How to maintain your happier lifestyle

Right now you might know me as the fun bubbly and colourful person, but their was a time in my life after my divorce in 2003, when I hit an all time low and for 5 years was locked in a period of sadness and depression. Sometimes I felt I was stuck in in deep hole with no way out. I lived my life on automatic pilot. To the outside world, friends and family, I looked and acted ok, but each time I went home, when the children slept, I would just sit down and cry. In the midst of it al, hearing the laughter of my children when they where playing gave me hope to carry on and be the best mother I could.
As time went on. I was slowly able to pluck up the courage to reach out and to get help from various individuals who had gone through similar challenges I was going through as well as various organisation’s.

I started to develop my daily routines to help me have the courage to face each day. I decided to make happiness a life style choice as I got to realise that I was responsible for my own happiness. I have been able to use my experiences and information from courses, and help I received to help others to also develop daily happiness routines. It’s always a pleasure to get feedback weeks later to see the progress people are making.

Being happy is a lifestyle choice, so no matter what each day unfolds, make time to do something that makes you and someone else feel good. Remember that you are the captain of your own life. No one can give you happiness. It doesn’t come from money. It doesn’t come from fame. It comes from within you, not from your outside circumstances. You don’t have to have a “perfect” life to be happy. The really great news is that you don’t have to be young or old or wealthy or successful in order to be happy. Instead, you can develop a mindset of happiness.

To develop happiness as a lifestyle. I have daily routines which help me to start and finish my day with positivity and gratitude for being alive.

My Morning Routine to fuel my day

My morning routine which fuels my day, I tend to wake up a 6am every day as I am a morning person, and spend up to 90 minutes each morning. I have done this for so many years that it has become a habit. You need to create a routine that will fit your life.

Afternoon routine for me to Pause, Recharge and Refresh

Their was a time when i used to work flat out without a break and as time went on i became burnt out and not very productive. I have learnt to take at least 45 minutes from my busy work schedule to just pause, reflect and recharge. It has now become part of my working week, and I always feel better for it. Even when I do visit clients on their premises, I always schedule my day to include breaks, though most times they seem to eat their lunch at their desk whilst also working. I do try and encourage them to have a break away from their desks.

My evening routine to unwind and relax

After a busy day, it is good to just take time to unwind and relax as this will help you have a good nights sleep.

We are each responsible for our own happiness. This means not blaming others for your unhappiness. It means figuring out ways in which you can be happy despite others’ (negative) behaviours and despite the external circumstances which are beyond your control

Tips to help you maintain your lifestyle of happiness

If you would like help to develop your own happier life, do contact me for initial free consultation via zoom or telephone.

Advise to parents when your child first goes to University

Once your child moves out to uni their is that feeling of redundancy and that your job as a parent has finished Their is also that sense of satisfaction that you have done your best and equip them with life skills that will help them in this next phase of their life. You should also see it as a time for you to focus on you and planning how you can do things that will help you to enjoy this new freedom.

These are some of the things you will have to deal with
Excitement – as you prepare your child to go
• When you drop your child off at uni – Tears of Joy
• Going back home after you drop them
• Coping with the Empty nest syndrome
• First visit of your child has settled

1.Excitement – as you prepare your child to go

  • Be positive! And confident they will be ok
  • Create a list of essentials in advance. …
  • Pack a survival kit. Including first aid kit..
  • Make sure you go through again how to manage their finances
  • Make them aware of the advise, support and facilities in their un.
  • Make sure they know the basics – laundry, cooking basic things, using gas/electric cooker, changing the bulb.
  • Bulk cook and out in containers so that at least they are eating good food for the first couple of weeks

2. When you drop your child off at uni – Tears of Joy

  • Give your child the hug that says, I am here for you, just call me any time of the day
  • Last words to your child – remind them to focus, study hard, have some time for fun and socialise with others but

3.Going back home after you drop them
There is that feeling of emptiness as you look in their bedroom, you even lie on the bed crying tears of joy – remember that is ok

4.Coping with the Empty nest symdrome

  • Find a new interest. Having invested so much in your child or children you may find yourself with some free time on your hands. …
  • Get to know your partner again. Or if single find the new you …
  • Keep in touch with your child but don’t over do it .
  • Pat yourself on the back .for raising your child this far and equipping them with the tools they need to deal with in their journey through Uni and life after.
  • Keep in touch with you child but don’t overdo it. You have given them wings so let them fly.

5..First visit of your child has settled
• Don’t just turn up un announced plan it
• Pack your home cooked food that your child likes.
• Don’t prolonged your visit
• Don’t try and re arrange/tidy their room
• Ask about their general welfare
• Top up their provisions by asking what they need don’t assume and buy unnecessary things.

The above is based on my own experience when my son went to Uni.. He is now starting his 3rd year and is so independent and has learn so may life lessons. Please feel free to share your own experiences.

Celebrate International week of happiness at work #Happinessatwork

The International Week of Happiness at Work is a Dutch initiative. Maartje Wolff and Fennande van der Meulen came up with the idea at the end of 2017 and launched the first International Week of Happiness at Work in 2018, together with Martin Leroy from Argentina. Why? Because they believe that Happiness at Work is important. When employees are happy at work, they are better parents, better friends, and better community members. The world will be a better place if more people are happy at work. Maartje and Fennande wrote the Happiness at Work Manifesto, that reflects their beliefs on the topic. Please check this website for more information.


As a happiness and wellbeing consultant, I am very excited to be involved in this week of celebrations and below are 7 things you could try as an individual as well as a team. You can also book me to do my 5 minutes fun lunch break sessions or Escape 2 Happiness Island to relieve stress sessions which are fun packed leaving you with good vibes and positivity.

Things you can do during the week

  1. Happiness lunch break – it is very important that you take time from your desk to refresh yourself. Studies show that taking a lunch break allows your mind to rest, recharge and refocus, which can directly improve your productivity for the rest of the day. Taking time out during the day – even if you choose to have multiple, short breaks – this gives your brain a chance to recuperate.
  2. lunchbreak

2. One Minute Smilence – This is where you think happy thoughts whilst smiling for a minute



3. Gratitude – Write down all the positive things having a job allows you to do.


4. Thankful –  Write down all the things that your are thankful for in your life


5. Escape to Happiness Island – Why not get me to deliver this fun session for your company where we virtually or in person visit happiness island using our imagination as well as singing, dancing and laughter yoga. You can also book to attend my lunch time free event via zoom



6.Positive Affirmations – Get different coloured paper and write some positive affirmations which you can put in a small box, and refer to them at regular times to motivate and inspire you

Affirmations When you are at work


7. Have fun and book me Confident Queen to bring some good vibes to your office¬with my popular Happiness Lunch Hour at work.  If I can make Simon Cowell on BGT smile, then I am sure I can do the same with your team! You can also join me on this free zoom lunch time event.


8. Laughter yoga and African dance workout sessions in your workplace or via zoom

Sign the Happiness at work manifesto here –

You can actually start the week by learning my boomboom song and dance – or make up your own dance routine

How to accomplish more this month

As we start another month what is going through your mind?

Are you going to let this month pass by with you just complaining about how difficult life is, or are you going to change your mindset and look at the possibilities and opportunities life has in store for you?.

Do you have so much you want to accomplish, but have lost the zeal and energy? Well, it’s time to change your mindset ad and look at the possibilities and opportunities life has in store for you. I believe in you and know that you can do this. The graveyard is ful of some broken dreams, you are alive, and you still have the opportunities to achieve your goals and aspirations. Don’t focus on what you don’t have, focus on what you have and belied that where there is a will, there is a way.

Set your priorities and take action now!

  1. Get a large piece of paper and pen
  2. Sit down somewhere comfortable and breathe in and out for a few minutes.
  3. Say this with passion, conviction and meaning “ I am calm, I have certain priorities in life, and I am going to take time to focus and write them down, with the knowledge that what I focus on becomes my reality.”
  4. Write down your current priorities of life.
  5. Review your priorities and write down the things you need to do that will be in line with your current priorities.
  6. Make a to do list
  7. Get your diary or calendar and  against  each day write down what you will be doing, and plan to review your actions every Sunday. ( I have it within me to achieve my goals and aspirations)
  8. Review  your plans, make sure you include time for yourself to relax, and that your actions are realistic. Be committed to take your daily actions. (My life my  choices)
  9. Every Sunday also take time to celebrate your achievements no matter how small and reward yourself. ( I have it within me to achieve my goals and aspirations)
  10. Keep your diary somewhere you can see it each day. Remember first thing each morning to review what you have to do that day, and at the end of each day review your actions, make amendments and celebrate your achievements no matter how small ( I have it within me to achieve my goals and aspirations)

Your life your choices

Life is really what you make it.

If you need any help in setting your priorities and accomplishing your goals contact me for a free initial discussion.

Being a single parent and running my businesses has had challenges, and being a finalist of this award, makes me smile, and it means so much. I urge you to keep going and not let anyone stop you from achieving your goals.

Learning to Love again

Sometimes, when we have been in a bad relationship, it can harden our heart and we can develop the #FOGHA Fear Of Getting Hurt Again, but with time, help and support, we can get over it and move on.

The Fear oF Getting Hurt Again #FOGHA

For me, my last relationship was back in 2003 when I got divorced and I made the decision to focus on raising up my two children they best i could, and I really could not handle the stress of another relationship. Their have been people who have wanted to take me out or start a relationship, but i just was not interested because i also had the Fear of getting hurt again.

I now realise that, If we don’t allow ourselves to open up to love again, we can miss out on the good things in life and we can miss out on the chance of finding the love we truly strive for

Now my children are young adults, and I am experiencing a bit of the empty nest syndrome, I have been thinking perhaps now is the time to open my heart and let love find it’s way. Funny thing is, as I have been having these thoughts, I seem to be attracting interesting individuals in my life. I am taking things easy and giving myself time before I jump into a relationship which I guess has to come from friendship initially.

Learning from past relationships

**Sometimes you have to get knocked down to learn how to stand back up. To open up to love again, you have to look at the lessons your heartbreak taught you about yourself; maybe it taught you to trust your intuition or to love yourself more, or maybe it taught you how to walk away or when to draw the line. Learning from your past mistakes is the only way you can lead yourself to find love you deserve rather than crumbs of love.

**Be honest with yourself about what went wrong, sometimes it’s you and sometimes it’s them. Sometimes it’s timing and sometimes it’s your own fears and insecurities. If you can be honest with yourself about what exactly went wrong and pin down how you contributed to it, you are more likely to avoid these mistakes in the future.

**It can be easy to think everyone’s out to get you when you’ve been hurt before, but instead of being stuck on the pain and everything that went wrong, allow yourself the power of forgiveness and remind yourself that whoever hurt you was not an evil person, they just weren’t the best person for you.

 **Don’t compare your new partner with your ex as this will only impede you from enjoying the moment. Don’t judge a book by its cover and don’t be so hard on yourself. We are each on our own journeys and we should trust that our story will eventually have a happy ending.

  1. “When you start to get back into dating, one of the main things you want to keep in mind is that you should have confidence in yourself knowing  that you are beautiful and have a lot to bring to the table. Your age is an asset — not a barrier — to love.”
  2. Finding the right person later on in life can be challenging especially if you’re noticing that they aren’t quite like you or the last person that you were with.  Judging someone too quickly based off of your standards very well could have you missing out on the opportunity to connect with another amazing person.”
  3. Enjoy the experience of dating again by being in the moment –   enjoying  the time and space with that person without  expectation of what will happen next or how far the relationship will go.

How to motivate yourself to exercise

I have always loved exercising, but must say during lockdown i did not do as much as I could. As lock down eased I enjoy going to my local gym and doing 20 minutes of High Intensive Training 5 days a week, with some african dance workout and walking twice a week. My motivation right now is because I received a letter from my doctor that I need to start the diabetes prevention programme to prevent me getting Diabetes 2. I have now made exercise part of my healthier lifestyle which includes healthy eating and having a positive mental attitude.

If you are struggling to motivate yourself to exercise, here are some of my tips which I hope will help you to stay motivated and make exercise a lifestyle choice.

  • Decided why you want to exercise
  • Write down all the things exercising will allow you to do.
  • Visualise yourself doing those things
  • Choose to do exercises that you love
  • Choose a schedule that you can stick to.
  • Have an exercise buddy
  • Reward yourself  at the end of each week and celebrate the fact that you are getting fitter and healthier
  • Develop a series of exercise affirmations and  mantras
  • Print our your exercise schedule and put it somewhere  you can see it.
  • Get a selection of outfits including Tshirts with motivational message to wear.
  • Remember Health is wealth

Laughter Yoga with Confident Queen Genny

Laughter Yoga is  a complete well-being workout, developed by a medical doctor from India Dr. Madan Kataria and it has spread across many countries.  It is a  combination of deep breathing exercises from yoga and laughter exercises, which oxygenates our body and brain, makes us feel more healthy and energetic.

Why I trained to be a laughter yoga leader

I am certified laughter yoga leader and member of the UK laughter Association.

There was a time in my life when I suffered from burnout as I juggled working as an Accountant and raising my two children on my own. I felt I was running my life on automatic pilot and for 5 years I just found it hard to relax and have fun. Things changed for me when I decided to get help and this started my journey into finding simple things I could do to feel good.

I read an article about laughter yoga, went to a few sessions and I then decided to train as a laughter yoga leader with United Minds so that I can help as many people as I can to enjoy the benefits of laughter yoga through my workshops in a fun, interactive and informative manner.

I have been on shows like BBC Genius, ITV Britain’s Got Talent, Who’s doing the dishes and Good Morning Britain demonstrating my laughing skills and getting the nation laughing. I was also listed on the Independent on Sunday Happy List 100 and nominated for Pride of Britain Awards 2013 for making others happy.

Over the years I have run laughter yoga sessions for organisations such as r AGE UK Lambeth, Megan CIC, Gravesend Laughter Club, Happiness Project Kent as well as various educational establishments and conferences.

During a laughter yoga session we laugh  for no reason without relying on humour, jokes or comedy. We also  initiate laughter as a body exercise in a group and with eye contact and childlike playfulness. It soon turns into real and contagious laughter.


What you need to join in:

  1. You don’t need any equipment for this session,
  2. Come with an open mind ready to have a good laugh
  3. Find a comfortable place to sit or stand

What is involved during the session:-

  1. Clapping and Chanting
  2. Breathing Exercises
  3. Childlike Playfulness
  4. Laughter Exercises

“No matter what life throws at you give yourself permission to have 1 minute daily dose of laugher.”

Check out this review about one of y sessions.

African Dance Workout for health

In my youthful days, I used to be in an African Dance Troupe called Sakumoh and it was based in Tottenham UK. I really loved it as we got to travel perform at various venues as we shared our love for African Dance. During lock down, i discovered a lady called Vikki who is a Kukuwa African Fitness instructor, as I attended her classes, I felt my passion for dance coming back. She mentioned the training she went through, and I too decided to undertake the training with KUKUWA I also love to laugh, and trained to be a laughter yoga teacher and have been delivering sessions for various organisations over the years.

I must say studying to be a kukuwa fitness instructor was one of the challenging things I have done as I have not studied for years and learning about body parts etc at first was not exciting to me. Despite this, I carried on with the course and though I failed the first exam, I just carried on and was happy when I eventually passed both the theory and practical.

Due to the success of my first taster sessions last month, I decided to put some more free sessions this month before my paid sessions start in September. Email me now to book your free space and I will send you the zoom link

Kukuwa® Dance Workout (KDW®)
Kukuwa® Dance Workout (KDW®) is a unique style of fitness that is derived from cultural dance movements, from across the continent of Africa.

Kukuwa® Dance Workout classes are suitable to all ages and levels of fitness. The same classes are suitable for beginners, intermediate, and advanced levels of fitness. All the dance routines are such that one can choose to either walk through the whole dance class or keep up with the normal pace of the class. All dance movements are low impact, and both seniors and children can participate. Pregnant women can also take Kukuwa® Dance Workout from the start of their pregnancy to full term, depending, of course, on the approval from their doctors.

Kukuwa® Dance Workout should be done 3 times or more weekly in order to – increase flexibility, strength, coordination, build stamina, balance, burn off fat & calories and maintain fitness.

The Short-Term Benefits of Kukuwa® Dance Workout

• Improvement of cardiovascular endurance and respiratory systems

• Improvement of the efficiency of body performance

• Improvement in muscle flexibility and cardiac efficiency

• Increase in stroke volume – blood that is pumped with each heartbeat

• Lowered heart rate

• Improvement in muscular endurance and muscular strength

• Improvement in breathing capacity

• Increased capacity of respiratory ventilation

• Improved capacity for dissipating metabolically produced heat

The Long-Term Benefits of Kukuwa® Dance Workout

• Increase in lean body mass and muscle mass

• Decrease in body fat

• Positive, visible changes in body composition

About our Classes::

Open all fitness and dance levels.

What to wear

Comfortable clothing in which you can easily move

Bare foot, Jazz shoes, jazz sneakers, indoor sneakers, or thin socks.

Other things you need:-

Water and Small towel  

Come and be ready to move your boombsey and sign up for u[date on classes online and virtual

Happy Father’s Day

Father’s day is always very emotional for me, as I do spend the time thinking of my father now gone 36 years on and n all I have are the memories and an old photograph. I cry as the last time I saw him was when he was in hospital and a few weeks later he was gone. I enjoyed that last time in hospital as we talked a lot and it and I was also able to explain some of the hurts I felt and he gave me so much assurance and hope that he loved me.

As you read this if you are blessed to have had wonderful memories and times with your father, be grateful and thankful. If on the other hand you did not know your father and had no relationship with him, I hope and pray you have managed to move on with your life, and that if you are now a dad you have a better relationship with your children.

Women Ageing Happier And Confident (1)

As I approach another birthday, I have been in deep thoughts and reflecting over my life. I have had my share of ups and downs as it is all part of life. I was inspired ti start this series of blogs for June, by my mum aged 83. She is such a good role model and a tower of strength. I These days I really appreciate the moments we spend and the wisdom about life that she passes on to my children and I.

Right now in my life, my children are now young men, and I do feel it’s time to find me, and to start putting myself first doing things that make me feel good. I am at my happiest and I feel more confident about my future life.

In the next 30 days I aim to be here, sharing some o my life experiences and given you tips which I hope will help you too be be Happier and Confident as you make the most of everyday life.

If you identify yourself as a #WAHAC (Women Ageing Happier and Confident _ and would like to contribute to my blog or share links do message me,

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