Confident Queen Genny

“The laughing Accountant” this is the name giving to me my friend in laughter Peter Cann Aka The Laughter Man who uses laughter yoga to help people feel good and energised,

” Genny Jones – She is a laughing accountant who has made it her mission to be happy and help other people get happy through laughter. Genny’s energy and laughter are infectious check my interview with here on my podcast ” https://link.chtbl.com/Genny-Jones “

Taking part in the UK Laughter Championships

Check out this article about it in our local paper – https://www.kentonline.co.uk/gravesend/news/laughing-accountant-set-for-world-stage-266269/

My Happiness Journey as the Laughing Accountant

I have been working in the accounting profession for 25 years in various roles. Over the years I have overcome a period of work burn out, depression and low self esteem to developing my unique happiness and wellbeing sessions aimed at businesses to help employees manage their stress levels so that they can be more productive.

In accounting there is the concept of the duality of transactions, which also applies in life. On one hand I have the serious professional head of an accountant, and on the other hand I have created a  bubbly persona ‘Confident Queen’ with a mission to share joy and happiness, which I was able to do when I appeared on Britain’s Got Talent and wowed the audience and judges who gave me “Yeses”

I work to help people not to take themselves too seriously by having time for fun and laughter. I specialises in using laughter and humour to help people cope with everyday issues mixed with African Dance moves dancing ourselves happy to the beat of the drums.

MY sessions are very practical and I share techniques which helped me as well as those she learnt from others in my journey of inner peace and happiness,

Organisations I hae worked with
NHS
Kent County Council
Kent Police
Rethink Mental Health Charity
Age UK Lambeth
Women of Faith

Happiness and Wellbeing sessions

My unique sessions can be from 15 minutes to an hour long. There is also a half day activity called “Save Our Happy Island” which can be used for team building.

About the sessions

The sessions are fun packed, interactive and can include: –

1. Tips on being happier
2. Visualisation
3. Laughter Yoga
4. Singing and Dancing
5. Arts and Craft

Benefits of the session

At the end of the session participants will: –

1. Have better understanding of the need to have time for fun
2. Feel good
3. Be more productive
4. Have a positive outlook to life
5. Take with them a simple booklet with practical tips to cope with everyday life

Happiness and Wellbeing Toolbox

I have also developed my Happiness and Wellbeing toolbox which has various items and tips which can be used to boost one’s happiness and wellbeing.

Awards and Nominations

• Nominated for the ITV Meridian ‘Pride of Britain’ Award for the work she does helping people to feel happier. https://vimeo.com/75320740
• Listed on Independent on Sunday List of top 100 Happy people in UK making a difference.
• Finalist of the Happy Team Award at the National Happiness Awards

To book an introductory chat: – Email: info@gennyonestraining.com

If you really want to make a change you can, but your first have to believe you can, develop the “I can” mindset, start seeing yourself as what you want to be, and take consistent actions to achieve whatever you set your mind on. Making a commitment to be fitter and healthier is one of the best thing you can do, as the saying goes “Health is wealth”. I don’t believe in going on and off diets, or starting and exercise routine and not sticking to it. What I believe is that we should make being fitter and healthier a life style choice and do things everyday to help us achieve it as the more you do something in a consistent manner it becomes a habit.

I decided to pay more attention to my health when I got a letter from my doctor that I was on the border line diabetic and had to attend the pre diabetic programme, and this shook me up as I know of friends and families who are diabetic and what they have to go throuh. Also turning 60 this year, and loosing my step dad, has really got me thinking about life in general. All this helped me to make the decision to continue my journey of being fitter, healthier and happier taking care of my body, mind and spirit.

I can’t tell you it will be easy, but I can tell you I sure will be worth it. Even on the days when I don’t feel like going to exercise, I give myself a pep talk and remind myself why I made the commitment to be fitter, healthier and happier.

Since 11th May, I have been consistent in exercising at least for 30 minutes 5 days a week full body workout in the gym, walking, dancing and connecting with nature.

I am also drinking more water and eating healthier cooked meal. I also practise meditation and visualisation by creating a programme called Escape to happiness island using my imagination to enjoy inner peace and happiness.

I feel vey good about life right now. So I want to encourage you. “Don’t throw in the towel, use it to wipe the sweat off your face and turn that can’t into CAN”

World Smile Day  is the First Friday of October each year and was created by Harvey Ball a commercial artist from Worcester, Massachusetts who created the smiley face in 1963. It is a day devoted to smiles and kind acts throughout the world. http://www.worldsmileday.com/index.php/article-index/item/373-about-world-smile-day

You can also download this certificate and send it to people who g out doing random acts of kindness and making people have a reason to smile each day.

Once your child moves out to uni their is that feeling of redundancy and that your job as a parent has finished Their is also that sense of satisfaction that you have done your best and equip them with life skills that will help them in this next phase of their life. You should also see it as a time for you to focus on you and planning how you can do things that will help you to enjoy this new freedom.

These are some of the things you will have to deal with
• Excitement – as you prepare your child to go
• When you drop your child off at uni – Tears of Joy
• Going back home after you drop them
• Coping with the Empty nest syndrome
• First visit of your child has settled

1.Excitement – as you prepare your child to go

• Be positive! And confident they will be ok

• Create a list of essentials in advance. …

• Pack a survival kit. Including first aid kit..
• Make sure you go through again how to manage their finances

• Make them aware of the advise, support and facilities in their un.

• Make sure they know the basics – laundry, cooking basic things, using gas/electric cooker, changing the bulb.

• Bulk cook and out in containers so that at least they are eating good food for the first couple of weeks

2. When you drop your child off at uni – Tears of Joy

• Give your child the hug that says, I am here for you, just call me any time of the day
  

• Last words to your child – remind them to focus, study hard, have some time for fun and socialise with others but

3.Going back home after you drop them
There is that feeling of emptiness as you look in their bedroom, you even lie on the bed crying tears of joy – remember that is ok

4.Coping with the Empty nest symdrome

• Find a new interest. Having invested so much in your child or children you may find yourself with some free time on your hands. …

• Get to know your partner again. Or if single find the new you …

• Keep in touch with your child but don’t over do it .

• Pat yourself on the back .for raising your child this far and equipping them with the tools they need to deal with in their journey through Uni and life after.

• Keep in touch with you child but don’t overdo it. You have given them wings so let them fly.

5..First visit of your child has settled
• Don’t just turn up un announced plan it
• Pack your home cooked food that your child likes.
• Don’t prolonged your visit
• Don’t try and re arrange/tidy their room
• Ask about their general welfare
• Top up their provisions by asking what they need don’t assume and buy unnecessary things.

The above is based on my own experience when my son went to Uni.. He is now starting his 3rd year and is so independent and has learn so may life lessons. Please feel free to share your own experiences.

As we start another month what is going through your mind?

Are you going to let this month pass by with you just complaining about how difficult life is, or are you going to change your mindset and look at the possibilities and opportunities life has in store for you?.

Do you have so much you want to accomplish, but have lost the zeal and energy? Well, it’s time to change your mindset ad and look at the possibilities and opportunities life has in store for you. I believe in you and know that you can do this. The graveyard is ful of some broken dreams, you are alive, and you still have the opportunities to achieve your goals and aspirations. Don’t focus on what you don’t have, focus on what you have and belied that where there is a will, there is a way.

Set your priorities and take action now!

1. Get a large piece of paper and pen
2. Sit down somewhere comfortable and breathe in and out for a few minutes.
3. Say this with passion, conviction and meaning “ I am calm, I have certain priorities in life, and I am going to take time to focus and write them down, with the knowledge that what I focus on becomes my reality.”
4. Write down your current priorities of life.
5. Review your priorities and write down the things you need to do that will be in line with your current priorities.
6. Make a to do list
7. Get your diary or calendar and  against  each day write down what you will be doing, and plan to review your actions every Sunday. ( I have it within me to achieve my goals and aspirations)
8. Review  your plans, make sure you include time for yourself to relax, and that your actions are realistic. Be committed to take your daily actions. (My life my  choices)
9. Every Sunday also take time to celebrate your achievements no matter how small and reward yourself. ( I have it within me to achieve my goals and aspirations)
10. Keep your diary somewhere you can see it each day. Remember first thing each morning to review what you have to do that day, and at the end of each day review your actions, make amendments and celebrate your achievements no matter how small ( I have it within me to achieve my goals and aspirations)

Your life your choices

Life is really what you make it.

If you need any help in setting your priorities and accomplishing your goals contact me for a free initial discussion. genny@confidentqeueen.co.uk

Being a single parent and running my businesses has had challenges, and being a finalist of this award, makes me smile, and it means so much. I urge you to keep going and not let anyone stop you from achieving your goals.

Sometimes, when we have been in a bad relationship, it can harden our heart and we can develop the #FOGHA Fear Of Getting Hurt Again, but with time, help and support, we can get over it and move on.

The Fear oF Getting Hurt Again #FOGHA

For me, my last relationship was back in 2003 when I got divorced and I made the decision to focus on raising up my two children they best i could, and I really could not handle the stress of another relationship. Their have been people who have wanted to take me out or start a relationship, but i just was not interested because i also had the Fear of getting hurt again.

I now realise that, If we don’t allow ourselves to open up to love again, we can miss out on the good things in life and we can miss out on the chance of finding the love we truly strive for

Now my children are young adults, and I am experiencing a bit of the empty nest syndrome, I have been thinking perhaps now is the time to open my heart and let love find it’s way. Funny thing is, as I have been having these thoughts, I seem to be attracting interesting individuals in my life. I am taking things easy and giving myself time before I jump into a relationship which I guess has to come from friendship initially.

Learning from past relationships

**Sometimes you have to get knocked down to learn how to stand back up. To open up to love again, you have to look at the lessons your heartbreak taught you about yourself; maybe it taught you to trust your intuition or to love yourself more, or maybe it taught you how to walk away or when to draw the line. Learning from your past mistakes is the only way you can lead yourself to find love you deserve rather than crumbs of love.

**Be honest with yourself about what went wrong, sometimes it’s you and sometimes it’s them. Sometimes it’s timing and sometimes it’s your own fears and insecurities. If you can be honest with yourself about what exactly went wrong and pin down how you contributed to it, you are more likely to avoid these mistakes in the future.

**It can be easy to think everyone’s out to get you when you’ve been hurt before, but instead of being stuck on the pain and everything that went wrong, allow yourself the power of forgiveness and remind yourself that whoever hurt you was not an evil person, they just weren’t the best person for you.

 **Don’t compare your new partner with your ex as this will only impede you from enjoying the moment. Don’t judge a book by its cover and don’t be so hard on yourself. We are each on our own journeys and we should trust that our story will eventually have a happy ending.

1. “When you start to get back into dating, one of the main things you want to keep in mind is that you should have confidence in yourself knowing  that you are beautiful and have a lot to bring to the table. Your age is an asset — not a barrier — to love.”
2. Finding the right person later on in life can be challenging especially if you’re noticing that they aren’t quite like you or the last person that you were with.  Judging someone too quickly based off of your standards very well could have you missing out on the opportunity to connect with another amazing person.”
3. Enjoy the experience of dating again by being in the moment –   enjoying  the time and space with that person without  expectation of what will happen next or how far the relationship will go.

I have always loved exercising, but must say during lockdown i did not do as much as I could. As lock down eased I enjoy going to my local gym and doing 20 minutes of High Intensive Training 5 days a week, with some african dance workout and walking twice a week. My motivation right now is because I received a letter from my doctor that I need to start the diabetes prevention programme to prevent me getting Diabetes 2. I have now made exercise part of my healthier lifestyle which includes healthy eating and having a positive mental attitude.

If you are struggling to motivate yourself to exercise, here are some of my tips which I hope will help you to stay motivated and make exercise a lifestyle choice.

• Decided why you want to exercise

• Write down all the things exercising will allow you to do.

• Visualise yourself doing those things

• Choose to do exercises that you love

• Choose a schedule that you can stick to.

• Have an exercise buddy

• Reward yourself  at the end of each week and celebrate the fact that you are getting fitter and healthier

• Develop a series of exercise affirmations and  mantras

• Print our your exercise schedule and put it somewhere  you can see it.

• Get a selection of outfits including Tshirts with motivational message to wear.

• Remember Health is wealth