Confidence building sessions for schools #Confidence

As someone who was bullied in school and suffered from low self esteem and confidence part of my adult life, I created my personna Confident Queen as someone who is full of Confidence  so that she can go out and help especially children and young people to feel good about themselves and develop the confidence to be the best version of themselves. I was able to demonstrate my confidence by auditioning for Britain’s Got Talent singing my confidence song which proved very popular to the judges and audience and helped me promote my confidence message to the nation.

My books

I love writing and have used my skills to write 2 books in my “I can series” helping children to develop the “I Can” attitude.

I get invited to do varied activities in Nurseries. Primary and  Secondary Schools.

  1. Carrear days
  2. Helping with interview skills
  3. Deliver my unique Happiness and Well being activities
  4. Story Telling based on my “I can series” of books
  5. Confidence building sessions for small groups
  6. One to one mentoring and coaching

My tools to help children boost their confidence

I can and Gift of Confidence Boxes

These are boxes which I get children to make. The boxes have special items which children can use on a regular basis to boost their self esteem and confidence.

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Confident Child song –

This is a fun repetitive song which  can help children to boost their confidence as they sing the song especially at moments when they are not feeling so confident.

Wake up and feel happy song

This is a fun feel good song to motivate children especially when they wake up in the morning.

Some photos

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Confident Queen said of her visit to Molehill Primary Academy:

“Thanks for inviting me to do a story session with your school.  I found the whole experience very rewarding as both the children and teachers were open to engage with me and participated in listening to the stories, dressing up, singing and dancing.   I loved the fact that the children could ask me questions and had prior knowledge about Africa through the work they had been doing. I really loved my time with the school and look forward to doing some more sessions in the future.

Check out these links in the schools website


Do send your booking enquires on this  form Thank you

Party for mums

Thanks to the organisers of Mothers Club International who contribute, and plan this annual party for mums, where mothers are appreciated and reminded of the enormous contributions and impact they are having in the lives of their children and family. Congratulations on this 10th anniversary event which was filled with love, fun and laughter. and great to be in company of so many wonderful and amazing mothers. The event is now in it;s 10th year.

The event also gave out awards in various categories  and 3 years ago i was surprised and felt very honoured to have won the heart of Gold Award.

1. Extraordinary Mum – This award is for single mums who singlehandedly raised or are raising their children and had or are having extraordinary results despite every challenge.

2. Super Mum – This award is for married mums who have done or are doing an extraordinary job of raising their children and the results were/are outstanding

3. Heart of Gold – This award is for mothers or mothers’ to be that have done or are doing extraordinary job of raising other people’s children

4. Golden Granny – This award is for grandmothers who have done an extraordinary job of raising their children and are now raising their grandchildren and other people’s children.


Business showcase – where mothers  are encouraged  to share and pro,mote their  businesses.

i have now been to about four of these events  and overall, there is no dull moment. It is always a  night to remember and great to see mothers just having fun.

For more information please check their website

Going to A Royal Garden Party

One of the things in my bucket list has been to attend a Royal Garden Party.

I was therefore very honoured and excited  to receive an invite to attend the event in May representing the Charity Gingerbread The charity  supports us single parents. I set up single parent support group in 2009 and they have always supported and encouraged me in running the group

In my excitement, I did not realise my surname was spelt incorrectly, so have had to send it back for amendments.


What shall I wear?

I must say, I  was not sure what to wear so I have been looking online at previous garden parties to give me an idea.


I  am now going to be looking around for a suitable outfit. Instead of wearing a hat, I have decided to  put on a fascinator.


I am very excited I will get photos of the date to share with you all.

Honoured to be nominated as role model

I am very honoured to be considered a role model.   I just try to help people to be the best version of themselves based on my own personal life experiences and the people who have been my own role models and inspiration.  I am also grateful to the role models and mentors who continue to support my children and I.

The National Diversity Awards –These awards are for people who inspire other individuals through their work, through their commitment to helping others, through their infectious personalities and through adversity.

Positive Role Model Award

The importance of having a role model can never be underestimated; role models help us to be driven, to focus, to achieve goals and strive to gain success. The positive role model award recognises an individual within the community who shows selflessness, drives change and works tirelessly to inspire others.

I volunteer through Inspiring the Futures  and Schools Pastor programme  where I inspire, encourage and support children and young people in schools to be the best version of themselves.


My story

I am  a single mother of two teenage boys. I run my businesses as an accountancy trainer and a happiness and wellbeing coach.

.In 2003 my Self Esteem and Confidence was knocked down to an all time low when I became divorced, my home was due to be repossessed, I had mountain of debts, had two toddlers to look after and three months later I was made redundant from my work! Their have been times when I have felt like giving up.  To the outside world I would appear happy but behind closed doors it was another story of  sadness anxiety and depression as I was too embarrassed to ask for help! For years i could not look in the mirror i felt ugly and i let the negative words and comments of people drag me down.


Year’s on, my life has been transformed as I managed to get help from various organisations and opened up to real friends and family members who helped me along the way.  I created my persona Confident Queen with a mission to help as many people as I can, to develop the confidence to find solutions to whatever is holding them back.  I appeared on Britain’s Got Talent in 2012 dressed up as Confident Queen and was able to wow the audience and judges with my feel good song which is available for download and  used by many to uplift their spirits.


I set up these community projects using my own resources and to make a difference to others – Confidence Children Holiday Club, Happiness Project Kent and the Single Parent support group with the help of Gingerbread the Single Parent Charity.



I wrote my self help book Crown of Smiles which has tips on things people can do on a regular basis to help sustain their confidence level.


I trained to be a laughter YOGA leader with United Minds and have since been delivering laughter and wellbeing sessions to a number of organisations as well as setting up 3 laughter clubs for people to come share experience and do fun stuff to make them feel good leave in a positive mood.  I have also created other products and services to help individuals to develop inner peace, contentment and happiness.

Questions to ask yourself when you when you feel a failure.



If we’re willing to view our failure in a positive light and to analyse how we can use what we’ve learnt in the future, the things we go through will enable us to grow stronger and wiser.

If you feel you have failed at something why not take a few minutes to answer these questions which I hope will help you and if you do need help do send me a message.

  1. What have I learned?
  2. Am I grateful for this experience?
  3. How can I turn it into success?
  4. Where do I go from here?
  5. Who else has failed like this, and how can they help me?
  6. How can my experience help others?
  7. Did I actually fail, or just fall short of an unrealistically high goal?
  8. What did I handle well about this experience?’


Fun stuff to help you feel good #happierme



Get a small group and make your own happy choir singing the boomboom song

Take part in my I smile back campaign – where a Tshirt or  a badge so that people will know its ok for them to smile at you for you will smile back too.




Contact me to  get your own signed copy of my inspirational book Crown of Smiles with practical tips on how you too can live a happier and contented life.

Positive role model- “I was on benefits and wanted to die

The value of a good role model from an early age is so important. Invariably, children will look towards others as examples of how they should try to live.   Our first role models are are parents or care givers and as we grow up we tend to be influenced by our peers.

As s single parent raising boys, I have always made sure that they have good male role models  such as my brothers, teachers, and being into football, their football managers have always been their to help me when i had challenges to deal with.

Now as teenagers, they continue to have role models and today I read about this guy who turned his life around – Reginald Larry-Cole had a successful business, a loving family and expensive cars on the driveway to his dream home. But just a few months later in December 2008, he lost it all when his car finance business Creditlab went bust during the height of the financial crisis.

“I was on benefits and wanted to die “- now I run a £4.3m car finance firm


Read more about this –

Celebrate your achievements #IWD2019 #Northfleet #kent

The International Women’s Day 2019 campaign theme  this year is #BalanceforBetter is a call-to-action for driving gender balance across the world.


Come and join us as we celebrate the achievements of various inspirational women  in Northfleet Kent and discuss the theme #balanceforbetter.  It is also an opportunity to network with others and share experiences.


Lets us know you are coming to join us- book your free space 01474 321 221

Nominations close on 3rd March 



My monthly laughter clubs #LaughterClub

Gravesend Laughter Club

MEGAN CIC – laughter club (free open to everyone)

Meets  first Tuesday each month



MYsocial laughter club – £2

Meets 4th Thursday of each month


RETHINK  laughter club (Closed club)

Thursday, 28th of March 2019 at 10.30am to 12pm

Thursday 29th of August 2019. Between 10.30am to 12pm.


Contact me now to run a session for your group

The secret of turning your dreams into reality

Do you have at least one dream that you wish will become a reality?

Would you like to learn about steps you can take to make it a reality?

Are you willing to spend a few minutes each day doing something to make your dreams become a reality?…….

Now I want you to believe and have faith that it will happen – so read on

I was just reading my daily word for today and this inspired me to write this short article extracting some of the information i read and I hope you find it useful especially if like me you want to make at least one your dreams become a reality.

DARE  TO DREAM – Be a doer not a dreamer

“Your dream is worth only what you’re willing to pay for it. Inspiration without perspiration is just a daydream.

40% of the people you meet have great ideas, but all they do is talk about them.

Another 40% work hard and would be willing to give their all for a great dream – but they don’t have one.

Only the remaining 20% have a dream and the faith to make it come true if you believe and are willing to take daily actions to make your dreams come true and use any challenges you may face as experience to learn from. So go ahead – dare to dream.


What you can do to  help you to start achieving your goal

Get a dream book and pen and use your skill of writing  to answer the following questions and when you have finished feel free to share with me.


  1. What is that one  dream that you want to make come true?
  2. What do you need to do to achieve your dream?
  3. Who do you know who has achieved your  dream? Contact them and learn from them or just use google to search on people who are doing things that are similar to what you want to achieve.
  4. What is going to stop you from achieving your dream?
  5. What can you do about the things that you feel are going to stop you achieving your dream?
  6. Why do you want to achieve each of your dream?
  7. How would you feel when you have achieved each of your dreams?
  8. Now spend a few minutes just imagining in detail that you have achieved that one dream

Hope this has been useful, it is down to you now to have a daily plan of how you are going to achieve that dream o if you need help with all this please contact me and enrol on my Confidence to Achieve my dream programme.


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