  • Sign up with Gingerbread FitnFity healthy challenge starting in February

Some Affirmations you could say each day:

– I enjoy walking  for 45 minutes every day as I discover new places and meet interesting people

– I enjoy eating healthy foods and do have the occasional treats which makes me feel good as I see the results

– I enjoy drinking  2 litres of water each day as it refreshes me and fills me with so much energy

 

Do contact me if you need help with this- genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

Create your happy place

 

Creating your happy place

 I have created a happy space in my home, where  I can just go, relax, meditate and use my imagination and all my senses to achieve inner peace and happiness away from the business of every day life.  I am grateful I have space in our home to do this.   Further along this blog I share other ideas of  creating your happy space if you don’t  have the space in your home.

My Happy place at at home I have created my own happy space by getting the backdrop of a beach scene. I also bought a folding sofa bed which I can also use as a chair. I then lie on my chair, with some lovely relaxing music playing  in the background, and I imagine myself having a wonderful time in my own happy island.

 

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My Happy Outdoor Place

Our Local Promenade –  When I go to our local promenade, I feel very relaxed as I can sit down, watch the boats go by and watch the swans and listen to the sound of the waves.  I spend time imagine myself on a boat going on a cruise to different parts of the world where I meet new people, have new experiences and just have fun. I can also feed the swans, and make new friends as most times people will just come and sit next to me and start to chat.

I love spending time meditating by focusing on the waterfall and taking in the sounds it makes, as this helps to clear my mind.

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Over to you now – Where is your place?

Remember it’s a place you can go to chill out, change your environment and zap up some energy, enthusiasm and passion for life.

Your happy place can be:-

  1. A small area in your bedroom
  2. In your garden
  3. In your car
  4. In your imagination where you just visualise being in your own happy Island – check my blog http://wp.me/p1aWbA-iz

 

 Here is another blog to read on the same topic http://positiveatmosphere.com/profiles/blogs/create-your-happy-place

Wishing you  a  peaceful day – May the smile be with you and do let me know how you get on. You can even post picture of your place . 

Join me every monday morning on my facebook page for a dose of laughter, fun and tips to fuel your day.

 

 

 

How to be a Happiness Spreader.

 

Why I became a happiness spreader

Their was a time in my life when i lost my zeal for life as a result of my divorce and at about the same time I was made redundant, I had so much debts and was finding it  hard to cope as a single parent. Even though I had friends and  families who could have helped me, I felt very sad and embarrassed. It took me time to sum up the courage to ask for help and when I did, it was the beginning of a beautiful journey.

 

I decided in 2009 to really focus on helping myself and others to be happier. As a happiness spreader  I want to help give hope and encouragement to others in a world which at times can be full of so much negativity. I am on a mission to recruit as many happiness spreaders as I can.

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Who can be a happiness spreader – Anyone can be a happiness spreader so long as you have a passion for helping others to feel good and have a reason to smile.

 

How you can be a happiness spreader –  Just complete the form at the end of this blog and I will send you a welcome letter and add you to the list of Happiness Spreaders. This is all done on a voluntary basis and you are free to  spread happiness in anyway you feel. I will send you the Happiness Spreader digital badge which you can also proudly display.  

Do join our facebook page – https://www.facebook.com/HappinesSpreaders100

Some  of the things you can do as a Happiness Spreader

  • Use your social media platform to post happy stuff and use the #HappinessSpreader
  • Be a beacon of hope and encourage someone
  • Do Random Acts of Kindness
  • Volunteer 
  • Pray for people without them knowing
  • Have  some happy car bumper stickers to make people smile as they go by

These are some examples please shae with many the things that you will be doing nd also also connect with me on my social media platform.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/confidentqueen
Twitter: – http://www.twitter.com/#!confident_queen
Insta: https://www.instagram.com/confidentqueengenny/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ConfidentQueenGenny/about

Updates –  I have a lot of plans for us Happiness Spreaders which I will send via email.   I will also set up a zoom meeting where you can meet other happiness spreaders so that we can connect and share ideas.

Some photos of me spreading happiness -( because of COVID you may want to make use of social media and use the #HappinessSpreader in your postings)

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Plan for a better 2021

No one knows what the future holds, and with 2020 being such an unusual year, it can be tempting not to want to make any plans for the new year. We need to be hopeful and plan for things we have control over. Come and let’s plan how to make the most of the coming year.

Some key things to take into 2021

As we step into 2021, it is important that you set an intention of taking care of you and your mental wellbeing.  Start by creating a daily routine of about 20 minutes in the morning and last thing before you go to sleep. Engage in activities in the morning that will fuel you with good vibes to start you day. For me this includes, meditation, praying, reading something inspirational, setting my intentions for the day, visualizing me having a good day and some exercise.

At the end of each day again in activities that will help you to wind down, calm you so that you can enjoy a good night’s sleep. I enjoy listening to relaxing music, writing down things I am grateful for and doing my one minute smilence.

Contact me if you need help with this genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

Be Hopeful – believe and know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. So long as you are alive there is hope, things may not  turn out the way you want it to be, but still have hope. I am hopeful my business will turn around and my diary will be filled with more bookings.

Be positive – Because you have hope, be positive that things will get better, and limit the amount of negativity you take in. Get a good perspective and understanding of things. I am positive of things being better by visualising and saying out positive affirmations about what I want to make happen.

Be resilient – you have coped with bad situations in the past, so you have it within you to accept, adjust and adapt to whatever life throws at you, and even if you have moments when you can’t cope, remember is ok not to be ok, and its ok to reach out and ask for help.

Be Consistent – If you are serious of making changes in your life, you can’t stop and start, you have to try to be consistent and keep going.  Over the last month, realising that my diary for the first 3 months is looking blank as I don’t  have much work coming into my business, I have been consistent everyday in revieing my business and coming up with new ideas to help me get some more bookings.  I have been spending 3 hours every day on this.

Be an Action taker – things just don’t happen because you think of it, you have to be prepared to take action on a consistent basis. Use your diary and schedule time to do things do that it then becomes a habit. I tend to wake up every day about 5am and spend at least an hour getting myself ready for the day, and this includes planning things I will do at set times. I now do most of my house work on Saturdays, and during the week I block time slots for me time, time with the family, work time and creative time. I have certain days when I do things, so that they have now become habits.

Be Happy – In the midst of uncertainty and challenges, you need to strive to be happy, Happiness is withing you. Even on days that are bad, before you go to bed each night, practise some meditation to calm you down, and spend a minute recalling happy moments in your life, or recall happy thoughts whilst smiling for a minute. Being happy for me also means reaching out to others by doing voluntary work. It gives me joy to see the smiles in people’s faces as i help to deliver lunches and gifts of hope to those vulnerable and in need of encourage, love and support.

Start new habits – New year is always a good time to start some new habits, I read somewhere that it takes 3  to four weeks to make a habit automatic. Firstly you must believe that this new habit is going to be good for you and then commit to do what it takes every for at least the whole of January.  I find it useful to have an accountability partner who can also encourage and support me when I am taking on new habits  Half way through, celebrate that you have come this far and keep going as you see the benefits this new habit is having in your life.

Challenge yourself to be a better version of you and to do what it takes for you to be happy, grateful, and thankful for the Gift of Life.

I would love if you could connect with me please for more good vibes and positivity.

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Celebrate another day being alive

Despite all the uncertainties of life, it is a blessing to wake up and see another day. It is also time to think about those our loved once who are no longer with us, and cherish the memories we shared.

I am at a good stage in my life right now, I don’t have all I want, but I have all I need. I am content and make the most of life as it is, and I hope you too will have the strength and courage to take one day at time.

Here are some of my daily affirmations I say out loud every morning, I have them also printed on my way as a daily reminder. Please take care of you, stay positive and keep smiling.

 

Quick tips for today

  1. Do whatever is necessary to let yourself be happy. Give yourself permission to pursue your own happiness.
  2. Stay connected with friends and family
  3. Express how you feel and don’t bottle up your emotions. 
  4. Stop working too hard at a job that is not fulling – find a way to make the job interesting or plan to leave or have other interesting hobbies that you can focus when you are away from your job.
  5. Be true to yourself and not what others expect of you. Let the haters hate and the doubters doubt.
  6. Share the love, and encourage someone today, give the a reason to smile.
  7. Ask for help and don’t suffer in silence

I would love it if you could join me on my 15 minutes sessions – Escape to Happiness Island to relive stress and feel good- check my facebook page. https://www.facebook.com/confidentqueen/

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How to never give up #KeepHopeAlive #NeverGiveUpDay

Today is never give up day. check out more about this day here https://www.daysoftheyear.com/days/never-give-up-day/

As you focus on achieving your goals, their will be times when you feel frustrated and fed up because you can’t see the results of your hard work; but I want to encourage you to stay focussed and be positive. 

Motivate yourself –Look for ways to motivate yourself that works for you. I get a lot of motivation from reading personal stories about individuals who never gave up despite the challenges and setbacks they face. I also set my daily intentions of things I will do that will move me close to my goals.

 

 

 

Take a step every day towards your goal. Show up every day and even when the mountain seems too steep to climb, just take a small and simple step. When you string a lot of small steps together, you cover a lot of ground. A year from now you’ll look back in amazement at how far you’ve come.

“The mark of a successful person is his or her ability to see problems as opportunities instead of obstacles. And the most important lessons take place not when you celebrate the good times but persevere during the bad ones. Indeed, that’s why the bad times make the good times so good!”UBB

Escape to Happiness Island using your imagination #RelieveStress

 

I am very excited that I am going to be delivering my sessions online via zoom, this is something I didn’t think was possible. I have done some sessions for a few groups to see how it will all work and now I feel more confident and ready to run the sessions,

 

 

Book your space now – http://shorturl.at/afvUY

What to expect during the session

This is a time for us to focus on the moment we are together by letting go of our worries and concerns and enjoy our time together. The session includes:-

Smiling, Singing, Dancing, Laughter Yoga, Letting go of our worries, connecting with each other and just having fun.

Before you join the session

Be open to have fun and feel good

Have plain paper and a pen with you

Wear something bright and colourful if you wish

On zoom you don’t need to put your video on, you can just use audio

 

Find out more about our sessions:-

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Sunday Vibes with Confident Queen

Thanks for popping by.

With so many uncertainties these days, I have decided to start my sunday live show to help uplift and inspire us to plan to make the most of the coming week, no matter life unfolds.

It is a light hearted show, and I will have guests who will share their story and inspire us. I will share with you tips to cope with the week and how to plan your week so that you make the most of this precious gift of life. We will end the show on a high with singing and dancing.

It would be good if you can jot down your plans for the coming week and I will share mine with you too. Every sunday we can learn from our challenges and celebrate our successes no matter how small they are.

Pleas like my facebook page https://www.facebook.com/confidentqueen/ and put the time in your diary – this is UK time so you would need to adjust to your time zone. I am so looking forward to you joining me.

 

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