Hoe to use laughter, humour and play to transform your personal and work life #StressManagementTips #StressAwareness


Why play is important to us all (Lauren Laverne)

“We’re all convinced we’re too busy to do it, and that’s no accident. Our culture values busyness – it is how we measure goodness. Play is indispensable to human progress and good for individuals. A culture that encourages it will enjoy cumulative benefits. Denmark – officially the happiest country on earth – is an example. Flexible work and affordable childcare are the norm, which means more free time. In addition, there is greater gender equality and a work-to-live culture that includes the expectation that people should pursue private interests.

Read more here http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/oct/05/why-play-is-important-to-us-all-lauren-Laverne

It’s good to laugh



Check these sites

The Health Benefits of Humour and Laughter


Maintain A Sense of Humour to cope with life’s challenges


The Stress Management and Health Benefits of Laughter


Make a Happiness Box with things inside to boost your happiness all year!



Celebrate your unique talent day


Today is a day that we all should celebrate our talent as I feel that we are all gifted to do something.   My unique talent is creating and dressing up in fun outfits and going out to give people a reason to smile. I have been blessed with so much inner joy and I can’t keep it all to myself, I have to share it and give hope to others, as their was a time when I had no reason to smile and it was as if my sunshine had been taken away.

Being on Britain’s Got Talent in 2015 was one of my most memorable and enjoyable moments in my life as I was able to share this my talent with so many people nationally and internationally. https://youtu.be/n_RSU_QFtc4


What is your Unique Talent?

What do you excel at? What gifts, talents or skills are uniquely yours? Take the opportunity to share your unique gifts with friends and colleagues on Celebrate Your Unique Talent Day https://www.daysoftheyear.com/days/celebrate-your-unique-talent-day/


Day 4 of the 20 days #happygravesham challenge

One Minute Smilence


Happiness is not about permanent positivity or pretending things are fine. It’s about learning to cope well with whatever life throws at us.”

Welcome to our 4th day in our mission to spread happiness by giving people reasons to smile inspite of their challenges in #happygravesham #happykent. We hope you can be part of it. This is all part of the activities to celebrate the United Nations International day of happiness on 20th March 2015.

Review from yesterday

I hope yesterday you were able to either make a happy card or buy one and send it to someone to make them smile and feel good. Yesterday I got 40 year 3 children from one of our local primary school to make up a happy paper plate with smiley faces so that we can take to one of our residential homes to cheer people up. 

Today’s challenge – Take one minute out of your busy day to be grateful and thankful that you are alive and SMILE as you appreciate all the good things in your life right now for at least a minute.

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How to do your minute Smilence

You will need a blank paper plate and colouring pencils or markers. You also need something to time yourself for a minute.

Now you are ready

Sit down in a quiet place be thankful that you are alive and think of things that make you smile

Get a paper plate and write down everything that makes you SMILE

Use pictures and images to help with this

When you have finished, set your timer for a minute

Now just spend a minute focussing on things that make you smile and keep smiling for a minute

After the minute has gone – just shout excitedly “ WooHoo”

If you need more help be to be more happier and confident, then contact me


Join us in our social media

Follow us Twitter @happykent then use #happygravesham to say hello and smile with your #happygravesham selfie

Join us in Face book https://www.facebook.com/groups/happinesskent/?fref=ts

The 21 Days sadness diet© Day 9 (….and still I smile)


Method we will use is called “IGROWS” turn our sadness into Joy (IGROWS)

(Issue, Goals, Reality, Options, Willingness and Smiles)

Welcome back

Thank you so much for joining in our Sadness Diet and the journey to happier times.

Feedback from Yesterday

I hope yesterday you were inspired to be committed to start doing something towards achieving your goals and deciding on how you are going to reward and celebrate your progress. Remember if you need help, you can email me genny@confidentqueen.co.uk

Today – Using the IGROWS model, we will look at the letter S – which stands for SMILES


Smiling and laughing can have a positive effect on your well-being, but as you make the transition from child to adult, you often tend to loose the habit of indulging in these behaviours.

A good example of this is a children’s playground: You often see the kids running around, constantly laughing and smiling as they enjoy living in the moment, while the parents sit around the edge, full of the stresses that modern life can bring, with the occasional grin breaking their otherwise serious facial expressions. Adults can benefit from taking a lead from children and making more room in life for smiling and laughter.

Research has shown that there a number of health benefits contributed to smiling and laughing. In addition to improved health, these simple facial expressions and common human behaviours can have a distinctive positive affect on other factors all areas of your life. When you smile and laugh, a number of physiological changes occur in your body, mostly without you being consciously aware of it happening.


7 Benefits of Smiling and Laughing


  1. Neurotransmitters called endorphins are released when you smile.

These are triggered by the movements of the muscles in your face, which is interpreted by your brain, which in turn releases these chemicals. Endorphins are responsible for making us feel happy, and they also help lower stress levels. Faking a smile or laugh works as well as the real thing—the brain doesn’t differentiate between real or fake as it interprets the positioning of the facial muscles in the same way. This is known as the facial feedback hypothesis. The more we stimulate our brain to release this chemical the more often we feel happier and relaxed.

  1. Endorphins make us feel happier and less stressed.

They also act as the body’s natural pain killers. For sufferers of chronic pain, laughing and smiling can be very effective in pain management, as can laughing off the pain when you bump an elbow or fall over.

  1. While the release of endorphins is increased, the stress hormone cortisol is reduced.

Cortisol is more active when we feel stressed or anxious and contributes to the unpleasant feelings we experience, and by lowering it we can reduce these negative feelings.

  1. Laughing expands the lungs, stretches the muscles in the body and stimulates homeostasis.

This exercises the body, replenishing the cells from a lungful of oxygen and gaining all the benefits of exercising the body.

  1. A good laugh can be an effective way to release emotions.

A good laugh can help you release emotions, especially those emotions that you might bottle up inside. Everything looks that little bit better after a good laugh and life can be seen from a more positive perspective. Smiling and laughing have positive social implications as well.

  1. Smiling is an attractive expression, which is more likely to draw people to you rather than push them away.

Smiling makes you appear more approachable. Interaction with others is easier and more enjoyable when smiles and laughs are shared, and these behaviours are contagious, making others feel better too, and make you a more appealing and attractive person to be around. This in turn will have a positive effect on your well-being.

  1. A happy, positive expression will serve you well in life.

This is particularly true for challenging situations such as job interviews: a smiling, relaxed persona indicates confidence and an ability to cope well in stressful situations. This will also be of benefit in your career, building healthy relationships with colleagues and being seen in a favourable light by your employers.

For more information check original article at http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/7-benefits-smiling-and-laughing.html



Today I will like you to spend time to write down what kind of things you are going to be doing to help you to smile or laugh more often.

Instant Feel Good

1.Sit down

2.Breathe in slowly and Breathe out Slowly ( do this a couple of times)

3.Breathe in slowly and then laugh out loud slowly (do this a couple of times)

4.Say – I am so grateful and happy to be alive to see another day.

5.Think and focus on something that makes you feel happy or my favourite “wake up I feel happy boom, boom, I feel like dancing around boom boom, and now I am dancing line no one’s watching boom, boom”

6.Smile – Just spend a few seconds smiling, and then I want you to give out a couple of big laughs (hahaha)

7.Get your Gift of a smile box, and make use of the items as you continue to feel good and smile


See you tomorrow and may the SMILE always be with you!

One Minute Smilence for Global Enterprise Week

Global Entrepreneurship Week is the world’s largest campaign to promote entrepreneurship. Each year, it plays a critical role in encouraging the next generation of entrepreneurs to consider starting up their own business – See more at: http://uk.gew.co/about#sthash.fHpHEbj8.dpuf



Take time out and do your One Minute Smilence to relieve stress and feel good.

 Happiness is not about permanent positivity or pretending things are fine. It’s about learning to cope well with whatever life throws at us.




Things you will need before you start the One Minute Smilence

You will need at least 5 minutes to do this as well as a blank paper plate or just plain paper, colouring pencils or markers. You also need something to time yourself for a minute.



Now you are ready

  1. Sit down in a quiet place and be thankful that you are alive and think of things that make you smile
  2. Get a paper plate and write down everything that makes you SMILE
  3. Use pictures and images to help with this
  4.  When you have finished, set your timer for a minute
  5. Now just spend a minute focussing on things that make you smile and keep smiling for a minute
  6. After the minute has gone – just shout excitedly “ WooHoo”
  7. You can also take a selfie and post on twitter with #gew #oneminutesmilence




If you need more help be to be more happier and confident, then contact me





Twitter – @confident _queen

Kindness Day UK 13th November



Kindness UK   http://kindnessuk.com/aboutus.php

Kindness Day UK, 13th November, was set up in 2010 and is celebrated across the UK every year. This day aims to increase the value of kindness in society as well as increase the amount of kind acts that take place nationwide, making kindness a greater part day to day life.



Kindness UK was founded by David Jamilly in 2011, who also founded the Good Deeds Organisation in 2007 and co-founded Kindness Day UK in 2010.




#Happiness Affirmations

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Use your imagination – Escape to Happiness Island and relieve stress



Some situations in our life can leave us overwhelmed, stressed, frustrated and live us with as sense of helplessness.

A few year’s ago, I went through a period of depression and loss of self esteem and confidence when I got divorced and within that same year I was made redundant, the house was due to be repossessed, I had two toddlers to look after and I was in so much debt and I really felt I was in s deep dark hole with no way of getting out.   After the initial shock and stress of the situation I found myself, I slowly found my self coming to terms with things, and got help from various organisations, my church, friends and family. I also attended training to be a life coach as well as reading various books on things like the Law of Attraction, Use of Affirmations and Visualisation to get what you want in life.

My friend had also given me a book called “You already have it” which being a speed reader, I was able to read within a day. As I sat down quietly one morning, somehow I came with the idea of Happiness Island.

What is Happiness Island

To me, Happiness Island is a place I can escape to using my creativity and imagination to experience things that I want to in my life.    Being in Happiness Island allows me to experience a life of limitless possibilities. So I now invite you to take an adventure with me.

Step 1

Decide on the best time of the day that you are usually quite and relaxed. (As for me, I am a morning person)   You then need to find somewhere quiet where you can clear your mind and focus.

Step 2

Take a deep breathe in, and then breathe out. Now say “ I am ready to experience happiness and joy”. Next spend a dew minutes just thinking about people and things right now in your life which you are grateful and thankful for, and then spend a minute as you recall happy moments and smile!! Smile because despite challenges you may be going through in life right now, you are alive, and once their is life, their is hope.

Spend some time and Imagine your own Happiness Island. What it would look like etc. Imagine that your Island has everything that you need right now. Spend some time on developing this. You could get a plain piece of paper and design this using word, drawing pictures or get pictures from magazines etc


Step 3

Now, focus your mind on God or whoever you see as your source of help. You then have to believe that all you need in all areas of your life has been provided and that you deserve good things to happen to you.

Step 4

Be specific and focus on just one particular goal that you want to achieve in your life right now, also think about why you want to achieve it, and how you will feel once you have achieved it. Then, trust, focus, believe and expect your goal to become a reality.

Step 5

Imagine now that you have achieved your goal and just spend time imagining and enjoying how you would be feeling and experiencing the things achieving this goal will allow you to do. Really enjoy yourself.

Step 6

Now spend time being thankful to God or the Universe or whoever you feel has helped you to achieve this particular goal.

Step 7

Imagine you are now leaving Happiness Island feeling Inspired, Energised and Happy, and as you leave you take one of my Gift of Happiness Box as in it, you will have:

Gift of Happiness Box from Confident Queen

Happiness Pledge – For you to pledge that you will devote time to develop your happiness, well being and inner peace.

Small mirror – to remind you that you are unique and special, an original and not a copy

Smiley face – to remind you to smile everyday

Affirmations – 7 happy affirmations that you can read and meditate on each day

Eraser – to remind you that we at times make mistake which we can rob out, learn from it and move on

Minature Trophy – to remind you that you are a champion, and that you will be celebrating your successes.

Happiness certificate – to remind you to spread the Happiness bug around

Jumbo Size Sun Glasses – which you can wear to have fun

Step 8

As you get back to the real world, do the things you know you have to do to achieve your goal. You can also email me to purchase one my Gift of Happiness Boxes at just with an encouraging message from me. Email confidentqueen61@gmail.com

Step 9

Try and get someone who you will be accountable to and will help you to continue to encourage and support you, if you live around Gravesend Kent, you can join us at our Happiness Project and together we will help each other to have many reasons to smile each day.

Fun Sunglasses – Gift of Happiness Box

One of the other tools we have in the gift of Happiness  box is this special  fun glasses check it out. As you put the sun glasses on, you’ve you gotta say to yourself “I am happy  and I’ve got many reasons to smile.


So glasses on, “I’m happy and have many reasons to smile” and keep smiling and be happy,



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