Things happen for a reason!



Yesterday I was so excited as I received a small refund from my utility company. When I spoke to one of their employees over the phone, he said I could even take the cheque to a specific bank and so long as I had my passport and some bills to confirm my identity I would be able to cash the cheque.


Excitedly, that morning I went to the bank and presented the cheque and my documents, the cashier asked if I had an account with them, I said no, and then to my utter astonishment, she said I couldn’t cash the cheque and had to pay it into my own bank account. I was so angry and showed her the letter which stated I could cash the cheque, but she still insisted I could not cash the cheque. As I walked out disappointed, I wondered if I should have just told her a lie that I did not have a bank account! But honesty is the best policy.

I then went to my own bank account and explained what had happened; and the cashier said to me that the utility company should not have told me that. Anyway I paid the cheque in. I was hoping to use the cashed cheque to pay my travel expenses to go to work. So now I had to walk all the way back home to get some cash.


On my way home, my son sent me a message that he had left his key at home and wanted me to leave the spare key for him. Even though I was a bit annoyed at having to walk back home I was grateful, as it meant I could leave the key for him.


As I continued walking, I caught up with a lady who was walking in front of me, and just started chatting to her.  During our conversation she  explained that she wanted to start jogging but did not have someone to do this with. As I was in the same position, we exchanged numbers and agreed to become jogging buddies. We then discovered we lived 5 minutes from each other!


As we parted company, I met one of my neighbours and we started talking about healthy eating and she gave me some great tips.


As I reached home, I felt a lot better, and grateful that although the bank did not cash my cheque, me walking back home gave me the opportunity to connect with others in a positive way.

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 17 (Be Grateful even when you feel sad)


Welcome back

Thank you so much for joining in our Sadness Diet and the journey to happier times.  In everyday life, we realise that there is a time for every purpose under heaven, their will be times when we feel sad and times when we feel happy. Yesterday we used the resources from and looked at why its good to enjoy a hug. I hope you managed to hug yourself and shared hugs with others/

Today we look at – Being Grateful even when you are feeling sad

Some days we wake up feeling excited and passionate about life and things are just great. We then have days when we do not feel much motivated at all. When our best laid plans go out the window before the day has barely begun; or when something important unexpectedly goes wrong and we get that sinking feeling our your stomach. Or when you feel sorry for yourself and honestly just want to go back to bed and to sleep again. The old saying tells us to count our blessings, but sometimes that can be difficult to do.

Maybe the simplest and certainly one of the most effective ways to turn such a day, week or month around into something more positive and better is in my experience to turn your focus to gratitude. Because even if things look tough today or for the next 3 or 6 months we can always find something or several things to feel very grateful for about our life. (

When you are grateful…….…

Have more energy and optimism

Are less bothered by life’s hassles

Are more resilient in the face of stress

Are healthier

Suffer less depression than the rest of us

Are more compassionate

Are more likely to help others

Are less materialistic

Are more satisfied with life.

9 Benefits of Being Grateful

Some of the things I am grateful for right now in my life

  1. I am alive and in good health
  2. I have wonderful children, family, church  members and a network of fantastic friends
  3. A roof over our heads and a warm, loving and secure home
  4. Plenty of drinkable water when there are so many in the world with no access to clean water
  5. I have more than enough food to eat and to share with others
  6. Regular contract work
  7. I can enjoy the small and free pleasures of life.
  8. Access to the internet which has allowed me to learn so much and make so many new friends
  9. Being able to be happy and share happiness to others
  10. The setbacks that have formed me and made me stronger
  11. Great memories of my family and friends who are no longer with us


Activity 1 – So now you need to sit down and just take a few minutes to write down all the things that you are grateful for in your life right now. Take your time and each day just keep writing, for me it is therapy and I love going back and reading my gratitude list especially at times when I feel a bit down, it helps me to realise how blessed I truly am, especially in a world where so many are suffering and in need of the basics of life.

Thanks for taking part in the Sadness diet, and I am grateful that you have given me the opportunity to share with you.  No matter what you are going through give yourself permission to SMILE.


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