Maintain an attitude of gratitude to relieve stress

Are you feeling a bit stressed? One of the things I have learnt to do is to maintain an attitude of gratitude and to record on a regularly basis the things that I am grateful for in life.

Taking the time to feel gratitude can help improve our emotional well-being by helping us cope with stress. Early research suggests that a daily practice of gratitude could affect the body, too. For example, one study found that gratitude was linked to fewer signs of heart disease.

The other day I was so stressed as I was stuck in a traffic jam and had very important meeting to attend to. After a few minutes of being annoyed and realising the traffic was not going to be moving for a while because of an accident; I decided to phone the client to explain I was going to be late, she was so understanding and suggested we schedule.

I felt such a relief and thanked her. Sitting in my car, I started to just recall people and experiences in my life that I was grateful for. This made me take off my mind from the stress, and then I put on my music and started to sing and dance. Looking besides me I could see the next driver smiling at me and shaking his head LOL.

Set clear boundaries to help reduce stress

One of the main cause of my stress and anxiety in the past has been in setting clear boundaries and sticking to them, and even now I do find myself in situations when I say a bad YES to things I should have said a good NO to. I am getting their and continue to improve in this area of my life.


When we set out what we are comfortable with and what we are not, we protect ourselves from relationships that may cross certain boundaries; and we can be confident with what we can and will not allow into our life. This in turn can naturally help lower our stress level which is so important for our overall wellbeing and happiness.
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4 tips to setting clear boundaries

  1. Be clear on what you will and will not tolerate
  2. Learn to say no without feeling guilty
  3. Know how far you can support someone to solve their problems without it causing you stress.
  4. Take time to pause and think before you commit to making key decisions.

Setting boundaries especially if you have not done takes time, but with practise it becomes easier and you will feel much better in your self. Do share with me any tips you may have in setting boundaries or if you need further help with this, do message me.

International Day of Awesomeness

Today is The Day of Awesomeness – a day that encourages us to celebrate the awesome that exists in each of us every day, and gives us an excuse to make our awesomeness shine. “’No one’s perfect, but everyone can be awesome.” – This is the tagline for the day.

History of the Day of Awesomeness
Kevin Lawver spearheaded the Day of Awesomeness in August of 2007, when it was brought to his attention that his overall awesomeness needed to be celebrated by one of his interns. In true Lawver style, he announced there needed to be an International Day of Awesomeness, and proceeded to post this sentiment to twitter. True to the style of those embedded with unbelievable awesomeness, it took on a life of its own and is now a celebration of epic proportions.

“Don’t be afraid to be awesome. Sometimes being weird and different is good. When you think you’re working hard, there is always someone else working harder, so always be yourself and know your stuff.” Jacqueline MacInnes Wood

National Get Over It Day

History of National Get Over It Day
This day was created out of the need that most people have to let go of hurt and pain, especially as it relates to a breakup of a romantic relationship. Jeff Goldblatt is the one who created this holiday, and it was inspired by a time when he was struggling to get over the hurt from an ex-girlfriend. He knew that he just needed to get over her, but it was super difficult.

With the motivation to help himself, and others he knew who were facing similar struggles, the day began and then took off. Strategically spaced between a holiday devoted to love (St. Valentine’s Day), and one all about fun and joking around (April Fool’s Day), this is the perfect time to try to find inner healing and move forward with all of the promising things that the future has to offer.

Most of us at some point can be guilty of holding on to many different things from the past that tend to hurt, annoy, confuse or anger us.

It can be difficult to get rid of negative feelings and, over time, the feelings may grow and turn into a problem as they create bitterness. That’s why it’s time to make life a little lighter and participate in a slightly newer holiday – National Get Over It Day! This is a day for doing exactly what it says: getting over what is holding us back.

Some way to get over it and find freedom from the past:

  1. Process Through the Struggles – One method many people have found helpful in trying to “get over it” is to write down all the things that are irritating, annoying or keeping them awake into the wee hours of the morning. When the list is finished, take some time to contemplate and examine each item on the list and ask if there might be creative ways to change it. Then, try to implement these changes into life by creating new habits and looking for new things to focus on. If these things absolutely cannot be changed, it’s time to let them go! Some people find it helpful to make a pledge to themselves to not spend any more energy and time on it. To help even more with the idea of letting items on the list go, the paper can be ripped up and thrown away (or even burned!) to represent the intent to move forward.
  2. Create a ‘Get Over It’ Playlist and sing and dance to the songs to uplift you
  3. Re-establish Other Relationships and set good boundaries
  4. Enjoy a “Me” Day – you are special so treat yourself with care
  5. Have a Clear Out of things you may have around that remind you of he hurt

International Women’s Day 202 #BreakTheBias

International Women’s Day happens each year on 8th March, and this year’s theme is #BreakTheBias. Below are extracts from the International Women’s Day website which will give you some idea about the meaning of #BreakTheBias and what we can each do to help.

Imagine a gender equal world.
A world free of bias, stereotypes, and discrimination.
A world that is diverse, equitable, and inclusive.
A world where difference is valued and celebrated.
Together we can forge women’s equality.
Collectively we can all #BreakTheBias.

What are some ways we can uncover our own biases?

  1. Start with yourself! Reflect on your own stereotypes, prejudices, and discrimination. …
  2. Educate yourself. A few great resources: …
  3. Practice mindfulness. Pay attention to the thoughts and associations you have about people with different characteristics and identities.
  1. Individually, we’re all responsible for our own thoughts and actions – all day, every day.
  2. We can break the bias in our communities.
  3. We can break the bias in our workplaces.
  4. We can break the bias in our schools, colleges and universities.
  5. Together, we can all break the bias – on International Women’s Day (IWD) and beyond.


Read more here – https://www.internationalwomensday.com/Theme

Tips if you are feeling a bit overwhelmed

Sometimes we can go through life smoothly with nothing happening and .other times it can seem that everything is happening all at once. We feel overwhelmed or stressed and this is ok as it is part of life, and perhaps its an opportunity for us to pause, reflect and set new priorities and boundaries.

The last few days I have been feeling overwhelmed and just felt like just running away from it all and go to a remote village where I can just chill, with no worries and just connect with nature.

I realise this feeling was mostly due to me taking on more work than I can cope with, and also letting other people’s issues drain me, and also not sticking to my boundaries. I decided to take time out for a few days to just pause, reflect and recharge. This is also what prompted me to write this blog,

Here are some of my tips which I hope will help you too when you feel a bit overwhelmed or stress.

4 ways to Smile, Laugh and Feel good

  1. Start your day with a happy song and dance – watch and join me in this short video

2. Create a Laughie

Research by University of Derby Online alumna Freda Gonot-Schoupinsky led to the Laughie, a new way of improving wellbeing by encouraging people to laugh. In the video below, I show you how to create your own laughie.

How to use your Laughie – Laugh with your laughie

3.. Get your creative juices flowing through laughter:-

Is the pace and stress of life getting you down? Feeling like there isn’t time left in the day to get all of the things on your to-do list done? You are not alone! Take a moment to breathe and just laugh for a minute, you will feel good and lift your spirits. Science has proven that laughter actually can be medicine. Those who are in pain or suffering from chronic illness can increase the production of endorphins. When the body releases endorphins the result is a lift in mood and a decrease in pain. So go on and have a good laugh watch a comedy show, try laughter yoga or recall some of your hilarious moments and just laugh and feel good,.

“By simply laughing my spirits were lifted and I felt more relaxed for hours afterwards.”

4.. Keep Smiling

Smiling Is Good for Your Health. Smiling releases endorphins, which improves your mood, helps you to relax, and lowers your blood pressure. Each time you smile, you throw a little feel-good party in your brain. The act of smiling activates neural messaging that benefits your health and happiness. So go on now and Smile.


Do contact me to run fun laughter sessions at your place of work, or at an event you are running or as part of a team building session. genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

Live your life with purpose and passion

Live your life  live with purpose, passion and set your intentions for each day clearly.

Don’t let life  pass you by, instead take time to evaluate your life which includes focussing what want your live  to look and feel like,  making the right choices  and backed with daily actions that will help you to live the life you want and deserve.  

Focus on what you can control and make the most of everyday life no matter what life throws at you. Their will be bad days, but their will be good days too. Keep hope alive and keep smiling. Remember that you can bounce back and things will get better, maybe not as you have planned, but how it is meant to happen. I do love this quote below from an article I read.

Make this part of your daily routine to spend time visualising your dream life. By this I mean think about your dream life as if it’s already actual happened. What do you see, hear, or really feel? Put yourself in that frame of mind, create a daily action list with activities that will help you move close to the dream live you so deserve. Associate with people already living your dream life, indulge with activities that will lets you experience a taste of your dream life. If you need any help do contact me for your free discovery session genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

Bitter Sweet Christmas

This morning I woke up feeling a bit sad as I recalled on Christmas eve being stuck in traffic as I was driving behind a horse driving hearse and it was the funeral of a young boy. As I drove slowly, I found the tears flowing down my cheeks as I thought about this young child gone too soon. I thought about his parents and family the pain they must have been going through. I could not just imagine it especially at this time of the year.

Later on that day I went home to hear the devastating news of the death of a very close family friend whose whole family was such a blessing to me and my children when I was going through some hard times, this again made me cry and felt sad as this man was such a tower of strength for his family. On Christmas day woke up to the news of the death of one of my aunty’s aged 93. I felt happy in a good way that she has lived a very good live and at 93, painful as it is to loose her, she had lived her life to the fill. All these deaths got me thinking about life, and the fact that we should live each day to the full, and show love and support to one another, and create memorable moments.


Our own family Christmas was very low key as it was also the first year without my stap dad who passed this year and my mum bless her tried to be happy but at various moments I could hear her cries and see the tears in her eyes. It’s was not easy, but I am glad the day has gone and we made the most of the day the best we could.

The good bits of Christmas is the fact that one of my son’s cooked us all Christmas dinner and just being around my son and mum made me appreciate the gift of family. It was also good to scroll down my social media and see photos of friends and family enjoying themselves.

Good memories of 2021

Though this year has had it’s challenges and set backs, and some of us can’t wait for it to come to an end, we can find some peace in the fact that their where some good moments too. So this morning, I really enjoyed recalling some of the happier moments. I hope you can too.

Do feel feel free to share some of your happier moments with me.

Remember life is what you make it, always look on the bright side of life, even though some days we have to look harder.

Prepare for a better 2022

I do believe that despite the uncertainties of the new year, we can still prepare to make it a better year. So why not join me for 2 hours as we share tips and go with an action plan ready for the new year

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