It’s good to cry

Their have been times when I have tried to be strong and bottle up a lot of hurt and pain and their have been times when I have been so overwhelmed not know what to do, except to cry for days on end.

Researchers have established that crying releases oxytocin and endogenous opioids, also known as endorphins. These feel-good chemicals help ease both physical and emotional pain.

Crying is the body’s way to not only reduce emotional stress, but also process it. When emotions are held back, such as swallowing or holding back tears, the emotional energy gets congested in the body and can result in health issues.

Why crying is good for us.

  1. It Relieves Stress and lowers blood pressure.

2. Tears Remove Toxins and  stress hormones like cortisol that build up during times of emotional turmoil and can wreak havoc on the body. Crying is both a physical and emotional release that helps humans start over with a blank slate.

3. It Reduces Manganese a mineral which affects mood and is found in significantly greater concentrations in tears than in blood serum.

4. Crying helps us acknowledge the feelings we’re experiencing, and emotions motivate us to empathize, coordinate and work together to survive.

5.Crying is an important social function. It communicates the strength and nature of relationships, elicits sympathy and even assistance, and draws individuals closer to one another.

While the eyes of all mammals are moistened and soothed by tears, only human beings shed tears in response to emotional stress. So go on, feel better by having a good cry, and then wipe the tears dry, for tomorrow will be a better day.

Give yourself a pep talk

I woke up this morning feeling a bit overwhelmed with so much going on and felt like just staying in bed.

I turned and tossed for a few minutes and my inner voice was saying to me – “go on get up and seize the day” I ignored this for a while, but as I heard the birds singing outside my window, I felt the urge to  get up and do my morning routine which includes praying, meditation, reading something inspirational, being grateful and exercising my chuckle muscles. I then went through my to do list and prioritised my day, and decided to write this blog to encourage you too.

Check your plans for the day and prioritise, making sure you have time for feel good breaks throughout the day. I love this daily reminders and hope they will help you too.

I hope your day goes well.

Laugh out Loud for #WorldLaughterDay

World Laughter Day is celebrated on first Sunday of May every year to spread happiness in the whole world. This year, it will be celebrated on Sunday 2nd May. It is a day to raise awareness about laughter and its many healing benefits especially at this time of the COVID 19 pandemic which is raging across places like India and people are in desperate need of some hope and happiness. In these dark and challenging times like these, laughter or humour can be uplifting and bring hope to the people. “ #WorldlaughteDay2021

World Laughter Day is important because it reminds people to stop worrying about small insignificant things and learn to laugh off their problems, facing them head-on. Let’s take a look at how laughter improves our physical and mental health. “

I encourage you to take even a minute to laugh just for the fun of it – Laughter is the best medicine and is good for the soul.

Check out my Escape 2 Happiness Island sessions to feel good and relieve stress.

Escape to Happiness Island is a practitioner-led wellbeing session lasting anything between 15 minutes and an hour, which is transforming the lives and outlooks of people.

The pure joy of these sessions is that they adapt to needs of the participants – each session is tailored live to the audience.

People leave these sessions ready to take on the world, filled with a new-found sense of lightness, a glow of happiness inside them that stays with them in their personal time and in their working life.

To sustain the positivity and benefits of the sessions, Genny Jones, discoverer and caretaker of Happiness Island, has developed a simple booklet, which every participant can take home and use as a passport back to the island!

To find out more about how Genny Jones can put smiles back on the faces of your staff, volunteers, tenants or colleagues, just give her a call and start packing for Happiness Island today!

100 minutes dance challenge #CaptainTom100

About Captain Tom 100 – “During the pandemic Captain Tom stepped up to support the NHS Covid-19 by taking on his famous walk and inspiring millions to donate. We are offering the chance to raise funds in the spirit of Captain Tom for the charity of your choice.”

I have chose to do 100 minutes of dancing to help raise funds for single parent Charity Gingerbread who has helped my children and I since 2003 and have been helping so many other #singleparents. Since 1918, they have been at the forefront of shaping policy and services that support single parents and our continued support will help them to continue to do more amazing work.

Note from Gingerbread

“At Gingerbread, we think single parents do a brilliant job. We’re the leading charity working with single parent families, supporting, advising and campaigning with single mums and dads to help them meet their family’s needs. 1 in 4 families in the UK are now headed by a single parent, however many single parent families continue to experience poverty, disadvantage and stigma. By supporting Gingerbread, you’ll be helping single parents across the country to receive expert advice, practical support, as well as get their voices heard.”

To donate please check my Just Giving Page –

Tips on how to be a Confident Single Parent

I have been a single parent since 2003, and during that time I have had some very dark moments when I felt that their was no light at the end of the tunnel. There have been times when I felt like a bird trapped in a cage with no way out. There have been times when I felt like a bad mother when the children where playing up, when people made negative comments about single parents and when I could not afford to buy my children the latest toy or clothes.

Their have been other times when I have felt confident and happy, when I have celebrated my achievements and that of my children thanks to the help, support and encouragement of family, friends and organisations such as Gingerbread, The Samaritans, Mind, Premier Life Line, my Church and the Grand Gravesend. With their help and support I have been able to overcome a lot of the obstacles I faced and now when I look at my children, I smile because despite it all, they have come out very well.

Here are some of my tips which I hope will help you to become a Confident Single Parent. Start everyday with the intention of having a good day knowing that whatever the day unfolds you can handle it, and ven if you can’t it’s ok for tomorrow is another day. Your children will grow up and they will be a credit to you.

I am so proud that I was able to write this my self improvement book sharing a bit about my journey of being a single parent. I alo and share tips on the practical things which helped me during these years. I hope they will help you too. Get your signed copy now from this link

How to be a woman with Unstoppable Confidence

This course is for you, if you are in need of regaining your confidence to bounce back from set back and take control of your life. The course is also for you too, if perhaps you want to do something, but fear is stopping you. This course will help you to unwrap the Gift of Confidence which is within so that you can have the courage to take a leap of faith and take action which will lead you to achieving your goals and aspirations.

Course Module : Put on your Crown of Confidence  and be unstoppable

Module1 :  The confidence assessment – Just how confident are you?

Module 2: Believing in yourself – What do you need to believe in yourself?

Module 3:How to overcome your negative thoughts

Module 4:How to overcome negative comments from others

Module 5:How to feel confident all of the time!

Module 6:Your confidence plan – How to lead a great, confident life


During the course, you will make your own Gift of Confidence Tool Box with items you can use and refer to on a regular basis to help you maintain your happiness and confidence levels as you go through your amazing life’s journey.


*You will be inspired and energised

*You will be more positive and believe in your self

*You will have tools and resources to help you in your journey of being more confident

*You will be able to achieve more and live a life of limitless possibilities

*You will have your own Gift of Confidence Tool Box with  tips and things to help you sustain your confidence and happiness levels.


Book Half Hour  free consultation – email me now

Attend Workshops of two hour durations face to face or online for 6 weeks

Attend 1day’s intensive workshop online one day course 10am to 3pm

Attend 2 half day workshop 10am to 1pam

Purchase the training course and study at your own pace with support from me Confident Queen

CONFIDENT QUEEN GENNY – your Confidence builder and trainer

I deliver my the course loaded with my training as a life coach as well a my own life story of a time in my life where I suffered low self esteem and confidence so much that I could not look at myself in the mirror. This was because I let the negative comments of people drag me down into a period of depression and anxiety. Delivering this course is a way of  helping you to overcome challenges you may be facing and to be inspired as you focus on a better and brighter future. I have used the course materials by life coach Sean Mcpheat over the years for various organisations and individuals. I have also been able to add my own real life examples of occasions where I have had to unwrap my Gift of Confidence; one of those occasions being when I appeared on Britain’s Got Talent.


The Life Changers Award, a Global Women Innovators and Inventors recognition for Gift of Confidence Programme, as well as a certificate of Achievement from Barclays Bank Trading Awards which celebrate those individuals who have overcome adversity and use their experience to help other,

Please complete the form below and let me know your requirements.

March into the new month with Confidence

Order these mood lifters today #Gifts

Glick on this llink to order your gift set

Inflatable Crown – The crown is a great choice to help you regain your confidence and smile.  Simply inflate the crown with air and put on your Crown and strut your stuff round like the Queen or King you know you are. Say out loud “Feel Confident, Feel Confident, everyday I feel confident. I am  unique, special and happy to be me. Wooohoo”

Novelty Glasses in four different colours – Fun glasses – Put it on and look at the bright side of life.

Gratitude Jotter – everyday take about five minutes just to relax and write down all you are grateful for now and be grateful for the things yet to come. The more you are grateful, the more life will give you things to be grateful for.

Crown of Smiles self-improvement book a pick me up especially if you are feeling a bit low. Read my story of overcoming my challenges and learn from some of the things I did to help me regain my confidence and have a reason to smile each day.

10 Tips on how you can be happier.

I do like this saying “Happiness is an inside job.” It means only I can create happiness in my life. It’s my definition of happy; it’s my rules on how to get there. I am sharing with you some of the things that I do to make me happier.

Remember that you are your own cheerleader. Believe in yourself, work on improving you, knowing you have what it takes to be happier. Accept too that life is about balance. Some days you can be feeling down and that it’s ok for its part of life, other days you will be up and excited to wake up and sing wake up and feel happy.

  1. Accept that things sometime happen for a reason we do not understand.
  2. Let go of the past by focussing on creating a better today.
  3. Everyday express gratitude for life
  4. Do not rely on others to make you happy be your own happiness coach.
  5. Do not isolate yourself connect with others through your hobbies and interest.
  6. Wake up every day with a purpose and a plan for the day.
  7. Fill the first 15 minutes you are up with positivity – One minute smilence, read something inspirational, listen to uplifting songs, record things you are grateful for, enjoy the quietness of the early morning.
  8. Go to bed with a positive thought each night.
  9. Make someone else have a reason to smile.
  10. Keep a diary of some of the funny things that have happened to you so that you can recall in moments when you feel a bit down.

How to plan to be #Fitter #Healthier and #Happier

I decided to share my simple plan with you, if like me you just want to be more consistent in your journey to becoming fitter, healthier and happier. I have created my plan with activities that work best for me and you too must do the same. I invite you to also join my free facebook group with my daily encouragement and you will connect with other like minded people.

Main goal –   lose 281bs by 30th April 2021

Smalls steps – To lose 7 lbs each month till 30th April 2021

1. Exercising by dancing at home 3 times a week using videos and my favourite songs

2. Go out for a walk 50 minutes twice a week

3. Cooking and eat healthier meals each day

4. Drinking 1 litter of water in the morning, afternoon, and evening

5. Visualise myself being slimer, fitter, healthier & Happier

6. Affirming that I am enjoying my daily exercise and healthy eating which is making me energised, fitter and healthier.

7. Celebrating with a happy dance and saying woohoo as I achieve my goals each week.

8. Sign up with Gingerbread FitnFifty  healthy challenge starting in February.

My daily Affirmations

· I enjoy walking  for 50 minutes twice a week as I discover new places, meet interesting people & connect with nature,

· I enjoy eating healthy foods and do have the occasional treats which makes me feel good as I see the results

· I enjoy drinking  1 litre of water each day as it refreshes me and fills me with so much energy



Everyday, I imagine my self being fitter and healthier as if I am in a movie where I am at my fittest, healthiest and happiest. I feel it, I see it, I smell it, I taste it and I enjoy the experience.

My weekly planner and reward chart – I hope you can use this to create yours also.

Remember, I am here to support and encourage you on your journey to become Fitter, Healthier and Happier.

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