Tips to avoid a blue christmas

This year, because of COVID19, we see so many people struggling to cope with everyday life because of the effect of it has had on each of our lives. Doing voluntary work in the community, I get to hear so many stories of shattered dreams and lost hope, that affects me to my core.

I sometimes wish I have a magic wand to help people. The other day, whilst delivering lunches to our elderly in the community, I just happened to ask one of the ladies how she would be spending Christmas this year. she revealed to me that she was sad as the cafe that usually puts on christmas dinner and celebrations for them this year would not be able to do so because of the restrictions we have being in Tier 4. This was the highlight of the year to most of them. I felt so sad, I asked the lady for the name of the cafe. When I went home i contacted the owner, and he then informed me that they had set up a crowd funding page and will use the funds raised to do deliveries this year. I donated happily to the fund and excitedly, I booked some of the elderly residents to have their Christmas dinner delivered. When I told them of this, they were so excited and appreciated what I did. I really felt happy and good I was able to help.


Some Tips on coping

  • Accept that Christmas is going to be different and plan to adapt.
  • Don’t be sucked into the hype that everyone is having fun except you. Right now so many people are going through challenging times and are trying to be positive and to take one day at a time.


  • If you are finding it hard to cope, reach out and let people know. Don’t suffer in silence, Their are lots of organisations and people who genuinely care. People can only help if they know you need help. If you are too embarrassed to speak to family or friends, reach out to organisations like the Samaritans who are trained to listen, help and signpost you whilst being non judgemental.
  • Focus on the message of hope and joy the Christmas story gives us.

*Be grateful and thankful you are alive to see another Christmas despite the fact that things may not be going as planned. The more you are grateful, the more life will give you situations to be grateful for. Stay positive and keep hope alive.

  • Plan to celebrate the day doing what makes you feel happy and good. You could dress up, put on your favourite music and dance like nobody’s watching.
  • Recall some of the happy memories you’ve had and be grateful you have those memories
  • Take the focus off yourself, volunteer to help others, or go though you list of contacts  send messages to friends and surprise those you’ve not been in touch with, by a quick phone call. This e may be the last thing you feel like doing, but it is therapeutic, it will restore your perspective and brings a sense of well-being and gratitude.

“Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind. To cherish peace and goodwill, to be plenteous in mercy, is to have the real spirit of Christmas.” — Calvin Coolidge

Remember that Christmas may not be the way you want it to be, but  look forward to something fresh and different. Who knows, you could start new traditions that last generations.




My Christmas Hat Creations #HappinessSpreader

I do love hats,and every Christmas I do like making my own creations. I get the hats and then add my own special touch to them. I am just finishing my 2019 hat and I shall share this with you over the weekend, So do come back and check.

I love wearing my hats going shopping and I can always see the smile on people’s faces as they look at my hats, it is one way of me doing what I love – spreading joy as a happiness spreader.




Why I volunteer to help at the YES group London #basketbrigade

Why I volunteer to  help at the bakset brigade

A few years back, I was going through major financial challenges, and even though I had family and friends who could help me, I felt very embarrassed to ask for help. I am a very postive person who tries  not let things get me down and try to make the best of whatever life throws at me, and so to the outside world I appeared to be very happy and doing my bit to help others, but behind closed doors I felt helpless.

Basket of christmas goods for us?

I remember one year, on the 23rd of December  after  i came home in the afternoon exhausted and stressed, and a few minutes alater,  someone knocked at the door and presented me with the christmas hamper.

I  was very overwhelemed, and aksed who it was from, but  they would not tell me. I siad thank you to them.  I was so happy that my ppeayers had been answered and I started to cry. I was not only able to use the food stuff to feed my children and I, but i was able to share some of items with a neighbour who i knew as also in need.

I wanted to know more.

I searched the internet as i wanted to know who it was from. I eventually found the basket brigade, read about it, amd saw the same baksets that had been deliveredon thier photo gallery.  Ever since that day I vouched to volunteer for the YES Group London Basket Brigade and help make a differemce to others. Read more here


Some photos from the 2017  London YES group basket brigade.

Being part of the crewe on the day, is one of the highlight of my year, and this year I had such  a buzz helping to keep the energy level high by doing  things to make people happy, and feel good. I am so grateful to all the organisers, volunteers, supporters and donors who each year help to make it such a success.

Delivering the baskets on the day is am exciting adventure as different people react differently, and for me having being in that position, it always brings tears to my eyes that I am in good health and now  in a position to help others.

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Why the basket brigade was started.

Tony Robbins  “For me, money was always out of reach as a child. It was always a source of stress because there was never enough of it. I remember having to knock on the neighbor’s door to ask for food for my brother and sister and me. Then, on Thanksgiving Day when I was 11 years old, something happened that changed my life forever. As usual, there was no food in the house, and my parents were fighting. Then I heard someone knocking at the front door. I opened it a crack and saw a man standing on the steps with grocery bags filled with enough food for a big Thanksgiving dinner. I could hardly believe it. My father always said that nobody gave a damn about anybody. But all of a sudden someone I didn’t know, who wasn’t asking for anything in return, was looking out for us. It made me think, strangers care. And I decided that I was going to find a way, somehow, someday, to give back and pay it forward.” read more here

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Mama Christmas – delivering to you the Gift of a smile #christmas

As Mama Christmas, my mission especially this Christmas period, is to  deliver to as many people as I can, words of encouragement to uplift those who are feeling down, gifts that will bring a smile to someone’s face and to sign post people to organisations who can provide help and support during Christmas and beyond.



My Christmas Activities



Getting into the #Christmas mood at our town centre in Gravesend kent

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How to do the One Minute Smilence on #ChristmasDay



This christmas why not spend time thinking happy thoughts or recalling happy experiences in your life  whilst smiling for a minute. You can do this even if you are celebrating on your own, or if you are sharing with family and friends.  You can also do this if  like me you are missing loved once no longer with us this  christmas – recall the treasured  moments you shared.

facts of smiling

How to do your One Minute Smilence  this Christmas

* Find somewhere confortable to sit down, and if you are doing this with a number of  family and friends you could sit round the dinner table or even relax on the floor ( all age groups can do this)

*Get everyone  to slowly breathe in and out 7 times

*Set your timer for a minute

* If   you   are doing this on your own, spend   a minute recalling happy moments and thinking happy thoughts whilst smiling for a minute.

*If you  are doingthis with a few people  get everyone to go round sharing thier happy moments or happy thoughts for a minute  each whilst the   rest of the group is smiling also.



5.After the minute has gone – just shout excitedly “ WooHoo BoomBoom”

Remember to take time out on a regular basis to do your One Minute Smilence. You can also take a Smilefie and post on twitter using #oneminutesmilence


Happy gifts to make someone smile #ChristmasGifts

 The Happy Gift Stall, with affordable gifts from  (£2 to £15) to brighten someone’s day Christmas and beyond. Collect your free smiles, dress up take a smilefie, and collect your free smile.
#ChristmasGift #FeelGoodHampers gifts to brighten someone’s day this #Christmas and beyond
Christmas feel good hampers

#Christmas Gifts that show you care!



Some Reasons why people are buying my book – I can blow up a balloon

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Confident Queen – Being confident on the inside!

Extract from my book I can blow up a balloon! Get the book from Ebay

Confident Queen said to Denzil “Well, I’m not the kind of Queen that rules over a country. I’m the kind of Queen that rules over my own inside. When I feel sad because something hasn’t gone right, I tell myself that I am Queen on the inside – just like you are King on the inside and you can tell yourself everything you need to be confident and keep trying even when things go wrong. You see, I am the Queen of being confident on the inside”.




To book me for Assemblies, Workshops and Speaking on the topic of Confidence and Perseverance email genny @ confident queen . co. uk


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