When you feel like giving up!

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Confidence to Achieve your goals Week 1 (Ask yourself)

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How are your new year’s resolution going?

When we all started this year, a lot of us made wonderful resolutions and plans about things we will do to change our lives.   The reality is that for some of us we are now celebrating the last day in January and we have ditched some of our plans!   If you find yourself in this position, take heart, you are not alone. I am here to help you through the process and together we can “Make it Happen”

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If you really want to achieve your goals in 2015, you really must try to develop the belief that you will achieve them, and are willing to take small daily actions to help you as well as not allowing temporary setbacks to put you off.

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To start with, I want you to spend the next few days writing your answers to these questions.

What do I really want to happen in my life right now?

What is happening in my life right now to stop me from Achieving what I want?

What is stopping me doing what I know I need to do?

What things can I do to change the situation?

Which things can I do myself, where can I get help from?

Who do I know that has gone through this situation that can help me?

Why do I really want to achieve this goal?

Why do I believe I will achieve my goal?

What emotions do I want to be feeling to know I have achieved my goals

What will I do to celebrate my achievements?

I hope the above helps, but if you would like me to help you to develop the confidence to achieve your goals then email me genny@confidentqueen.uk for your initial free consultation, after which it is £27 per session via email. Telephone or skype.

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The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 21 (Congratulations)

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Hello again, and welcome the final day of our 21 Days Diet, and I am so grateful and thankful that you have been part of it.

So right now, what colour is your happiness level?

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Please let me know by commenting on this blog how this sadness diet© has helped you and any comment or suggestions you may have to help me improve it.

RECAP ON SOME OF THE KEY POINTS

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The idea of The sadness diet© is for us to look at the things that make us sad, and together find ways to help us feel happier and have a reason to wake up each day with a smile. So on this journey, I have tried to Support, Motivate, Inspire, Love, and Encourage you.

The method I used to help us look at ways of being happier is the part of a coaching model “IGROWS” which I learnt as part of my Life Coaching course with the Coaching Academey .“IGROWS” mean (Issue, Goals, Reality, Options, Willingness and Smiles.

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Tips to cope when you feel a bit sad

Acknowledge that you are sad – because life is full of challenges and its ok to be sad

Express your feelings of sadness – It is important that you express how you feel as it is all part of the journey towards happiness. So cry, scream etc it’s ok ( this too will pass away) and be patient that in time you will feel happier again.

You could also have a sadness party https://confidentqueen.wordpress.com/2014/07/30/sadness-party/

If you are really feeling deeply sad or depressed, remember you are not alone, and if you feel like talking to someone there is the Samaritans, Mind, NHS Choices and similar organizations that can help you.

Before you go to bed each night just focus on things you are grateful for, think happy thoughts, play happy music so that you can go to bed feeling good and enjoying a good night’s sleep. ( See below on how to add the instant feel good factor to your day).

When you wake up each morning, take a deep breath, focus on grateful for, think happy thoughts, play happy music so that you can start your day with a smile and in a good mood. ( See below on how to add the instant feel good factor to your day)

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Next Steps

Over the next few days, I want you to develop daily habits that will help you to cope with life’s unexpected events that make you sad. Refer back to the 21 days diet and decide which activities work best for you. Below is a suggestion of things you can do each day when you wake up, during the Day and before going to bed.

Instant Feel Good Factor

Find a quiet place

Sit down

Breathe in slowly and Breathe out Slowly ( do this a couple of times)

Breathe in slowly and then laugh out loud slowly (do this a couple of times)

Say – I am so grateful and happy to be alive to see another day.

Think and focus on something that makes you feel happy or just make sing and dance to my favourite “wake up I feel happy boom, boom, I feel like dancing around boom boom, and now I am dancing line no one’s watching boom, boom” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQPhLEWmTvo

Smile – Just spend a few seconds smiling, and then I want you to give out a couple of big laughs (hahaha) and say (woohoo boom boom)

Get your Gift of a smile box, and make use of the items as you continue to feel good and smile,

Now give yourself a big hug them go and share a smile and a hug with someone else!

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SUMMARY OF THE LAST 21 DAYS

Over the last 21 Days, we have covered the following topics and if you do need the whole 21 days I can send you in my Ebook which I am creating for £7. I also offer one to one coaching session to help you in your journey to your happier life and this is £27 per session which can be via skype, telephone, and emails. Face to Face meetings will be charged at a higher rate to cover travel time and costs. I am based in Gravesend Kent (UK)

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 1 Issue

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 2 Goals

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 3 Goals – Vision Boards

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 4 Affirmations

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 5 Celebrate our progress so far

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 6 Don’t be weighed down by your problems

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 7 The Gift of a Smile Box

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 8 Options

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 9 I am willing to change

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 10 Don’t be discouraged

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 11 Make the most of your time

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 12 You are never too old

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 13 Six Ways to Wellbeing

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 14 Meditation by – Liz Almond

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 15 Mindfulness from Action for Happiness

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 16 It’s good to hug

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 18 Bury your regrets

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 19 Time to Review and Reflect

The 21 Days Sadness diet© Day 20 Law of Attraction

The 21 Days Sadness diet© Day 21 Congratulations

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The 21 sadness diet© Day 20 ( Law of Attraction)

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The sadness diet©

The idea of The sadness diet© is for us to look at the things that make us sad, and together find ways to help us feel happier and have a reason to wake up each day with a smile. So on this journey, we will all Support, Motivate, Inspire, Love, and Encourage each other. Method we will use is called “IGROWS” turn our sadness into Joy. (Issue, Goals, Reality, Options, Willingness and Smiles

Feedback from yesterday

I hope that yesterday you were able to go over any days you have missed as well as writing down all the things that you are grateful and thankful for.

Today we look at the law of attraction

The law of attraction is the name given to the belief that “like attracts like” and that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, one can bring about positive or negative results. You see, if you want something to happen, such as you want a bike, don’t just say I want that bike, believe you are going to get that bike. Instead of telling yourself you want the bike, visualise yourself riding that bike. It doesn’t matter whether or not you know when you are going to receive it, just believe you’re going to get it and have no doubts about it. If you have any doubts, quickly change your thought pattern to the positive and focus on receiving or having what you want.

It worked for me

This year, one of my wish was to have a contract for training that would give me a certain amount of money which would help me to improve the quality of life for my children and I. I had no doubt that in time, it would happen. First thing in the morning and last thing at night, I would focus on this and I also was thankful and grateful to God for providing me with this. Within a week of this, I was offered a part time contract for even more that I expected

 

 

Practical steps to use the Law of Attraction

For this to work, you have to believe that it will work, as well as be prepared take the necessary actions everyday towards achieving what you want. To start with, make sure you have about 30 minutes and find somewhere comfortable and relaxing.

Relax your mind

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Relax your mind by meditating for 5 to 10 minutes. Doing this will increase brain power and have your mind at that relaxed state. This step is optional but recommended

Be sure of what you want 

Be sure about what you want and that is something you have strong enthusiasm for. It is best if you focus on one thing at a time. Try at first wishing for things that are easy and measurable then when your wish comes true you will know for sure you got what you wished for. This will build faith.

Ask and you will receive

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Make your request to God, the Universe or whoever you believe in

Create a picture board (vision board) of what you want

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Use pictures you may have or pictures from magazines a to help you see and feel what you want, look at that picture everyday (better to do this in the morning since this will help you to feel better throughout the day), and focus on feelings of happiness, excitement etc

Visualise (Imagine) that what you want is already yours – when you visualise, you have to do so in details. Example: If you’re wanting that Nintendo Wii, see yourself sitting down playing a game on it. See yourself feeling the controller, playing your favourite game(s), touching the console.

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Focus on what you want

Focus as often as you can on what you DO want rather than on what you don’t want..

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Write your wish down. Start with “I am so happy and grateful now that…” and finish the sentence (or paragraph) telling God/ Universe what it is that you want. Write it in the present tense as if you have it right now. Avoid negation terms. Every day until your wish comes true, close your eyes and imagine that what it feels like to have received what you want.

Feel it. This is where you have to feel the way you would feel once you have received what you want. You must act, speak, and think as if you are receiving it now.

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Show gratitude.

Write down all the things you currently have and be grateful and thankful for them

Be grateful and thankful to for experiences you have had which though may have been painful, but when you look back, you realise they have made you a better person. Be Grateful and thankful that what you want to happen is going to happen.

Be Patient

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Don’t look for what you asked for, be patient and don’t get upset if these things don’t happen immediately. Don’t stress the “how” of things. Just know that in time, things will happen and work out for the best.

Article Credits – http://www.wikihow.com/Use-the-Law-of-Attraction

For more information and support email me genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

It would be good if you could try following the above steps and let me know how you get on.

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The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 4

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Remember “  Sadness is always temporary. This too shall pass away”

Thank you so much for joining in our Sadness Diet and the journey to happier times

Welcome back

Hope you are feeling ok today. If you are feeling a bit low, I just want you to stop and take 2 minutes to add the feel good factor to this moment.

Feedback from Yesterday

I hope you at least started to create your vision board yesterday.   With time, you will find that you get to enjoy creating your board as you use your creativity to come up with things that will help bring your ideas to life. I would love for you to feedback on this blog or email me especially if you need help with any of the activities

Today, using our IGROWS model we will focus on our Goals (use of Affirmations)

Today, we will look at using positive affirmations to help us on our journey to a happier life. When you created your vision board yesterday, you may have focussed on a particular thing that you want to experience, Now it’s time to ad some positive words which will allow you to stay positive and focussed.

 Affirmations are basically positive statements that you have to say with confidence, passion, enthusiasm, and belief that the statement is true for you. You need to keep repeating them on a regular basis.

Some Happiness Affirmations 

  • I go to bed with happiness every night
  • I spring out of bed with joy, excitement and a positive attitude.
  • My pleasing and joyful personality is contagious.
  • I am open to giving and receiving happiness.
  • For me, the future is always bright and happy. I focus on things I can change.

The power of affirmations

  • When you write it, the magic begins.
  • After you write it, you can start reading it.
  • When you start reading it, you’ll be able to start saying it.
  • When you start saying it, you start hearing it.
  • When you start hearing it, you start to believe it.
  • When you believe it, things begin to change.
  • When things begin to change, you will understand. And believe.

“Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.” ~ Goethe

Today’s Activity – So what you have to do, is to look at the goal you wanted to achieve in your vision board yesterday and then write down some positive affirmations to help bring your goal to life.

 

More information on affirmations

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-change-your-mind-and-your-life-by-using-affirmations/

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-wise-open-mind/201108/5-steps-make-affirmations-work-you

 

 

Instant Feel Good

  1. Sit down
  2. Breathe in slowly and Breathe out Slowly ( do this a couple of times)
  3. Say –  I am so grateful and happy to be alive to see another day.
  4. Think and focus on something that makes you feel happy or my favourite “wake up I feel happy boom, boom, I feel like dancing around boom boom, and now I am dancing line no one’s watching boom, boom”
  5. Smile – Just spend a few seconds smiling, and then I want you to give out a couple of big laughs (hahaha)

Hope you feel a bit better – you should really try and do the above every morning, last thing at night or at any moment you need a quick pick me up. You could also create your own routine and feel free to send it to me

 

 

See you tomorrow when we will celebrate our progress so far

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 3

Remember “  Sadness is always temporary. This too shall pass away”

 Thank you so much for joining in our Sadness Diet and the journey to happier times

Method we will use is called “IGROWS”

(Issue, Goals, Reality, Options, Willingness and Smiles

Welcome Back

Hope you are feeling ok this morning. If you are feeling a bit low, I just want you to stop and take 2 minutes to add the feel good factor to this moment.

Instant Feel Good

  1. Sit down
  2. Breathe in slowly and Breathe out Slowly ( do this a couple of times)
  3. Say –  I am so grateful and happy to be alive to see another day.
  4. Think and focus on something that makes you feel happy or my favourite “wake up I feel happy boom, boom, I feel like dancing around boom boom, and now I am dancing line no one’s watching boom, boom”
  5. Smile – Just spend a few seconds smiling, and then I want you to give out a couple of big laughs (hahaha)

Hope you feel a bit better – you should really try and do the above every morning, last thing at night or at any moment you need a quick pick me up. You could also create your own routine and feel free to send it to me.

Summary of activities we completed yesterday (Day 1 dealing with the Issue)

Yesterday, the idea was for us to focus on one thing that made us sad but that we have control over and write down what we wanted to happen about it (Our goal)

Feedback from Yesterday

How did you get on yesterday? I would love for you to feedback on this blog or email me especially if you need help with any of the activities

Where you able to complete all the activities? If not don’t beat yourself up, you just need to find a way to complete each activity as it will really equip and empower you with the tools you need to be happier.

Today, using our IGROWS model we will focus on our Goals still

Today, we will look at creating a vision board to help bring our goals alive and compiling some positive affirmations to go with our goals. A vision board is about using images and powerful words to make our goals real.

The idea behind this is that when you surround yourself with images of who you want to become, what you want to have, where you want to live, or where you want to vacation, your life changes to match those images and those desires.

Example Vision Board

http://pixgood.com/oprah-vision-board-examples.html

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Things you will need:

Poster Board, or Just Large A3 paper

Glue., Different Coloured Pens, A Happy Picture of yourself

Various Magazines or Actual pictures of some of the things you would like to achieve

How to make a vision board in 5 steps: More from http://christinekane.com/how-to-make-a-vision-board/#sthash.BqYB5gmr.dpbs

Step 1:

 Go through your magazines and looking through magazines and pulling out pictures or words or headlines that strike your fancy. Have fun with it. Make a big pile of images and phrases and words.

 

Step 2:

Go through the images and begin to lay your favourites on the board. As you lay the pictures on the board, you’ll get a sense how the board should be laid out. For instance, you might assign a theme to each corner of the board. Health, Job, Spirituality, Relationships, for instance. Or it may just be that the images want to go all over the place. Or you might want to fold the board into a book that tells a story.

 

Step 3:

Glue everything onto the board. Add writing if you want. You can paint on it, or write words with markers.

 

Step 4:

(optional, but powerful) Leave space in the very center of the vision board for a fantastic photo of yourself where you look radiant and happy. Paste yourself in the center of your board.

 

Step 5:

Hang your vision board in a place where you will see it often. – See more at: http://christinekane.com/how-to-make-a-vision-board/#sthash.BqYB5gmr.dpuf

 

See you tomorrow when we will do some more work on setting goals and the use of positive affirmations. So send in a copy of your vision board if you wish.

May the Smile be with you

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My Children’s Picture Story Book – I can blow a balloon

 

12Brief Summary of the Book (picture Story Book in Black and White Currently Ebook)

I can Blow a balloon is a short story written by Genny Jones AKA Confident Queen with the aim of teaching children aged 5-7 how to be confident and not  give up when trying to do things.

What the story is about

The Story is about a young boy who could not blow a balloon and how Confident Queen teaches and equip him with a special Gift of Confidence box which has special things he uses to help him feel more confident to blow the balloon.

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Age Group

5-7 years Old

Who Can read it –

This book is best read by an adult to a child as bed time story or as part of a daily reading routine in school, clubs and institutions that work with children aged 5-7 years old

What else comes with the book

( Activity box which includes)

  • Crayons for children to colour the pictures
  • Instruction sheet for children to create their own Gift of Confidence Box
  • Positive Affirmation Cards

 

Email me for more details  genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

 

Check out some reviews:-

Angela Steele “A great read for the younger ones. So uplifting. It made me smile.”

Sarah Webb “We thought the book was really good. Joshua, who’s 6 really enjoyed it, I read it to him first and he’s also read it by himself too since. I think it’s a great story and really is beneficial for children who experience a lack of self esteem/confidence. I have also read it to my foster girl who’s a little old, however, is probably about the same age as Joshua with regards to learning and she thought it was really nice too!”

Jade Webster “I have just read your book, its wonderful.”

 

 

You are a lioness – Be strong and regain your strength


Over the last few month’s I have been inspired by a very wonderful lady Jackie Lloyd from City Praise centre and the amaze women events. I was blessed to meet her one day when I felt low and just needed someone to talk to. I really admired the warmth, love, advise and support she gave to me. It was so refreshing, and though when I went to her I felt weak and vulnerable, by the end of our discussion I felt strong and energised. I left with her words “remember you are a lioness”.

I just woke up this morning remembering her words “ you are a lioness” and came across this article below which I am sharing with you!

With the lioness energy within you, you will become a great provider, able to go out into the world, successfully meet the challenges of life and bring home the bounty for yourself and your loved ones. There is no need to worry about whether you will succeed, for you are the lioness.

The lioness will bring you the gift of perfect timing. She will teach you when to lie low and blend with the surroundings and when to leap out and go after what you desire. Your intuitive side will strengthen as you develop the skill of sensing what is around you and knowing exactly when to make your move.

The lioness is also very strong physically, fast and agile. Breathe in deeply and feel her power within you, healing you and bringing you physical strength.

And once home, let her teach you to relax completely, enjoying the company of others, nuzzling and purring as you build a community of safety and abundance. How blessed you are to be the lioness!

Information extracted from: http://www.poweranimalsunleashed.com/power_animal_024lioness.htm

Abundance and power are yours, for you are the lioness

This christmas give yourself or a child you know the Gift of Positive affirmations in a box and a special letter from ne Confident Queen. Check out my website http://www.confidentqueen.co.uk

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