How to be a Happiness Spreader.


Why I became a happiness spreader

Their was a time in my life when i lost my zeal for life as a result of my divorce and at about the same time I was made redundant, I had so much debts and was finding it  hard to cope as a single parent. Even though I had friends and  families who could have helped me, I felt very sad and embarrassed. It took me time to sum up the courage to ask for help and when I did, it was the beginning of a beautiful journey.


I decided in 2009 to really focus on helping myself and others to be happier. As a happiness spreader  I want to help give hope and encouragement to others in a world which at times can be full of so much negativity. I am on a mission to recruit as many happiness spreaders as I can.

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Who can be a happiness spreader – Anyone can be a happiness spreader so long as you have a passion for helping others to feel good and have a reason to smile.


How you can be a happiness spreader –  Just complete the form at the end of this blog and I will send you a welcome letter and add you to the list of Happiness Spreaders. This is all done on a voluntary basis and you are free to  spread happiness in anyway you feel. I will send you the Happiness Spreader digital badge which you can also proudly display.  

Do join our facebook page –

Some  of the things you can do as a Happiness Spreader

  • Use your social media platform to post happy stuff and use the #HappinessSpreader
  • Be a beacon of hope and encourage someone
  • Do Random Acts of Kindness
  • Volunteer 
  • Pray for people without them knowing
  • Have  some happy car bumper stickers to make people smile as they go by

These are some examples please shae with many the things that you will be doing nd also also connect with me on my social media platform.

Twitter: –!confident_queen

Updates –  I have a lot of plans for us Happiness Spreaders which I will send via email.   I will also set up a zoom meeting where you can meet other happiness spreaders so that we can connect and share ideas.

Some photos of me spreading happiness -( because of COVID you may want to make use of social media and use the #HappinessSpreader in your postings)




Build your confidence with Confident Queen

Confidence Building Program for individuals –

Being confident is about believing in yourself. It’s the feeling of certainty that you can accomplish whatever you set your mind to, provided you stay focus, take the necessary actions and stay positive.

The Gift of Confidence is within you, and I can help you to find ways in which you can unwrap this gift so that you can be the best version of yourself through my coaching and tools that will help you maintain your confidence.


How I lost and regained my Confidence

Few years ago I was suffering from sadness, lost my self confidence  stemming from a  lot of issues in my personal life. I had just finalized divorce proceedings and found myself the single mother of two toddlers, facing financial issues including foreclosure, and was being made to feel redundant in my work and life. There were times when I felt like giving up; when I felt that there was no light at the end of the tunnel.

I  was fortunate to have received help, support, and advice from family, various organisations after I accepted my situation and wanted to find a way out. Over the years, I have learnt to bounce back and be resilient so that now I can share the lessons I have learnt with you. I can also empower you with practical tips tools that will help you too to have a more positive outlook to life, improve your self esteem and self confidence. 


How I can work with you

  1. Initial chat and assessment – Free
  2. Book  one to one session with me  for  30 continuous days – via email and zoom covering all the 6 areas of  my Unstoppable Confidence Programme and  working on specific area you want to be more confident in. £79 (this is my discounted rated)
  3. Do it yourself – Buy my Confidence workbook and go through the activities £7 (this is my discounted rated)
  4. Buy my Confidence workbook and go through the activities with my help over 6 sessions £49 (this is my discounted rated)
  5. Attend my Confidence session – with 10 other people over  6 weeks online zoom and email. £30 for the session (this is my discounted rated)

Details of Confidence Building programme

“Unstoppable Confidence” programme will help you improve on and raise those confidence levels just the way you want.  Weather you choose to just buy the workbook and work on your own or get me to guide you through, you will find this very practical as you will have exciting exercises and assignments to complete which are more than just learning experiences. 

Confidence Programme

  1. Take the confidence quiz – Just how confident are you right now?  
  2. Controlling your Beliefs        
  3. How to overcome Negative Thoughts           
  4. How to overcome Negative Comments from others 
  5. How to feel Confident all the time    
  6. How to lead a Confident Life

Email me now and let me know how I can help you build your inner and outer confidence so that you too can wake up each day singing – Feel Confident Feel Confident, Everyday i feel Confident.

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I wrote my self improvement book Crown of Smiles in which I share my story and give tips on how you too can bounce back.

Steps to make your dream come true #MakeYourDreamComeTrueDay

“Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.”   Motivational speaker Earl Nightingale.

Over the last decade, though I have achieved a lot, I realised that I have also tried to work on too many ideas at a time and towards the later part of last year I felt exhausted and drained.

I took  a couple of days to review all the things I wanted to achieve and now I am, working on my 2 goals. I realise now that by me focusing on these two goals,  it will make a lot of my smaller goals and  dreams become a reality.


How you too can start this process

Get yourself a notebook to write down the answers to these questions:-

Firstly write down all you want to achieve and spend time to really focus on one or two of these goals over the next 3 months.

What is the 1 or 2  goal you want to work on?

Why do you you want to work on that goal?

How would you feel once you have achieved that goal?

Take Action

Research people  who have achieved your goal and make note of the things they have done and how they did it.

Write down your action plan broken down into little steps you will take each day towards achieving your goal.

Create a vision board using photos, words etc that will help you see your goal being accomplished.

Everyday  set your intention to do at least 3 things that will move you closer towards achieving your goals

Celebrate your little successes


Every morning 

Spend a few minutes just being grateful for what you have achieved so far.

Review the 3 things you are going to do today

Spend a few minutes being thankful for all the people, resources and opportunities that are coming your way.


Every evening before you go to sleep

Spend a few minutes just being grateful for what you have achieved so far.

Spend a few minutes looking at your vision board or just imagine how your life would be once you have achieved your goal.







7 ways to deal with problems

We can’t go on in life pretending everything is ok  when in reality we have unresolved problems. Problems are part of life and sometimes a problem will keep resurfacing until we deal with it.

We typically react to a problem in four ways:

1) Flee it: we try to escape, but the problem always follows us


2) Forget it: we hope it will go away if we don’t think about it. But left alone, problems tend to get worse.


3) Fight it: what we resist persists. And problems are no exception.


4) Face it: we look at the issue realistically and deal with it


When trying to sort a problem, you  could:-

.1.First, ask yourself: is there really a problem here? …

2, Accept it …

3.Ask for help. .

4. Use 80 percent of your time to focus and find solutions. …

5. Break the problem down into smaller pieces. …

6.Find the opportunity and/or lesson within the problem.

7. Find out how people who have gone through a similar problems dealt with it.


I hope some of these tips help and if you need more help do contact me. Best wishes and I hope everything works out for you.


Questions to ask yourself when you when you feel a failure.



If we’re willing to view our failure in a positive light and to analyse how we can use what we’ve learnt in the future, the things we go through will enable us to grow stronger and wiser.

If you feel you have failed at something why not take a few minutes to answer these questions which I hope will help you and if you do need help do send me a message.

  1. What have I learned?
  2. Am I grateful for this experience?
  3. How can I turn it into success?
  4. Where do I go from here?
  5. Who else has failed like this, and how can they help me?
  6. How can my experience help others?
  7. Did I actually fail, or just fall short of an unrealistically high goal?
  8. What did I handle well about this experience?’


How to embrace your pain

The last few weeks have been so challenging for me. I had so many situations that got me crying and feeling sorry for myself. even though I am usually a positive person who encourages others to be positive.

Today, I sat down pondering on things, and as I went on my Facebook page, someone had sent me a link to this amazing video, which after i watched it inspired me so much that I had to share it with you here. I hope you too will be encouraged to wipe those tears, take one day at a tine, and stay positive.

When faced with obstacles, try saying this every day:_


Don’t waste your pain

We have all gone through painful situations in life, and though it may not have been pleasant we survived it and are still here. Now it’s time to use our pain to encourage and lift someone else who may be going through the same. #DontWasteYourPain

Don’t just go through your pain, grow through your pain.  Don’t waste your pain, but  use the experience to develop you and to help others who may be going through the same situation. There is a lesson in your pain, learn it and grow through it, don’t keep repeating the same mistake over and over again.

Get your copy and be inspired – Becoming Michelle Obama

Over the years i have been so inspired by Michelle Obama and her latest book is one to read for sure as it is truly ans inspiration and with nuggest of advise to give you hop and uplift your spirits.

Time for you too to be inspired and cliick   on the photo below and get your copy from amazon.


“>Michelle Obama’s book


“After a lifetime of being defined by the labels and titles others have bestowed on me, #IAmBecoming the person I had hidden away and thought was lost.” TheyCallMeNoni @moms_uterus

How to find your purpose in life again

If you woke up and  feel like you’ve lost your sense of purpose in life, and that’s its too late  to rebuild and re-create your life, I encourage you to take a deep breath in and release it out.

Stand up tall – even just for a second. Know that deep within your heart you will find the willpower and tenacity to face and embrace whatever it is you’re dealing with.


If you cannot find the way out of your situation, I urge you to try some of these tips:-

  • Share what you are going through with someone else
  • Search the internet and read about people who have gone through a similar situation but have managed to overcome things.
  • Write down all you are going through, and then write down what you would like to experience in your life right now.
  • Write down all the positive things that your are grateful for in your life right now,
  • Everyday, write down one or two things that you can do to help you change your situation and then commit to take action every day.
  • Pray for strength, and courage to take one day at a time


I know for sure, you can do this, and if you need some help do email me

Life is a gift never take it for granted #EnjoyYourLife

Dear friends and family, life is fragile. Let’s value, love, cherish and appreciate one another while we have the time and opportunity to do so. There comes a time in life when ALL we have is each other.

Kyrzayda Rodriguez, a popular Instagram fashion blogger from the Dominican Republic, died died few days ago after announcing her Stage 4 stomach Cancer. May re soul Rest In Perfect Peace.

Below are her words during her last days and it is very inspirational.

“I have a brand new car 🚗 parked outside that can’t do anything for me, I have all kinds of designers clothes, shoes and bags that can’t do anything for me, I have money in my account that can’t do anything for me, I have a big well furnished house that can’t do anything for me.

Look, I’m lying here in a twin size hospital bed; I can take a plane any day of the week if I like but that can’t do anything for me … So do not let anyone make you feel bad for the things you don’t have – but the things you have, be happy with those; if you have a roof over your head who cares what kind of furnitures is in it… the most important thing in life is LOVE. Lastly, make sure you enjoy the ones you love”. Kyrzayda Rodriguez RIP



Some people just don’t care.

Yesterday I woke up in my usual happy mood filled with positive vibes.  I went to get my train which though it was packed, I managed to get a sit between two people. A few minutes later I felt a bit unwell.

As I noticed  the passenger who sat next to me was getting off  the next stop ,I decided to slide to his sit as it meant I could lean my head against the glass partition. All of a sudden a lady just bashed in front of me and wanted to sit on the seat.

I explain to her that I needed to sit  on that particular seat so that I could rest my head on the  glass partition, she just gave me a dirty look, headphones in her ears,  eyes on her mobile phone she sat in the next seat next to me.  A few minutes later Started to feel unwell again and had to take my jacket off and fan myself. I put  my head on my hand.


When the train reached our destination I was unable to stand – this same woman  sitting next to  me, got up ignored me and still with headphones on and her face on her mobile got of the train.

Meanwhile  a man opposite me noticed me and  came round and asked if I  was ok, I explain I was feeling a bit unwell, he sat  next to me gave me some water to drink, and  another lady went to get a member of staff. Two of the other passengers started talking tome and expressed their disgust at the lady who sat next to me and completely ignored me.

I am just so glad that at least these good people cared enough to notice and help me especially the guy Mike from Gravesend who took time out to make sure I was ok.


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